Hi, my name is Allison and I need some advice/help please. My parents have been divorced since I was 2 and I have lived with my dad for 12 years and now for the past 2 and a half years I have lived with my mom. When I was with my dad I really didn’t like him. My mom would tell me all these horrible things dad would do and she eventually got me hating him. Dad would always deny everything she would say and he would always tell me mom had mental "problems" but I never believed him. I have 3 older siblings who don’t even live in this state but they would never take sides to tell me if my mom or dad was crazy. Come to find out my mom has a split dependency personality and sometimes she just, changes completely and she isn’t herself anymore. She only hit me once and I fought back and when she changed back she nearly called the police on me because she thought I assaulted her. Now life has been awful. We get into nasty argument at least 2 times a day. I have such a bad temper and I admit part of it is my fault but I talked to my sister and she was telling me all this horrible stuff like when she was 15 mom dragged her across the room by her hair and tried to kill her by beating her head on the mantle and if my big brother hadn’t been there she would be dead. And now I live my life in terror. There is nothing the lawyers can do my dad has tried every legal way possible to get me out of here. My big brother is rich and he told me if things get bad he will fly out to where he lives and he will take care of me. And now things are very bad should I take him up o his offer? Please someone give me idea what to do I’m just so confused! I trusted my mom and I believed her and I lived my life to what she told me and then one day I find out that all that was lie. I’ve been in a lie for over 12 years and now its just like I woke up one morning and !bam! Everything was different everything I knew everything I believed in was completely in shambles....some one please help me....

Allison

That's good to hear the good news. Take it easy, and remember, life will get better! I hope that everything all works out in your benefit in the end. In the mean time, keep your head held high! Take care!

writer4life

Thank you alot. YOu guys have been very helpful Im getting out of there for the summer, im going to TX to stay with my brother. Then possible to CT to stay with my sister. The thing is is that her twisted lawyer paid off a doctor to say she has no mental disability, so she has been ruled to be a "Normal" human being by the state based on the fony DR's testomony. My dad has been trying everything he can do, him and my brother, but the state is so backed up all the lawyers say it will take 12-18 months just to schedual a hearing, plus my family isnt the richest and that will rack up thousands of dollars of attorney fees. My moms lawyers can find millions of ways to stall the court procedures so by the time all the legal stuff gets sorted out I will be old enough to live where I want to. I have several emergency plans worked out incase things get really bad. And I have several places to go too. I dont want to go to social services because that will make her mad and things will escalate from there. My school is very small and it is also a church and everyone there has known my mom since forever and they only know her side of the story and they wont believe me, they take her side. I can make it though.

I am so sorry that you are living that life. It must be hard for you, and in school especially. If I were in your situation, I think I would try to talk to a counselor at school and see if you can get your mom some help; I mean, it is obvious that she needs it. Then, I would call your brother ASAP. It is very obvious that he loves you and would do anything to keep you save, so you would be better off with him. Maybe once your mom gets some help and gets back on your feet, you can one day meet again. Another thing you could do, is pray if you believe. Ask Him what you should do, and soon enough, the answer will come to you. Good luck!

writing4life

Definitely call your brother ASAP. You need to get out of there before something really bad happens.

i think you should definitely take up your brother's offer, its sounds like he really cares abotu and has the means to take care of you properly.

pal this all I can say take up your big bro's offer as soon as possible and in case your mom really loses it keep a baseball bat handy at all times i know it seems callous and mean possibly having to club your mom but two kids got killed by their mum and then she shot herself just because she brought you in to this world doesn't mean she can take you out.

Yeah, i say get out as soon as possible. Once it is known why you have elft, the state will most liekly do something about your mom. It seems that she needs to be checked for something, and when that is over and perhaps well again, you can move back in.

Social Services... find the biggest building in your home town and go there and look for help.

No but seriously, go to a guidence councelor, and tell them that you want to contact a social worker and that you have a problem at home. You dont need to tell the school councelor anything, just request to speak to a social worker.