This is a big issue amongst my family. My cousin did it. And now I want to do it but, dear goodness, my mother flips out at the thought of it. She actually gets so angry she won't stop talking for hours. What do you think about interracial dating? I don't mind it. I see nothing wrong with it. My mum thinks that the only reason why a black guy/girl wants to date a white girl/guy is because it will 'raise their status amongst themselves' and that it will totally destroy the white child's image and reputation. I don't believe that. What do you think?

you know what..love is blind.

My opinion is that there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. Why should it matter to someone else who you choose to date or marry? I mean if they aren't the ones doing it why should they even care? I don't see why skin color should be an issue in dating. Interracial relationships can be more difficult than others simply because there may be cultural differences but its nothing you can't work out if you want to. Being in an interracial relationship allows you to experience another culture. I love seeing interracial couples.. it gives me hope that one day we'll do away with all the racial stereotypes.

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Originally posted by 2glz1boy:
You cant help who you fall in love with, love is color blind, thank goodness, now if only society was.

you put it oh so nicely

you should be allowed to date who you want and be with who you want (well, unless they're married to someone else). It doesn't matter what race, what sex, what religion, background, anything, as long as you love them.

Anyone who says people date other people just for raise in status, well, it can happen, but it doesn't mean that's the only reason any black people do it! And the lowering in the status of the white person when they date blacks is just racist.

You make your own decisions. You don't need you mother making them for you. If your parents don't agree, (i hate to say this) but if you really love the person, do it behind their backs.

Anyway. You're your one person. Do what you want.

I am 100% for interracial dating. I think that loving someone shouldn't be limited by the color of your skin.

Yeah, tell your mother to get out of the sixties.
You are your own person. Although your mother seems to think she owns you and that she is better than blacks?Asians/whatever, she is wrong. Date who u want to date.

a couple words

tell your mother its the 21st century and that she is silly.

I don't see what's the big deal. Seriously.
I mean, two different races in a relationship...I don't get it. I've no problem with it.

My mom has always said that you can't help who you fall in love with. I agree with her 100%. I dated a guy who was half black and half white. The worst thing I had ever done. Not because of his race, but because he was a jerk. So if you fall for someone of a different race, go for it. The worst that can happen is that you realize that they are not right for you.

yeah throwing in my two cents even though i agree with everyone else :P. if your mom is still going to chuck a tantie at you, well, that's her problem. it's your life, and you can't help who you love. if she's still going to be a racist towards you and your partner, then that's just her being narrowminded. personally, my dad won't let me date (at all) so every relationship, including the current one, has been done behind his back. hey, they set the rules that are unreasonable. and that's what your mom's doing. she's setting boundaries on who you're allowed to love, based on her own prejudices. do your own thing, and as long as you don't regret it, she should come around. if not, meh. she's your mother, not you, and she shouldn't be the one to control your life and your decisions.

I totally disagree with how your mother feels, but as 2glz1boy has said you can't help who you fall in love with. But, however you must examine yourself to see what your real reasons are for doing so are. For example it seems that you do want to be in an interracial relationship, but the way you wrote it out made it seem like you were doing it just because someone in your family did, or just to spite you mom. Don't get me wrong, I fully believe in interracial relationships cause well that's what I want. Not to do it because of what others think, but because I feel comfortable with it. I always say that if you limit yourself to only one perspective( or race) you will never experience the gift that someone else can give you.
So girl, do your thing, just make sure it's for the right reasons, and never regret your decisions>

You cant help who you fall in love with, love is color blind, thank goodness, now if only society was.

my sisterdates outside of our race, and my mom also has a problem with it...
my opinion?

she is my SISTER
am I to think differently of her because of who she dates?
it doesnt change the person i grew up with, nor the person shes become so what does it REALLY matter?


people date people because of a connection they might feel


but then again you still have those poorly motivated people who in fact, might date a different race for the advantages it has to offer...
or even just to make some kind of a statement...or to push peoples buttons?


there are many reasons why people do the things they do
and it doesnt change the end result


so what difference does it make?

Not at all. I think nothing of it to be honest. People date who they are interested in and not based on color or religion or what they wear. I mean your mother may have a point, but she describes only a very minimal array of people. Let's look at the big picture, you date who you are attracted to, don't let anyone, not even those who are close to you discriminate against the ones you love. I mean honestly I think that's like saying "honey you can't date that boy because he's wears tennis shoes, he's just a freak." You think that sounds silly, well to me that's how people sound when trying to justify their racism.

I don't think there is anything wroung with it. I think you should go with how you feel. Your mom needs to have more of an open mind. Tell her to stop living in the past you know? Love is love.People are people.

When you love someone, I don't think the color of their skin should matter. They're still people.

i see nohing wrong with interracial dating.It's normal and fine. i don't get why people get up in arms about it.all people are people no matter what race or ethnic beliefs

I think there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. Yes you should respect your mom, but I feel if that what makes you happy, then you should go for it. I am African American and Im about to get married to a guy who is white.