Ok figured I might just vent tonight.....

Well let's see, my best friend kissed me the other day and now wants to know if I'll date him. I have a boyfriend though. They are actually pretty good friends with eachother. But my boyfriend did give me premission to date if I wanted, while he was away. It's really just confusing to me. I'd feel like I was cheating prolly if I dated this guy. I don't know. My friend wants me to choose. I think I need to think this over first, but my head is really just everywhere. I don't wanna cheat on my boyfriend or ruin a good relationship with my best friend. I think the last part is gonna be inevitable though. I know I am gonna have to make a choice, and prolly soon.......I am just really confused about this.

So what do y'all think? Any advice?

OK PUNCTUATION PLAESE...........

OK MAYBE U SHOULD TELL THAT GUY LETS JUST BE FRIENDS CAUSE U DONT WANNA CHEAT ON UR BF BUT IF U REALLY LIKE THIS GUY AS A BF THEN GO 4 HIM FOLLOW UR HART

You can always tell your friend everything, make sure he knows, as long as your sure he is your friend he will understand how you feel and let you go. You said he wanted you to choose, I think you should take him up on that and just do what you feel is right. If he can't take it, then he never really was your friend anyway, and if he does, then you know you have a friend you can count on. Its a chance that you have to take, but you have to do what you have to do for the people you love and care about. It's never an easy chore, but its one that you have to complete in order to get things straight. I propose hoping for the best and nothing less.

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Love triangles don't always suck. it depends on which corner of the isoscoles your'e on.

really...... Please don't equate love relationships to isoceles triangles...

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It does FML... because you'll end up hurting someone if you choose one of the people who are so close to you.

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Love triangles don't always suck. it depends on which corner of the isoscoles your'e on.

It was a JOKE!!

Anytime Karate. I'm glad that you have it all figured out.

LOL already worked it out y'all. My friends understands for the most part. Thanks for the advice y'all and thanks Ohio for sticking up for me.

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Love triangles don't always suck.

It does FML... because you'll end up hurting someone if you choose one of the people who are so close to you.

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But my boyfriend did give me premission to date if I wanted, while he was away

Once you are in a relationship, chances are you are BOUND to that relationship. I can't understand why your boyfriend would want you to date someone while he is away...Unless of course, if those dates were just friendly dates and nothing more. If I had a bf and he would suggest that, I'd definitely NOT agree.... Because in the first place, being a boyrfriend and girlfriend means you are ACTUALLY in a relationship, not in a game of Truth or Dare. Also, if your bestfriend kissed you, you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him that it can ruin your friendship and your relationship with your bf if he does it again..... I will leave the choice up to you but I will just say.... Ask you bf first if he REALLY loves you, if he REALLY wants to keep you, if he REALLY wants you to be his and no one else.... because sometimes, when our bf or gf is away, it is a common tendency for others to look elsewhere... So, you better go ask your bf first. If he says YES to all of those things I have mentioned, then he is serious about you which of course, you tell him that dating other people while one of you is away can ruin that relationship you both have... Especially since that bestfriend of yours kissed you....... Also, I hope you make the right choice..... because sometimes, I have heard of relationships in which they ended up with no bestfriend and no bf... So, I hope and pray and wish that all will be ok for you and if anything else fails, PRAY...... or talk to your mom.... Mom's are so good with giving advices.

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How about just not dating a bazillion people? More softly put, just stop hopping around from boyfriend to boyfriend. Stick with one, or stick with none. I don't see why its such a big deal to assign oneself a Boyfriend or Girlfriend when they end up losing them anyway, and problems like these arise.

How about actually reading the post and the situation before making such rude assumptions. Karate loves her beoyfriend dearly but he is currently away and her friend wants her to leave her boyfriend to be with him. She cares for her friend and don't want to lose the friendship, so nothing you just said applied to this situation. Next time read it all before being such an idiot. Anyways, karate knows whats best for her in this case and will make a wise decision.

How about just not dating a bazillion people? More softly put, just stop hopping around from boyfriend to boyfriend. Stick with one, or stick with none. I don't see why its such a big deal to assign oneself a Boyfriend or Girlfriend when they end up losing them anyway, and problems like these arise.

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Love triangles don't always suck. it depends on which corner of the isoscoles your'e on.

I am more of a fan of equalaterals myself.

Just tell your friend that you don't want to date him because you guys are friends and you still love Hydrok. Besides if you still couldn't make a choice than the choice that you would have made prolly wouldn't have been right because if either guy was the right one you wouldn't be stuck in a rut to make a decision. You would already know which it looks like you do.

Thanks y'all, I needed the reality check. I am sorting things out with my friend this weekend.
Thanks for the advice.

I agree with yogore on this. If you love your boyfriend then you should just be with him and not consider the other offer. If the guy was truly your friend then he would totally understand. Tell him that you like the way things are between the two of you and that you wouldn't feel right doing that to your boyfriend. He really won't be gone all that long. just 6 months, which does seem like alot but if you love him then it would be worth the wait.

I think it would suck no matter what end, FML. If both peoplelike you, you have to choose, and on the legs, you could be rejected because the center person likes the other better.

Love triangles don't always suck. it depends on which corner of the isoscoles your'e on.

Yeah It's Hydrok, but it's just that....I still love him.

I wish things were the way there were 2 months ago. My best friend was my best friend and my boyfriend was my boyfriend.
I don't think I wanna date my friend.
I want him as a friend, not a boyfriend.

Don't worry I ain't gonna cheat on anybody. I understand all too well how that feels.

This is kinda a "what would you do..." situation.

If you want to date the friend, you need to end it permanentally with your boyfriend. (hydrok right?)

It's not fair to only date the friend while your boyfriend is away.