Totally. If the people involved are mature enough to know boundaries. And duh, not every guy you meet, you'll be attracted to.

One my best friends is a guy, and I normally go to him first before any of my girlfriends. Like most things in like, it depends on the people involved.

ummm... i have trouble being BEST friends w/ guyz, i can be friends... then the second step about taking if further comes in. well i went out w/ this guy and then we became BEST friends, where we always hung out, talk ALOT on the phone, parents knew each other, and then once we got in to Jr. High, he was so involved w/ girls and stuff that he forgot about me. and he never returned my calls so i cussed him out on myspace 2 years later he finlay said why the heck did u do that, whats your problem, and omg ur such a drama queen. so now i give him dirty looks wen we pass each other at school. and now im not associated w/ him.

Totally. I have a friend, and her best friend is a dude, he's like a brother. One of my best friends is a dude too, and while I'll admit, I do have some feelings for him, that doesn't really matter. Being around him makes me happy, and being around me makes him happy, other than that, we'll see.

Yeah! You just don't feel attractive towards the opposite sex which equals friendship.

I know you can. That's how it is with me right now and like a million other guys. I have this one friend, Jake, and he's hotter than the devil, but I'd never think about him like...crush wise. He's just a friend. So is Jeff and Nik and Peter and Hayden and...

you get the picture?

Yeah. But I don't have many people that I would call true friends, though there are several people I like and I get along with almost everyone. So there are three guys and two girls in my life with whom I can share everything.

Oh, and it's also entirely possible to be really close friends with an ex after you've broken up, even after both of you have someone new. It's actually really nice...and in some ways better than other friendships.

Yes, of-course they can be. A bigger amount of my friends are guys. Guys can just be easier to talk to, and they are more easy going at times.

Girls and guys can be friends but alot of people will make seccond comments and you might deside on taking it one step fword but i will tell you from past experances you dont want to

Euterpe, what's going on? Long Time no see.

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And, that's not to say it doesn't go both ways. Plenty of women are uninterested in relationships as well. And, of course, there are always men interested in relationships.

I totally agree, that's why i can't judge them

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About your ex, at least you'll be better prepared for your next relationship. What doesn't kill ya, makes you stronger.

Ya, but he really hurt me so i'm going to stay low for awhile.

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But why are they not interested in a relatinship?

::Shrugs.:: Biology. Men spread seed. That's what they've done for thousands of years. Whether they were at war or out working, men weren't around unless they were makin' babies and the like, so women had the baby-makin' as their emotional connection. Hence why women, in general, equate sex with love.

And, that's not to say it doesn't go both ways. Plenty of women are uninterested in relationships as well. And, of course, there are always men interested in relationships.

About your ex, at least you'll be better prepared for your next relationship. What doesn't kill ya, makes you stronger.

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Lol, then your ex WAS a jerk. No bones about it.

Yea, it took me awhile to realize he was..

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It's safe to say that you have to assume that and be proven wrong. In general, men aren't interested in relationships. You just have to be very careful.

But why are they not interested in a relatinship?

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And basically, it's hard for any hormonal teenager to stay friends with someone they're attracted to. Women, men, it's the same thing

I agree.

My science teacher in seventh grade said that guys think of sex every 28 seconds, I think, and girls every 40 seconds. Something like that. . .

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Also, my ex was sort of cocky so I think he really believed he could go without sex. I mean we broke up because I wouldn't give it up so like he told me, he got bored of me and fell out of love for me.

Lol, then your ex WAS a jerk. No bones about it.

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He likes his single life better and he basically wants girls but doesn't want a relationship so yea, from that I know he just wants sex but I can't judge all guys the same way.

It's safe to say that you have to assume that and be proven wrong. In general, men aren't interested in relationships. You just have to be very careful.

And basically, it's hard for any hormonal teenager to stay friends with someone they're attracted to. Women, men, it's the same thing. The only difference lies in a woman's inaction. We don't pursue our attractions as readily as men do. But the urge is there, regardless of gender.

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Guys think of sex way more! You have got to be kidding. I'm not saying every guy thinks of sex more than any girl but generally speaking guys think about sex more than a girl does. It's hard for a guy to not masturbate for a week when a girl doesn't even have to masturbate. Guys are always thinking of sex. It's a constant. You're boyfriend (excuse me ex) was only saying all that stuff casue he wants to get in your pants. He's still thinking of sex while you're trying to have a nice chat.

Okay my ex did make his share of mistakes, there were times, when he was a first class jerk and I will admit that but I can't just jump to a onclusion that he just said that get in my pants. Knowing him, he probably said that for that exact reason but that does not give me the right to judge all guys by one jerk.

Also, my ex was sort of cocky so I think he really believed he could go without sex. I mean we broke up because I wouldn't give it up so like he told me, he got bored of me and fell out of love for me. He likes his single life better and he basically wants girls but doesn't want a relationship so yea, from that I know he just wants sex but I can't judge all guys the same way.

Okay, there is a theory that guys are like that but I really can't judge a guy and even if it;s true, that doesn't give them the right to do anything stupid. It might be harder for them to just be friends with a girl but that will make the even greater man.

Guys think of sex way more! You have got to be kidding. I'm not saying every guy thinks of sex more than any girl but generally speaking guys think about sex more than a girl does. It's hard for a guy to not masturbate for a week when a girl doesn't even have to masturbate. Guys are always thinking of sex. It's a constant. You're boyfriend (excuse me ex) was only saying all that stuff casue he wants to get in your pants. He's still thinking of sex while you're trying to have a nice chat.

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It is probably easier for "gurls" than for guys. Guys aren't picky with who they date and if they are really picky, they are probably gay. Girls can go 5 min. without thinking about sex. Guys cannot. To tell you the truth I would probably date any friend of mine who is a girl if it was socially acceptable for me to. Guys have a much harder time with this stuff than girls.

See my ex-boyfriend said that's not true. Guys could go hours without thinking of sex. It's actually not that hard for them to say "no" to sex and when they see a pretty girl, that doesn't always mean that they want to have sex with her. He also said that he thinks girls and guys think of sex equally.

Then again, he probably was just saying that to make himself sound faithful. Also, I told him there is a theory that guys think of sex more than girls because they are more physical than girls. He probably was just saying that isn't true

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It is probably easier for "gurls" than for guys. Guys aren't picky with who they date and if they are really picky, they are probably gay. Girls can go 5 min. without thinking about sex. Guys cannot. To tell you the truth I would probably date any friend of mine who is a girl if it was socially acceptable for me to. Guys have a much harder time with this stuff than girls.

I've gone hours on end without thinking about sex. Most of my friends are girls, and I'm not homosexual.

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I think it depends on the two people. Some friends do hook-up and some just see them as a brother or sister. It's possible to just be friends with the opposite sex but sometimes it just sort of happens.

I have had guy friends over the years, but I never really had a best friend, female nor male. I know that sounds sad, lol but I never got the chance to know someone for so long that I considered them my best friend. I never hung out and knew someone that closely. I never was really close to my friends.

Knowing my crazy butt, I probably had a made believe friend when I was a kid. I swear I remember having a friend who was a boy and we were really close. I think he lived nest door until he had to move. I remember crying for a very long time. Maybe i didn't make him up, maybe that's just my mind trying to protect me from the actualpain I felt when I last him. I think we both liked each other more than friends though or he could have been all make believe. I rather not know.