People just keep pushing me closer to my limit. And it doesn't help when they keep giving me the same lame advice. Everytime I say, "I hate my life" (Which is dumb and I shouldn't do it around normal people anymore), I get the same classic dumbshit response, "Change your life". It literally makes me want to reach out a strangle someone. THAT WON'T DO ANYTHING IDIOTS. A really smart guy in a Myspace group, summed it up damn near perfectly:

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Sure, changing life is a great idea, but it's not like you can just hop on down to the general store and pick up the Delux Super Awesome Fun version of life. Little changes require a lot of work, and while we really have no choice but to try and make those little changes to try and improve life, even just a little bit, those Barney humping mother fuckers talk like it's the easiest thing in the world to just turn down the suck knob and all of a sudden totally fall in love with life. WRONG! Doesn't work that way. It's a long and labour intensive process, and it's not helped by people jamming rainbows and care bear moonbeams into your eyeballs while screaming about how it's all your own fault.

And instead of trying to help by following their own suggestions and trying to help us find something worthy in our lives to change, we get the whole "Well it's your fault your life sucks so just change it you lazy idiot." speech. Hey, I have a better idea: Shut up and go fuck yourselves.

I'm sorry, but that's just one of those things you do not say to people with depression. And it seems like depression is one of those illnesses, like alcoholism or drug addiction, that you get blamed for having. Maybe it's because it's something you can't see, therefore you feel like it's appropriate shit all over us and give us "tough love", as if that will motivate us to get better. Change my life? Yeah, that makes me feel worlds better. I can change my life all the time until the cows come home, but I'll still suffer from agonizing sadness. That's like telling someone with poor body image to get plastic surgery. They may look different on the outside, but they're still the same inside.

I have made significant changes in my life. I went to college, when I wanted to stay home and rot. I stopped talking low, like I did throughout middle and high school, because I was scared to socialize with people. I checked myself into a mental hospital. I lost a lot of weight. I excerise almost everyday. I eat better. AND I'M STILL FUCKING DEPRESSED AS ALL FUCK. It's fucking sad and SICK to get my hopes up, only for me to realize the hard way that changing my life does not work and was a big fucking waste of my time and money. Find something better and less stupid to say if you feel like being a therapist, assholes.

Please don't make light of someone's problems. Cutting can be a serious and devastating addiction even if, by all apperances, it's for attention.

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Best. Pun. Ever.

cmon, he/she asked for it, look at his/her profile

oh, and lest we forget...

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I don't want to hear what you have to say.

looks like someone needs attention...

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Originally posted by speed:

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I cut myself

how deep

Best. Pun. Ever.

I almost mistook that for sarcasm. Unless it was...

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I cut myself

how deep

I used to say I hate myself,my life all the time.I hate when people feel like they have to say something.I cut myself.I don't want to hear what you have to say.

When depressions collide with anti-depressions they are mutually annihilated, leaving only trace quantities of emons.

Depression isnt something that you can blame yourself for. Its a disease of the mind that makes the brain produce too many chemicals that make you sad. Its not your fault. Sometimes anti-depressions help with it. But if you hate your life then get away from it. I hated my life then I found the cause of all the hate and got rid of that. You cant just change your life expecting it to be better, its a gradual process that you have to work at. And if you still feel depressed, and hate your life then maybe its a chemical disorder in your mind that can be very easily cured with medication from your doctor.
Im sorry you hate your life. I know its hard at times but stay strong. It might get better soon.

Yeah what she said.

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For fucks sake, you make depression sound like an unescapable black hole...

Well, it does feel that way sometimes. Depression makes you want to just give up. It's good if you even want to try.

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I excerise almost everyday. I eat better. AND I'M STILL FUCKING DEPRESSED AS ALL FUCK. It's fucking sad and SICK to get my hopes up, only for me to realize the hard way that changing my life does not work and was a big fucking waste of my time and money. Find something better and less stupid to say if you feel like being a therapist, assholes.

Well then stop fucking trying to fight it and give the fuck up.
Instead of following advice or ranting at people that give it to you just force yourself to do whatever you know needs to be done. It's there, and as long as it stays there you're not going to get anything from fighting it (atleast if that's your perspective), so just try to cope with it and lead your life as best you can. For fucks sake, you make depression sound like an unescapable black hole... If you really believe what you said then don't do anything about it at all, I mean, doing something is just pointless isn't it? because it's so huge and ominous there's no way anything can be done to make things better can there?

You see what I mean? You don't need anyone else to put you down because you just did it yourself, read over your post and it's obvious.

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precisely because they aren't therapists and they know it.

TAKE LITHIUM PILLS. A lack of lithium prevents your brain from producing certain chemicals which in turn contribute to furthering depression and apathy. Eat sugar, it gives the momentary buzz needed to produce endorfines and adrenalin which will make you feel better. Be active, and this doesn't necesarily mean sports, sports can be monotonous, keepinf your body active and not your mind doesn't cut it. Try playing chess, concentration and mental effort helps. Sports-wise I'd recomend rugby, it brings out the violent instincts, is physically great, and when you get int he shower after the game you feel amazing even though your whole body hurts. No joke, try it.

You can now call me an asshole, It wont bother me, that's just my opinion.

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It's not the fact that they're being unspecific that bothers me, it's that they're acting like I'm not trying to be happier when I'm trying so hard everyday.

Yeah. It's like people don't think you're trying, but they don't know it's not that easy. Just because you're trying doesn't mean you're better right away.

It's not the fact that they're being unspecific that bothers me, it's that they're acting like I'm not trying to be happier when I'm trying so hard everyday. Most of the times I've tried to kill myself was after people said things like that and made me feel as it is my fault.

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I hate it when people are vague, because then I wonder what the hell I have to do instead of having a specific answer to work with.

Yeah...If someone isn't specific it just ends up making me feel more inadequate and screwed up than I did before.

I avoid saying statements like "I hate ___" because I always am psycho-analyzed afterwards by someone who is likely an idiot on said subject.

Well it's your fault your life sucks so just change it you lazy idiot.

But seriously, I agree with EG, but I think I would prefer someone be specific, because then it gives me the opportunity to look at an aspect of my life objectively to see if I really do have a problem there or not. If I don't, I know it, and continue as if it had not happened. I hate it when people are vague, because then I wonder what the hell I have to do instead of having a specific answer to work with.

-Jenos

You know, you'd probably hate people more if they actually did give you suggestions about what to change. The reason people say "Just change something" is precisely because they aren't therapists and they know it. They don't know what exactly needs changing; all they see is that something does. Most people are smart enough to realize that only you can see what in your life needs to be changed, so they just say something vague and general to seem as if they're helping because they can't actually help.

Seriously, though. Which would you rather have: the generalized "you should change your life" speech, or the specific "you should do this, this, and this exactly how I say because I think I know what your problems are and how to fix them" speech?

I'd personally rather someone be vague and unhelpful than have them focus on what they think my problems are, especially since they'll probably be wrong.