I'm used to not telling people any info about myself unless they ask directly or it helps me get something I want, but several of my friends have complained about this. Given that I've had this tendency for many years I don't know what information I should and should not volunteer. Please give me some tips on what kinds of things are ok to tell to acquaintances I'm fond of, only close friends, and no one at all.

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Originally posted by DJPip:
bisexualgirl, I sent you some noisemail.

Socrates, it depends on the situation. If I'm speaking in front of people just to tell them about the struggles I've faced, it's quite different than usual. But really, I tend to tell people too much and I recently got hurt because of it. It's a tricky balance. It all
depends on situation.

thanks i really needed to hear that......

bisexualgirl, I sent you some noisemail.

Socrates, it depends on the situation. If I'm speaking in front of people just to tell them about the struggles I've faced, it's quite different than usual. But really, I tend to tell people too much and I recently got hurt because of it. It's a tricky balance. It all depends on situation.

tell people like your friends or have you not told anyone about it?

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
I tend to be very upfront and blunt.

thats how i am...i say whats on my mind even if its rude...i cant help it

i have a big problem....my dad raped me when i was little for 5 to 6 years and i dont know how to talk to ppl bout it.....i feel as though if i tell someone they will make it a big deal...i mean i think i got over if but im not sure because after that i started to cut myself....i dont know what to do.....plz give me some tips on what to do.......

Yes, tell what you're comfortable with, but if its really bothering your friends that much, is it really worth it? I mean, my friends are satisfied with a bit of information here or there. I listen, they talk. Most of the time.

Just tell them everything that you want them to know about or what you are comfortable sharing about yourself.

I tend to be very upfront and blunt.

I don't understand how that relates Nikky.

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Bring up things as they fit into conversation.

Yeah but you've ever realised how irritating it is when your trying to tell somebody your problem and then somebody goes " I know exactly what ur talking aboud . My dad yesterday .............................."After that nothing's specific . Its all just suggestions in the air .

The only people I tell anything are Annika and Charles, since you guys don't know who they are it doesn't really matter to you. But besides them people don't need to know anything.

You shouldn
't tell any one anything.

Bring up things as they fit into conversation.

Ditto . What do you tell people ? Ive got best friends and im so used to listening to what they say . They know nothing about me . Friends that have been for over 10yrs now . How do u even .............talk ?

I'm similar to you, in that I usually only offer up info that is asked directly of me or that will get me something that I want.

I've branched out to telling my close friends (I don't tell acquaintances anything, usually) whenever something new happens in my life. I keep the rest of it to myself. I tell my significant other everything.

I figure that they can figure out my personality and characteristics on their own...