Some of my friends are angry at me on the basis that I don't reveal enough information about myself and this shows I don't care about them. They pay no attention to the reason for this, which is that I'm too busy listening to them go on about themselves and don't get time to volunteer anything other than more questions about whatever they have directed the conversation to. In case you're wondering, I'm ok not being the center of attention with them because I get that enough at work from being the boss, so this isn't an issue. I'm just really confused by the fact that they are angry at me for trying so hard to make them happy. Is there any way to fix this without them deciding I don't care about them because I'm not paying enough attention to what they have to say?

Being a listener is not a bad thing. However, if your so-called friends take offense that you listen to their problems, I suggest you find new ones. How does not revealing things about yourself show that you don't care about them? Isn't it enough that you listen to them?

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Originally posted by Barkid:
Socrates:
It sounds to me like you have the perfect qualities of a bartender, if you are appealing to the opposite sex and able to hold your liqour I suggest you get a bartending job when you turn 21, or a barback job at 19. Good luck.

lol

Socrates:
It sounds to me like you have the perfect qualities of a bartender, if you are appealing to the opposite sex and able to hold your liqour I suggest you get a bartending job when you turn 21, or a barback job at 19. Good luck.

I hear you here, I used to be one of those people myself. Eventually, like you, my friends wanted to hear me out and since I had never really had to share anything, it was a bit difficult. But they are your friends and they care, so they will understand anything that you say to them. They just want to know that your doing OK and know more about you, and to know that you can be open with them. It's just important to your friends that you can confide in them as they confide in you.

sounds like my friends, except that we try to be 50/50 and I am not exactly an open person. I am trying to be, but I am used to listening or ignoring, not talking. Just try being open once in awhile and maybe they be content.

I know exactly what u are talking about . In fact its freaky . The reason im on the net and not with my friends right now is because i fought with them supposedly because i dont tell tham anything . Yaah well bite me but im really not the type to get over absolutely everything that happened in my life . Besides they always hear what i say but they never listen .
From personal experience there is nothing you can do about it . In fact if you start talking they may not like you as much as they do now . Everybody has a role you know , my friends talk and I listen thats because they like talking and i dont mind listening . Yaah once in awhile they realize that and get mad at me . But they get over it.