I have a question for everyone on here: My cousin molested me right...me and him used to be really close...and then he pulled this crap
Everyone already knows...but my therapist wants me to press charges..I dont feel comfortable doing that because he's my cousin and all help me please!

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Originally posted by freedomordeath:
You completely deserve it, it was my mistake. I wanted to thank Hydrok for making me aware of that. (I haven't been too great about social ethics lately, so I'm sorry.)

Well you shouldn't blame yourself, in anyway. Being emotional is the body's natural response to traumatic occurrences.

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Your welcome

You completely deserve it, it was my mistake. I wanted to thank Hydrok for making me aware of that. (I haven't been too great about social ethics lately, so I'm sorry.)

Well you shouldn't blame yourself, in anyway. Being emotional is the body's natural response to traumatic occurrences.

thanks for apologizing freedomordeath. I dont think I'll take this post off. I was just being to emotional. I made myself feel stupid...

I know, I apologize for using the wrong language. With all of the feelings from my heart, I sincerely apologize Softballchica08.

I'm sticking with Hydrok's post: You should do whatever makes you feel better in the long run.

And don't regret posting this. If you seriously do, just change your name. It's pretty much that easy.

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Screw the fact that he's your cousin, HE WAS FEELING YOU UP.

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-abomination

Thank you! You just made me see the light sorta...I never heard someone say that so bluntly...maybe I will press charges...Thank you abomination!

Dude. You just made me sign up an account here.

I'm going to frank. PRESS CHARGES. Chances are, you let him get away with this, he'll do it again. His relationship to you isn't what matters, it's what he did to you that does. Screw the fact that he's your cousin, HE WAS FEELING YOU UP.

It does not matter what type of case it's going to turn out to be or how your relationship with him will be affected...there is just some basic **** you don't tolerate, and this falls in that category.

Obviously you make the decision. But I honestly do not see why you don't...a person who escapes such a crime usually doesn't stop...it just tells him he can possibly get away with doing it again or commiting something worse.

Please, press charges. Pronto.

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Originally posted by Softball_chica08:
yup! Thats one thing that made me feel stupid. By having freedomordeath asking if it was persoanl gratification...I just wish it didnt happen. I want to stop thinking about it. And where I'm at right now, my cousins not getting in trouble for anything. which is complete bull. So I thougt pressing charges would help..but I dont want to cause he's my cousin...Is that so stupid?

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Not at all... I understand the fact that you want it all to go away... but I'm sorry to say that this is something your going to live with for a long time... My advice to you is to sit and think for a long time about which path is going to make you feel the best in the long run.

yup! Thats one thing that made me feel stupid. By having freedomordeath asking if it was persoanl gratification...I just wish it didnt happen. I want to stop thinking about it. And where I'm at right now, my cousins not getting in trouble for anything. which is complete bull. So I thougt pressing charges would help..but I dont want to cause he's my cousin...Is that so stupid?

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Originally posted by freedomordeath:
That is something to discuss with your therapist if you haven't yet. And I am sorry to say, but I personally think a sexual assault case wouldn't work out, though a child molestation case probably would. Still, I don't know about what type of personal gratification you're trying to get from this.

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personal GRATIFICATION? excuse me sir, but I believe the operative word here is closure.

how do u delete your own post? I made this discussion and I want it gone...I feel stupid telling people this stuff about me...i shouldn't have brought it up...how do u delete?

That is something to discuss with your therapist if you haven't yet. And I am sorry to say, but I personally think a sexual assault case wouldn't work out, though a child molestation case probably would. Still, I don't know about what type of personal gratification you're trying to get from this.

ok, but the thing is i never said stop...I acted like I was asleep and moved around a lot..thinking maybe he'd stop...he never did...

If there was contact, I would press charges. Especially if I told them to stop it. Because then it becomes assault.

no there wasnt...just heavy touching to my bare skin...and not to be gross but like I have D's or whatever so that makes me REALLY uncomfortable...and he went down my pants and ahit...

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Originally posted by Softball_chica08:
I have a question for everyone on here: My cousin molested me right...me and him used to be really close...and then he pulled this crap
Everyone already knows...but my therapist wants me to press charges..I dont feel comfortable doing that because he's my cousin and all help me please!

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that sux 4 u

Was there penetration? You do not have to answer that question, but if there was, I would strongly recommend pressing charges. Even though he was not 16 (or is it 18?), it was still wrong, whatever it was he did.

freedomordeath, I'm 14, and my cousin is 15...I was sleeping while he did it too...and then i woke up but he didnt know...its all realyl complicated

You might want to call a lawyer and know what kind of compromise you could make. Pressing charges is completely up to you. If it really impacted you in a negative way, you should. But like I said, it is up to you. And how old are th eboth of you, anyway?