Im in a club called Pep which is a program for teen to abstain from sex until marriage. well over the last few month i am getting slammed with new things sex, drugs, alcohol and a bunch of pressure that i have to abstain from. Ive tried drugs but i didnt like them so i quit trying them then alcohol all of my friends drink so i figured why not do it im not going to make it a habit. So i did it a few times. Now sex ive had quit a few opertunities to have sex and all of them i turned down becuase i no its not with the right guy. Plus im to young to think about having sex i dont want to and i no i dont but i still feel so pressured about it. I feel like if dont do it with them then they will hate me. like the guy i liked wanted to have sex with me and i only turned him down becuase there was a bunch of people around. And i have done stuff but never as far as sex and i dont no what to do about all of these pressures. they just keep slapping me and confusing me so im just really confused and dont no what to do.

Thinks everyone but mostly smileyS i mean yeah ur right but my friends are the people i can trust and i live and go to a school where the enviroment is drugs, sex, alcohol and all of that stuff so its hard to keep my head up. I was known as the goody two shoes for years and now im not becuase ive given into the pressures of trying things like smoking, drinking, and drugs. Ive never had sex yet and i want to save it till marriage and ive decided that im going to no matter what so i dont loose my life or my conscience. Its already to the point that my mom things im rebeling and drinking and stuff and i hate the fact that she cant trust me. And it makes me thing lower of myself which makes me want to do stupid stuff. im just really confused and its hard to stay away from pressures that wont stop haunting you.

okay maybe I'm not the best at what I mean. The staying away from boys thing, I don't believe that u have to stay away from guys in order to abstain from sex, drugs and achohol. I agree with u amp, just say no and stay away from people that pressure u into things like that. But sometime its not just them that r pressuring u, you could be pressuring yourself in to doing these things, also. The main pressuring always come back to those so called friends because there doing it it seems as if u have to do it. Is's like with me, I'm known as a goodie two shoes to most people, and I feel that I can't make a mistake because they'll be so disippoionted in me,even if I know they know I'm going to have to make mistake in order to grow. To be honest. I'm not really a goodie two shoes as my friend calls me, I'm just happy. I do make mistakes and I'm close to making the mistakes you've made. The truth is we're teenagers, we're all trying to find our place in the world and why we're here. It's okay to be confused, it's just not fun, because we don't hold all the answers. Only God does, so look to him, pray, and he'll work everything out.

Nope she's just saying to say no and I agree

You don't have to do anything you don't want to wether it's sex or booze. If your "friends pressure you to do crap like that you don't want them as friends in the first place

R u trying to tell her to become a Nun, Earth.
I think it's cool that ur in a club like that, why don't u try to find someone, like a friend that may be going through the same stuff. You'll be surprised how many people r going through the same things. I know wat u mean by being confused and the about being to young and stuff.

How about you just.... Not do it.

If peer pressure has so much of a hold on you, that it'll make do something stupid, maybe you shouldn't be dating or talking to boys in the first place.