Greetings.
I have a problem with my dad and need serious help. My dad always puts me down, not only me, but my brothers too. He has called me all the names possible. I have done everything possible to please him. I'm in university, involved in helpful org, I don't have a boyfriend,I don't know what more he wants from me. When I laugh with my brothers and their friends.He says I"m actind like a bored bitch. When ever he says these things I always end up cuting myself, as I write here I've got tears in my eyes but I always tell myself I have cried enough. Every time he is rude to me I do not eat for the whole week. I know you will suggest talking to a family member, but my dad is a well respected office man, and he does support the family. I really do need help.

you have to ignore him. I know he's yur dad and you probally care about him but you can't listen to what he says. you can't allow him to make you get mad. that''s what he thrives off. you have to stop the whole cutting thing a nd not eating for a week that's really bad for you. if you want some one to talk to send me some NOISEmail.

My dad (Well, stepdad) was like that too. But he had an immense drinking problem. I used to stand up to him but it's draining after awhile. And my parents just recently got divorced.
I'd say you should talk to your brothers (Since they're going through it too) and decide what to do with them. If not perhaps try to ignore him. Best of luck.

i agree with listenup....whenever he yells...or calls you names there is really nothing you can do about it...exept ignore it.

my dads like that too, i know how it feels

Well even thoguh i don't know you, it makes me sad to hear this....but look, beside him you got a great life..I mean, you go to a University! thats great, thats amazing.....you will soon have your career, live a life...your dad cannot control your thoguhts and emotions...

i mean, sure i may not understand you much, because my dad isn't like that,but i know it hurts so much when someone you care about tells you hurtful things....and even though you don't cry, you just do....but cutting won't solve anything..that is a sign of helplessness and weakness. I cannot tell you to block himout of your head because i know it won't be easy, but you can try and live around that problem....have you talked to him about it? if you haven't you should, but don't show yourself weak, and if you have and it hasn't helped, it's a hopeless cause...because no matter what you dad says, you are a special person, everyone is...you can make a difference in other peoples lives...try and stop the cutting....

you can talk to me whenever you want if you want to...i hope this helped...but you will need more than this to help you...you need to have the courage to overcome this....don't cut yourself anymore, think of your brothers too...take care.

Personally i say stand up against him but then again i dont know him well..........And another thing i say is ignore him my dad is like that to and i just blow him off and he knows it he hates it when there is nothing he can pin me on bascially if you dont listen then you dont hear and if you dont hear him then you have nothing to deal with when he gets in your face stare off into space it helps me..........................

Thats hard,

All i can say is pretend he's not there. When he says hurtful things just block them out. I mean if he's not willing change theres nothin you can really do.

My grandparents are the same.. i learned to block them out