I need to know how you know you’re gay. I think I might be but I’m not sure. I mean I like girls and I have never really felt any strong attraction to guys. I can tell if there attractive and what not but I can’t ever picture myself kissing or having sex with a guy. Does this make me gay? I’m really confused.

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Originally posted by MissMurder:
I can tell if there attractive and what not but I can’t ever picture myself kissing or having sex with a guy. Does this make me gay? I’m really confused.

Well, the question is: Can you picture yourself kissing and having sex with a girl?

if your gay, you'll know when you know it dosent matter. you'll find out soon

Like people have been saying, don't worry too much, you've got time. Myself, I just like people, gender/sex regardless. There's a lot of pressure to have a label and decide right away, but you don't actually have to. YOU are the only one who can decide who you are.

And on another note...

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I never thought Leia was that atractive lol, the metal bikini just looked bizzare for me.
Natalie Portman as Padme is a lot nicer :P
(but the original trilogy is much better!)

I LOVE Natalie Portman.

Hmmm....what exactly makes me think that I'm a bisexual and maybe a lesbian??? Very good question and I have an answer. First of all I have question myself on my sexuality and have comtemplated it for a very long time. When I see a "hott" guy at school or in public...I feel nothing. I literally have very little attaction to guys. But, when I see a really pretty girl, the first thought in my head is "damn she's hott" or "ohhhhh...me like". I'm attracted to girls.

But, back to the main topic. Asking yoursel if you're gay doesn't make you gay. Just because you wonder if you're gay or not makes you no where near gay. Like you said, lots of people question it. The thing is...once you question it, you start to wonder if you are or are not so you try to find the answer. Oh, and my personal opinion...if someone questions themself about being gay...it could mean they are curious. Just MAYBE, but that's my opinion.

I'm not sure if this has helped but I'm trying my best. I'll answer any question that you have as best as possible.

you shouldn't worry about it. lots of people ask themselves this same question at some point, that doesn't necessarily mean you are gay. But if you are who cares? where's the problem?

It's not something you should worry about, just do whatever feels right for you.

I never thought Leia was that atractive lol, the metal bikini just looked bizzare for me.
Natalie Portman as Padme is a lot nicer :P
(but the original trilogy is much better!)

The only way to find out if your gay is by following your heart. When you see a girl are you attracted to her??? and the same with guys when you see them do you get attracted to them? Finding out your sexuality takes time and patience. Sometimes exploring with guys and girls who are already bi or gay or who are curious also.

I'm probably gay but I'm just sticking with bisexual until i'm absolutly sure that I just like girls. But, just remember even if you are gay, it's okay because NOTHING IS WRONG WITH HOMOSEXUALITY.

Just knowing whether or not a guy looks good does not make you gay. Unless you actually feel yourself attracted to them, and get that feeling you'd get around girls you liked. I know when girls look good, but I am NOT gay! I love guys! And no I'm not bi either.

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Originally posted by clpo13:
Heh, I've always had my fantasies about Leia. That metal bikini leaves little to the imagination...

I know...

Heh, I've always had my fantasies about Leia. That metal bikini leaves little to the imagination...

On another note, trying to define your sexual orientation before it comes around and slaps you in the face will drive you insane. The whole "watch Star Wars and attempt to figure out if Luke or Leia is more attractive" method can be helpful...or it can be more confusing. In the mean time, don't stress.

Believe it. I have a gay friend who never once wanted to be with a girl. Ever since he hit puberty he's felt like the odd man out because he felt strongly towards men as opposed to women.

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I know a few gay men who never wondered about women.

I don't believe that just because boys grow up expecting they will marry girls due to social conventions.

I'd recommend watching old school Star Wars. Worked for me.

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I think every one does think about being with the oppiste sex

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I don't think that's quite true. I never wondered about guys, and I know a few gay men who never wondered about women. But then, a good deal of the girls I know claim to be bisexual, so it would seem that many people do experiment.

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Homosexuality is like the duckbill platypus of sexual orientation.

I like that description. I think duckbill platypuses (platypi?) are cool.

Your actulie right lol I think every one goes through that!
NO worrys It'll all trun out all right you could also be BI .....
I am straight
I think every one does think about being with the oppiste sex you know its natural I've alway wounder what kissing a gurl would be like lol .
Its just a big sex crazed confused world.....:P ahhh run away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol
*HmC*

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Originally posted by Kate127:
I'm sure that I'm going to soud like your health teacher when I say this, but oh well...

During puberty you have so many changes going on that your hormones get really mixed up. It's only normal that you are confused about this. Basically it's just a phase, and you'll figure it out in time.

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Originally posted by BloodyMarian:
i think being gay is unatural, and that acting on that tendency is creepy...sorry if i offend anyone. i just think the whole gay thing is weird.

Well it IS weird but it also is caused by nature. Go figure. Nature does weird things. Homosexuality is like the duckbill platypus of sexual orientation.

i think being gay is unatural, and that acting on that tendency is creepy...sorry if i offend anyone. i just think the whole gay thing is weird.