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Registered: May 04, 2007
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My parents never had a good relationship and were always like strangers to each other. So when they divorced, an event that had no effect on me what so ever, my dad moved in with my paternal grandma who lived two biuldings away. In secret5, while traveling back and forth to my home country, he married and had a baby with a past flare. Financially unstable, and not wanting to leave me and the rest of the family to go and live with my stepmom and stepsis, he stayed here and told me 2 weeks ago. Then, in secret as well, my aunt told he had a baby as well, and I couldn't be anymore happier for my dad than I could've possibly been. When my mom heard, who never really loved my father deeply and truly, found out, she became enraged and spent the whole night crying and smashing glass pictures and screaming at my dad at my grandma's house, while my grandprents and aunt are on a cruise. She left and spent the night on her job, us not knwing where she was until she came home at seven o'clock in the morning. She belives that since my grandparents and my aunt didn't tell her, she hates them and it aggravates her that they are so close always trying to tell her what to do. The plan was actually for me to finish high school and move for out-of-state uunversity or college. Now, my mom wants to move to another city this year in our county, and if things worsen, out of the state, forcing me leave my grandparents who have been like my parents ever since I was born and my aunt, who only 15 years older than me, if like the big sister I never had. I don't what I will do if I have to leave this early in my life. The problem is that I feel like everything's my fault because I was then one who told my mom that dad remarried and then told my blabber-mouth maternal grandma that he has aanother child. My mother suspected it and i couldn't lie, because she knows when I'm lying and she was gonna find out on Saturday any way. Also, she left my grandparents a message saying that they are dead to her and me and they called me back during their cruise asking me to explain. Not wanting to upset htem comletely i lied and told them that we can worry about it when we arrive. However, I know that my grandmother will call my dad and everything will fall apart. And so, my dad is suicidal, my mom is enraged and hurt and she belives that my grandparents, aunt and dad won't lov me the same anymore when my stepmom and her child come to live here. When my mom escaped yesterday, so did i and i stoped to sit in a picnic area and began to write poetry. There was a pool in front of me i thought of drowining myself. I don't wanna know what's gonna happen when my grandparents and aunt come from the cruise and I don't want to. Because it's my fault, everyone is goung to abandon me and I'll be alone in a foster home. Please God give strength and courage to endure and overcome this. Please give advice if you can help. Any comment or message is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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Registered: May 07, 2003
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I know how the whole family thing goes. Please know that, despite whatever your parents make it out to be, none of this is really your fault. It really all stems from your parents' relationship (or lack there of). I know they say divorce is only between two people it really doesn't hold true and the kids often get caught in the crossfire.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Please take care of yourself.


"Never doubt that a small group of committed people can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has." --Margaret Mead
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Registered: May 04, 2007
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Gosh, thanks I didn't think anyone would even reply, but no my mom doesn't love my dad anymore, she didn't love him even when they got married, she said she "liked" him.
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Registered: September 01, 2006
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girl, relax and dont go ahead and do anything dump. it is not ur fault. your dad knew that ur mom was goin to get mad that is y he did it behind her back and he only told u and not her. and ur mom still loves ur dad that is why she is so mad. also she is mad at the fact that he has moved on. so just chill everything will work itself out.


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