I think that yes, it's possible. I have a few guy friends, and i've never thought of them in that way. My crush is friends with them, but i'm not that close to him. I do believe you can be friends with a guy without thinking of him in that way.

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why not Celtic? After all, isnt it nice to date your bestfriend knowing you and that guy already know each other a lot? Would you rather date someone you knew for about an hour than a bestfriend whom you have known for several years? I think it is safe and nice and really cool to date your bestfriend, not that this applies to all who have best friends of the opposite sex, but at least, you could get to think cleary and to feel safe and loved with YOUR bestfriend than with someone you havent known for a long time.

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Unlike you, I have dated, and I have had boyfriends. I'm not saying yell at some random guy at the street to go date you, but dating your best friend is a bad idea. Why? When you date, you're more intimate, and I don't mean sex alone. And if you break up (which you very likely will if you're under 25), the akwardness and anger (if the breakup was bad) will kill any relationship, as friends or lovers, you have.

I don't know about you, but I put my friendships as more important than my boyfriends. I won't risk loosing my best friend for dating for a few months if I know we'll be friends for years.

The whole "you could be dating a killer" idea if you date someone you don't know is insane. A killer can be someone in the street, the clerk in the grocery store, or your friend. If you're gonna live that fearfully, then you won't live at all. Of course, don't dat just anyone you meet on the street, but don't reject someone if you know them for a few hours. The thing is to keep the first date casual, not very private and/or intimate, and this will eventually tell you if you can trust him/her (for the most part).

Someone said you are more likely to be raped by someone you don't know than by a freind...*bzztt* wrong. One of the first things you should learn when studying rape is it is Much more likely to be someone you know. Generally you can see a rapist from a mile away and are no more in danger on a date with them at a public place than you would be walking down the street near them, or you won't know until it happens. Either way whether they are a friend or a stranger is irrelevant if you're careful and firm. Also I agree with Ikki on the fact that all people start out as strangers, including friends. Oh, and this bit about how "YOUR FRIENDS" (caps imply a petulant child tone, by the way) is silly. Perhaps they're sheltered into taking what they can get instead of going out and exploring, perhaps they're just lucky. Perhaps some of us don't know people like that, perhaps you're just clinging to your friends and stagnating, I don't know, but just because it's working out for them that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with people who don't want to date their friends.......It is so good to be back.

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Jamaica, you obviously don't get it do you? IF YOU WANT TO DATE SOMEONE THAT'S NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND....DO A BACKGROUND CHECK IF IT SUITS YOU. Otherwise, stop bickering. You can learn to trust someone that's not your best friend.

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i never said YOU CANT DATE SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR FRIEND! I am just debating WHY YOU WOULD ALL PREFER MEETING SOMEONE NEW, WHOM YOU PROBABLY DONT REALLY KNOW TO DATE WHEN THERE IS SOMEONE MUCH MORE SUITABLE AND COMFORTABLE TO DATE WITH?

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Jamaica, are you born knowing your friends, or do you grow to know them? Are they not someone unkown to you as well before you meet them? Quite frankly, I don't see the difference between that and meeting and getting to know a potential date. Trust takes time.

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yes, i know that, but since you already have a friend who is more suitable for you, why do you go and make life more difficult by getting more catch when you know, that these days it is not safe to go out on dates whom you dont know so well?

Jamaica, you obviously don't get it do you? IF YOU WANT TO DATE SOMEONE THAT'S NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND....DO A BACKGROUND CHECK IF IT SUITS YOU. Otherwise, stop bickering. You can learn to trust someone that's not your best friend.

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so that means you'd rather TRUST someone you do not know rather than your friend whom you called FRIEND?

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Jamaica, are you born knowing your friends, or do you grow to know them? Are they not someone unkown to you as well before you meet them? Quite frankly, I don't see the difference between that and meeting and getting to know a potential date. Trust takes time.

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Jamaica. PUBLIC PLACES. OWN TRANSPORTATION. TRUST. That's all you need when dating someone you don't know that well

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so that means you'd rather TRUST someone you do not know rather than your friend whom you called FRIEND?

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Jamaica, get over yourself. SUCK IT UP. If you're waiting for the opportune moment to use your intelligence, this would be it.

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Just ponder this on:Yeah, more important issues. Let s talk about that shall we??? Most people get raped out of having dated someone they dont know really well.... Yes, it is possible that your friend would rape you, but the risk is less....... When you dont know someone really well, it is dangerous to date that person. You dont know their background really well enough for you to go out with that person. Whereas a friend knows you long enough to know how you feel, what you like and so on....

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Well, maybe you did something to hurt YOUR friend. How come MY FRIENDS here in school have dated their FRIENDS and they are still in perfectly nice relationships???

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Well bloody jolly good, then.
People change. End of story.

Jamaica. PUBLIC PLACES. OWN TRANSPORTATION. TRUST. That's all you need when dating someone you don't know that well.

Jamaica, get over yourself. SUCK IT UP. If you're waiting for the opportune moment to use your intelligence, this would be it.

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Jamaica, you can get to know and become comfortable with almost anyone you date. Use your common sense. If you want to date your best friend. Great. Other people however, are more concerned with more important issues.

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Yeah, more important issues. Let s talk about that shall we??? Most people get raped out of having dated someone they dont know really well.... Yes, it is possible that your friend would rape you, but the risk is less....... When you dont know someone really well, it is dangerous to date that person. You dont know their background really well enough for you to go out with that person. Whereas a friend knows you long enough to know how you feel, what you like and so on....

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The only reason I'm against dating a good friend is I already lost one friend... I don't want it to happen again.

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Well, maybe you did something to hurt YOUR friend. How come MY FRIENDS here in school have dated their FRIENDS and they are still in perfectly nice relationships???

Jamaica, you can get to know and become comfortable with almost anyone you date. Use your common sense. If you want to date your best friend. Great. Other people however, are more concerned with more important issues.

The only reason I'm against dating a good friend is I already lost one friend... I don't want it to happen again.

Jamaica-seperate transportation and public places only until you TRUST the person. Besides, if you get along REALLY well with someone, you start to not care what you act like/do in front of them.

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I'd rather date someone I don't know as well. Then, on dates, we can get to know each other.

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And yeah, on dates you'd get to know that he is some kind of killer before and on dates, he will brush his leg on yours. Besides, if you date a friend, it has a lot of advantages...
1. you can easily get a date on Friday nights without calling someone up from your ever-rising pile of other people's numbers
2. you dont have to get awkward with some of your habits with the person you are with
3. you could easily get a ride home without having second thoughts about where this person is taking me
4. you can easily goof off without thinking that this other person might think i am weird
5. you can relate a lot more with a friend whenever you go out to eat since you already know your favorites and you have to be embarrassed about anything.

JAMAICA, DO YOU NOT GET IT? YOU DON'T DATE YOUR BEST FRIEND BECAUSE YOU COULD LOSE SOMEONE WHOM YOU MIGHT HAVE GROWN UP WITH, BETTER YET HAVE COME TO KNOW BETTER THAN YOU KNOW YOURSELF. IF YOU WANT TO DATE YOUR BEST FRIEND, THAT'S JUST FINE AND DANDY. HOWEVER, THE REST OF US ARE JUST A LITTLE CONCERNED AT LOSING A BEST FRIEND OR A LIFE LONG FRIEND IF THE RELATIONSHIP ENDS BADLY!!!!

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Dating can ruin friendships, which is why many people don't date friends.

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i dont find the logic for that. So, does that mean your friend isnt enough for you to date but someone else, someone whom you dont know well, and probably a maniac and one who uses drugs IS suitable for you to date?

After all, if you dated someone who is probably a druggist and maniac, your FRIENDS might not like you anymore and THAT ruins a friendship too.

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Dating can ruin friendships, which is why many people don't date friends.

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BINGO!

I'd rather date someone I don't know as well. Then, on dates, we can get to know each other.

and oh, another thing, so, like you would all rather date someone you have known for, example, in a bar for an hour than date your friend or bestfriend, whom you know so well, you can say you are safe with him? really.... i find it poor logic to speed up your romance with some stranger, than with your friend who is available and willing and loving. Are you all looking for DANGER?