heres my story, i was molested when i was 5 - 8 years i think. then i moved to america. well now i'm 15 i dont know if i should tell my parents or not, because that person who took away my innocence is my mother's brother. My mother is already really sick and i don't wanna worrie her even more. my father would probalbly kill him and probably stop talking to me and my mother.

when i was young he told me not to tell anyone. and i had been taught to respect adults. so i didn't tell anyone. i didn't even know what was happening to me until i came here and when i was 10 i found out that what he did to me was wrong.
when ever the memories come back i always wish i could just shoot my self in the head and kill my self at the least i won't have to remember it.
I'm still very confused Should i tell my parents or just forget about it.

i do want to tell my parents and get revenge on him, somehow. He getting married now in october.


please tell me what i should do

hmm...i...dont know. i think that you should tell yer parents..but wait until the time is right and until your mother gets better.(i think itd be a good idea to tell his fiance)

What do you mean by "molested"? Is it just touching or more? I don't know, only you can tell yourself what to do. I guess it really depends how much it bugs you. When I was about 8 someone did touch me in the wrong way, but the thing is I never had to face the person again so it's easier. At that time I knew it was wrong, but I didn't want to assume. I thought maybe it was jsut an accident. The scenario: I was going horseback riding with some cousins. My mom had me have a guide and he rode on back. He was holding on to the bridle to guide the horse and placed his hands by my chest. Next thing I know he was cupping my breasts (I'm on the heavy side, so at 8 I was already well endowed.) and i noticed he only did this when we were by the tall grass. I felt like crying especially everytime I'd meet my sister and cousins on the way. They were all on a carriage. End of story. Three years later I told my brother. It just felt good getting it out of my chest. It doesn't bug me the slightest bit now.

It's different for you becuase the guy that did it is family. I guess, it depends on what you want to get out of the situation. Is it revenge? or do you just want to get over it? Personally, all I'd want is the personal satisfaction of going up to him and telling him, "I know what you did to me when I was younger. You better not lay a finger on anyone else or I'm telling everyone including your wife."- or soemthing of that sort. He'd be so embarassed.

But really never ask people what you should do, but rather ask their views. You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.