Recently a friend of mine starting talking about not fitting in. She is always depressed. I often hear about how suicide starts out and i am really worried. I dont want her to hate me but i still wondering what to do. I dont know if she is just going through a fase or if she really needs help. Please help me i am really worried about what to do.

Be gentle and tell her you will always love her and that you couldn't live without her. Tell her this and then ask her some questions!

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Like a lot of people have already said, be gentle. Don't force her to say anything that she doesn't want to say. I don't think serious depression is necessarily something that would lead to suicide. I have friends that are seriously depressed most of the time, but suicide is something they wouldn't do. I have dealt with suicidal friends however and the best thing to do is just listen. Don't scorn them for being suicidal, but love them for who they are. Some more signifcant signs are when they begin joking around about suicide or just slightly mentioning it or how no one would notice if they were gone. Its a bit frightening, but just be there for your friend. When things get extreme, get an adult in the situation

I tried to kill myself about 10 months ago. My best friend was talking with me online and ran from her house to stop me. She saved my life by putting herself in danger. If you think something is going on with your friend, let someone know now. Because it can only seem to be an instant when things go from bad to worse.

I have a couple friends who I think could possibly be diagnosed as clinically depressed (as I am). I certainly can recognize the signs and I know what its like for them. The hardest thing for me is I wanna help my friends so much but sometimes our help isn't enough. If you truly think your friend could possibly hurt herself, tell someone. I had to "tattle-tale" on a friend once and I'll admit, he was ticked off at the time but hey, it kept him alive and eventually he thanked for saving his life. Your friend may not be that far gone though. Just support her, talk to her, don't pressure her, be patient, and try to understand how she's feeling. It's not gonna be easy but if you truly care for your friend, you'll make it through.

i'd just like to let you know that i've thought about suicide many, many times, and i think that you should really try to help your friend. i always wanted someone to talk to, but when someone tried, i pulled away. i was ashamed of what i was feeling. i think that you should really try to talk to your friend, and be gentle at first. don't push her, otherwise she'll never talk to you (i know from experience) but if she's being unreasonable, get tough, and show here that in this conversation, you're in charge. not that you should say everything and tell her what to do, but sometimes we need a little guidence and we need to be nudged a little. and remember, getting through to your friend has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with being a true caring and compassionate friend. and if you have to get stern, remember to go back to being gentle once you get through. if she's suicidal, she'll probably feel like a lost 2 yr old with no one to talk to. and one more thing: people always hurt the most the ones they love the most.valentinebaby21489@hotmail.com

Hey I know what you mean. I considered suicide once, it was kind of out of desperation. One thing I do know most people who commit suicide at least theones i know who have tried don't feel loved or noticed, maybe you should just hang out with her more.

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Thanks so much for your help!!! Maybe we can talk sometime. Do u have any messengers?

Well, all you can do is be nice to her and let her know that you think she fits in fine. She might be Ok after a while. Something might be going on with her that is to personal to tell anyone I know it must be confusing and frustrating for you, but there is not much more you can do. That was very thoughtful of you to talk to her, even if she is keeping something from you [and everyone else] at least she can know that you are concerned for her. Just hang in there for her.

I tried to talk to her but she just said that she was fine and that i shouldnt worry about her. I am worried though.

I wouldn't walk up to your friend and say "Are you thinking about commiting suicide?". That would not be a good aproach, instead just ask her to come over one day or ask her if somethings bothering her. If she feels like she doesn't fit in, is there some little thing maybe you are doing, that kind of leaves her out? She might just be having a hard time or going through a stage, or she might be suicidal. Just be the best friend you can be.