Sorry I'm posting so much.
Anywayz, is there a lot of Homophobia in your school? If so, how do you handle it? In my school, there is a GOOD amount of homophobia except most people don't even KNOW they're being homophobic. There's this one girl in my English class who I overheard saying ..."Yeah, if you're gay, you'll get HIV or AIDs. Being gay is a sin. Being gay is gross." She might as well should have just said "I hate gay people." People like that make me mad but at the same time make me want to cry. It's not like I CHOSE to be a lesbian. I want to be able to get married, have my rights be protected, not have to pay extra taxes, not be discriminated against and not be afraid to kiss my girlfriend in public if I feel like it.
Well, thanks for listening.

i hate to disappoint you but i think everyone to some extent is bi or else is willing to do sexual things with members of the same sex. i dislike those who confuse that willingness with genuine attraction towards the same sex.

as i said before there are multiple levels of homo/hetero sexualness (is that even a word)

i don't know about you're school but when i was in highschool there were about 30 girls going around and saying that they are bi when in reality they weren't.

lol you called me judgemental.

lol i like ladies. i'm weird though. i don't do stuff much with the ladies but i like looking. so i'm a lesbian fantasizer but i would never want to be with a girl. so does that mean i'm bi? no it just means my sexuality is different than others, just like everyone elses. it is ridiculous to use words like gay straight and bi because as i said before (and i do hate repeating myself) there are many varying degrees of sexuality.


dumb hos. lol (not directed to anyone in thread just in general to entire world population)

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Originally posted by supersmartie3:
And just because you there are girls who are really fickle and say they are bi for attention doesn't mean you should say all bi girls or guys are "claiming" they are bi for attention.

That's not how I read the post. To me it looked more like "you're either this OR you're this. Not "all people who say they're bi are attentions seeking sluts."

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Originally posted by Wolfie:
i bet you're bi.

or else you're one of the little sluts that says they're bi for attention. lol (not being mean, just being silly)

Saying "you don't know what they're going through" isn't being judgemental, it's being honest because you nor i have any idea what's going on in their head, what conflicts they face internally each day.
and what if i am bi? are you going to immediately write me off as one of those "little sluts that says they're bi for attention?"
You really need to pay attention to how you word things because what you say can really hurt someone. That's how hate is spread throughout the world. Now, I'm not saying that you are spreading hate, but the way you are saying it sounds hateful.
And just because you there are girls who are really fickle and say they are bi for attention doesn't mean you should say all bi girls or bi guys are "claiming" they are bi for attention.
And for your information, I am bi. And everyday for 3 years, I woke up wishing i wasn't. I had battled suicidal thoughts for years and had only recently gotten the strength to accept myself for who i am. I'm not saying this to give you my sob story, but to tell you that there even though there are people who claim that they are bi for attention, there are more who don't.

i bet you're bi.

or else you're one of the little sluts that says they're bi for attention. lol (not being mean, just being silly)

most people aren't just gay bi or straight. they're are varying levels. some girls would much rather be with a guy but don't care if they do stuff will girls and they same can be true for guys.

i just couldn't stand the little whores saying "i'm soooo bi. i would do stuff with another girl." they do this for more attention. it is obvious.

and how do you know i don't know "what they're going through"

isn't that being judgemental?

not everyone says they're bi for attention.
There are always people who are going to do that, but don't generalize all young people who say they are bi and say they are just making it up.
That's being really judgemental because you have no idea what any one of them is going through.

you know what i noticed as a trend in my school and across america?

all these little 15-16 year-old girls saying they're bi.

they do it for attention lol.

Homophobia is actually not present at my high school.
If someone was homophobic at my school, they are actually kind of ignored.
A good chunk (like 16%) of my 10th grade class is bisexual or gay.
Of course when same-sex couples came "out" People were set aback, but they eventually got used to it. I found it beautiful and inspiring to see people who disagreed with homosexuality encourage the couples and aplaud their bravery for coming out. If a high school in Texas, one of the most christian based states, can do it, why can't we all?

Homophobia is very present at my school. My school has 350 students and I'm the most diverse in my school because I'm the only Asian within a 5 year radius. That's how small-town we are. But there is no gay-straight alliance because we don't have enough "out" homosexuals to form an alliance. "Fag" "dyke" and "homo" is just thrown around to talk about someone one doesn't like. It's annoying. I've tried stopping it, but it usually doesn't help.

In my current events class last year, my very liberal teacher brought up Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Then some kid said "I'm joining the marines and there better not be any fags. They'll get shot by their own side." I'm like "You're an asshole. He's fighting for the same reason you are, for his nation, for his home. Leave your homophobia out of what is supposed to be your nationalism." And my teacher was like "Look, ya got Amanda revved up." Then some other kid said "Gays shouldn't even be on sports teams. I don't want them lookin' at me in the locker room!" That set me off completely, I got a bad rep in that class for arguing so much, but I'm glad I did. I said flat out, "Oh please, don't flatter yourself. Just because you think you're hot doesn't mean a gay guy will check you out. Lower your ego and maybe you'll see how idiotic you are." My teacher was dying laughing because he just let us argue and everything that kid said, I'd shoot down. After that day, no one said homophobic comments in front of me, but a lot of them thought I was gay after. I didn't bother to argue, they can think what they want.

All my friends say it's not wrong, but it makes them very uncomfortable. They make fun of it on certain levels, but try not to. It's just that they're not used to it, it's not a common thing to them since they were raised by small-town families with an amount of small-mindedness. But after my Current Events outburst, and I had joked that a lot of people think I'm gay, they would laugh, but one of my friends said "If you were though, I wouldn't have a problem with it." I think they would just require time. I think that's a lot of people's cases. My father is quite homophobic and his brother is gay. My dad said it's "Not normal" and I argued with him, but I told my brother about how stupid dad is for thinking that. My brother told me that if me or him or my other brother were gay, my dad would eventually get over it. He says my dad's love for us surpasses the unfamiliarity and discomfort of sexual orientation, and I like to see the hope that maybe that's just the case for some people.

I believe homosexuality is another individuality that makes this world so unique... how can you say homosexuals are wrong.. or that they are 'messed up'.. is it our right to discriminate against them.. its not my right i know that.. it would be like saying black people are messed up or that catholics have something wrong with them. Discriminating agaist the gay society will not get us anywhere.. why not embrace our cultural diversity, and live with the fact that we can't put an end to homosexuality.

yeah, i agree w/ speakout3. i've lost all respect and dignity for people who feel that gay people are lesser people. joking around like that is NOT cool! and using the word gay as lame gets kind of annoying too lol. but, well, i don't have a lot of problems w/ homophobia in my school but then again i go to school in CA and even better Oakland lol. so, it's pretty easy for me...but, i know how you feel because i still have to be careful out here and it's not easy.

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I really have no respect for people who joke like that. we had people join day of silence just because they didn't want to have to talk in class.....that's just lame.

It's somewhat present in my school. We had Ally week for our GSA club and alot of people signed up. But most of the guys that signed up kinda did it for the fun of it. They thought it was some joke. I told them they need to get over themselves.

Homophobia is very present in my school. Sometimes I feel like one of the few who actually speaks out when I hear someone saying "you're such a faggot." Which is hard because I then get ridiculed. I have been called a lesbian my whole life even though I'm totally straight. Untill recently I had stopped dealing with the homophobes in my school. But I think it's time for a change don't you? We have the right to feel safe in our schools don't we? Then why don't the teachers do anything? The tolerance has been spread like wildfir though. We have a couple openly gay couples but the main one graduated. anyway, that's just my two cents.

I come from a small farming town in North Carolina.

I think that answers the question, "Is homophobia present in your school?"

Yes. I hear comments all the time. "That's gay," is incredibly common and I have even caught myself using it simply out of hearing it constantly.

However, it seems that being gay is starting to be more accepted. There is a handful of "out" kids. Boys in band are now very comfortable around each other (hugging, etc.). Though homophobia is still VERY present, it seems to have come down from "ridiculously high" to "pretty darn high" which is a step in the right direction, I say.

Well, I go to a small Christian school on Long Island, so yeah, there's a lot of that going around. Even though I am Christian, I'm almost 100% positive that I'm the only non-homophobic person there. Ignorant fools. I want to leave badly, but there aren't any good schools in my area. I hate it there. Really.

Homphobia is for idiots. May everyone in my school die.

There is without a doubt a lot of homophobia in my school. I could be sitting on one of my girlfriends(just friends) lap and people would walk by us saying stupid things. There is a guy named eddie that goes to my school and he is on the dance team. (very very good by the way) One day when i was waiting after school to be picked up i saw him walk pass me and a bunch of other people and they were making fun of him calling him a faget and all that. I just wanted to stand up for him. At least he is completelty open with his sexuality. Me on the other hand is peaking out of the door. All my friends know that I am bi. I would come out to everybody but I have 4 cousins going to my school and I don't want them to know that I am bi. Unfortunalty the one that was calling eddie a faget was one of my cousins.

My school is ridicously homophobic. My math class is especially bad, or at least that's more apparent as my teacher gets pi$$ed when people start going off about how much they hate gays and such, and then I'll generally tell them off, get screamed at, and the class explodes. It wouldn't be as bad, but every time I try to make a point, a couple people will freak out and start shouting "Why the hell are you talking to us? Shut up!" This is like an automatic reaction from people.

The basic connotation of a homophobe is someone that hates, is afraid of, or is otherwise generally discriminatory to homosexuals.

I listened to a conversation two members of my school's show band were having. One of these guys was gay (we'll call him Bob) and the straight guy we'll call Joe.

Joe: **** are so dumb, they're going straight to hell where they belong.

Bob: Are you a homophobe, Joe?

Joe: No, I'm not afraid of anyone. A phobia is a fear.

Bob: Oh, so then you just HATE them?

I would just like to point out that the term "homophobia" is tossed around alot when people oppose gay marriage etc. The definition below is incomplete in that it leaves out the part of "phobia" that is irrational. Homophobia would be the IRRATIONAL fear of homosexuals, much like Arachnaphobia is an irrational fear of spiders. To be against gay marriage because you are religiously, socially, or morally opposed does not make you a homophobe. If, on the other hand, you find yourself getting nervous when a homosexual is around or you have no reason yet you oppose homosexuality, THAT would make you a homophobe.