my friend Tasha has been a habitual cutter for a few years now. every time i think that shes done with it she starts up again. im really worried about her and i dont know how to help her anymore. im afraid that she might kill herself. please, somebody please give me some advice on this.

we should all talk

letz bloud hey i feel the same way about my friend i am so scared she is going to kill herself. i dont really have any one to talk to a bout it. we should start talking. if anyone ever needs to talk about their friends i need to talk too we should alll start talking

:my friend amanda cuts her self how do i help her to stop. she is like my sister we do everything to gether i dont want her to die. please give me some ideas to help her stop

:left]pug[/IMG]my friend amanda cuts her self how do i help her to stop. she is like my sister we do everything to gether i dont want her to die. please give me some ideas to help her stop

people always say they "know" about cutting, but so few understand

wow

k, well, ive been a masochist for almost 9 years. i went through hell and back before i was 8, my mother tried to kill me twice, and she had many mental disorders, and hated me, and just....did some really bad things to me..dont ask....and i felt like i caused them, and began to punish myself whenever i did ANYTHING wrong, but that was more like sleeping out in the cold, etc. my mother died, and i didnt have a dad-he left when i was born or before--my mom had all kinds of men in the house when i was around, i dont know my father at all, -i moved into a household like a hurricane----really bad fits of throwing things, and torture through mental and emotional abuse from both of my guardians, ive been through the physical abuse with my mother and her boyfriends, but the mental emotional abuse i endured was so much worse it was unbelievable. i was rather intelligent, and with no outlets, i became a recluse.I attempted suicide 5 times, but people kept finding me, so i began to thread--thats where you weave needles in and out of your skin--i still have those marks----then i began to just take a belt or a rope and tie one end to the fan or something, put the loop around my neck, and just hang by my bodyweight, not enough to kill me, but it bruised pretty bad, and then, i found out about cutting. in the beginning i cut x's into my arms until they poured with blood, on both arms, i did that for about 4 years, my parents NEVER NOTICED. i was just thinking about them fighting, and i thought about other peoples parents, and then i thought----their parents notice everything about them,and are involved----my parents didnt even notice blood pouring from my arms, and i thought, woah, now thats just not right, it bothered me so much that they didnt notice. my friends did, so i switched to carving my legs, and wearing pants all the time, but you have to understand, when i (im not speaking for everybody, but my experience) cut, the mental emotional pain is so intense, i need to let it out, and i am punished for crying, and for writing in diaries, and for writing poetry and lyrics, i didnt know how else to release it, but when you cut, you can feel the pressure, and the pain flow out of you, and it just becomes physical pain. physical pain i can deal with easily. it just throbs.

you have to understand that it is a part of us, and we cant just say we are going to stop and stop, my friends worry, one of them took my exactos away from me once, but thats ok, i got new razorblades. but still, its a way of release, and at least we arent committing suicide........i mean ,,,,seriously,,,,,and yes, i still think about suicide, but i know when i cut, it will be better for a while, enough for me to regain my strength, and then i can go on.

but if you are worried, DONT TALK TO A COUNSELOR. DONT TAKE THEM TO ANY PROFESSIONAL HELLP UNLESS THEY ASK. or they will never trust you again, and will find a way around it. the only ones who should be taken to a guidance counselor or something are the ones that do it cause they think its cool, or they want someone to notice them, and i spit on those, bc if thats why they are doing it, cutting actually doesnt help them in any way, so its stupid and childish for them to cut.
listen to your friends, be faithful, and dont tell anyone else about what they do to themselves, bc then, 2when it comes down to the wire, and they are desperate, they have a very good chance of coming to you to talk first. listen, dont say they need to go get help, theyre getting help by coming to you!!!! make yourself aware of the subject and the material against it, dont try to make them stop, just stand by them no matter what, when you have friends like that, the world doesnt seem so bad, and you have a reason to live to see the next day...hope this helped.

srry, but i really feel the need to elaborate and explain, so maybe, the people who read this will have a better understanding........

i thank you all for responding to this thread but my friend is doing just fine right now. she has been doing fine for a while now, i just started this thread to see how others would have handled it. thanks again.

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Originally posted by MightyJess:
LadyFilth, even people who cut for attention need help. And its easy to just say "Oh yeah, shes doing it for attention" and blow her off.

Often friends really don't know the real reason why they cut.

You've got you tell her that you know whats shes doing to herself and that you want to help.

Altough i cant tell you what to do, becuase im in the same situation.

I think youve got to make her feel loved. Show her she has a place.

For my friend, i left notes in her room saying how cool it would be if our kids grew up together and telling her she is a beautiful person.
When she was a way one day i pointed out a few of us missed her.

If you have a school cousler go to them and ask them for advice. Don't say who the person though. You might even want to call some sort of kids help hotline.

You should really try and stop this and help her before it gets to bad. Be her friend and don't ever leave her. Stay with her for the ups and downs, make sure she knows your there

Never said to blow her off. I meant something like you said. Usually cutters that are looking for attention need attention. But I like the show her she has a place idea. That works.

LadyFilth, even people who cut for attention need help. And its easy to just say "Oh yeah, shes doing it for attention" and blow her off.

Often friends really don't know the real reason why they cut.

You've got you tell her that you know whats shes doing to herself and that you want to help.

Altough i cant tell you what to do, becuase im in the same situation.

I think youve got to make her feel loved. Show her she has a place.

For my friend, i left notes in her room saying how cool it would be if our kids grew up together and telling her she is a beautiful person.
When she was a way one day i pointed out a few of us missed her.

If you have a school cousler go to them and ask them for advice. Don't say who the person though. You might even want to call some sort of kids help hotline.

You should really try and stop this and help her before it gets to bad. Be her friend and don't ever leave her. Stay with her for the ups and downs, make sure she knows your there

There are many types of cutters.
1. Cutters looking for attention
2. Cutters that need medical attention
3. Cutters looking for an escape route to life
Those are the few that I've met so far in my own experience.
Try these...
*Comfort your friend, ask her about her day, don't be a parent or shrink be a friend, treat her normally...smile
*If you try your best to treat her as a friend, let her cutting habits stop on her own
*If she becomes fragile, pale or anti-social then your normally see her, get her some help.

I cant tell you what to do but i can say when i was a cutter none of my friends helped me but they tried and after things just got worse i came really close to sayin screw it and almost killed myslef but i didnt becuase there is a part of me that wanted to live and thats what i think you should do i think you should help her find the little part of her that wants to live and bring it out briung out her happy times thoughts memories.

don't do anything, let her be. talk to her about what's causing her to cut, tell her you are always there for her, be nice and listen to what she has to say... DONT PREACH!!! don't preach, don't yell, don't be angry. Just be supportive and offer unconditional love.

r u there??