well, let me start by saying that this will be a giant pile of drama, so be prepared....

my best friend's family adopted her cousin because he was going through a rough time and never really had a real family. we became good friends almost immediately. he was really nice and absolutely hilarious.

about 2 months ago, i found out that my best friend was having sex with him, now that they live with them. she told our closest friends and begged us not to tell our parents, because she was afraid that somehow or another, her parents would find out and send him away. our friends told their parents because they knew they wouldn't really do anything about it. they would be disgusted, of course, but they wouldn't, say, call CPS or anything. i didn't tell my mom, because i was begged repeatedly not to and promised i wouldn't. i never break a promise, or make on i can't keep.

well, a while back, she tells us she might be pregnant by her cousin. i set up appointments for her to get tested at a free clinic and begin birth control.

the day of her appointment, her dad attempts suicide. i made more appointments for later that week. SHE REFUSES TO GO!!! i stop speaking to her.

she starts coming up to me and asking me if i would date her cousin because he really likes me!! WHILE SHE'S SCREWING HIM AND TELLING THE WHOLE EFFING SCHOOL ABOUT IT!!

well, my mom talks to my neighbor one day. and, my neihbor's son tells her about the drama because he hears it at school because my stupid-ass friend wouldn't shut her mouth about it!! she told everyone she knows and was effing surprised when CPS showed up at her door because my mom called.

well, this friend of mine has decided, over the past few months, that she doesn't need school. she'll stay at home on her lazy ass all day. the one day she goes to school, i leave school during my first block to go to a big RAZE thing at the state capitol. SHE'S EFFING BAD-MOUTHING ME!! "oh, alyssa told her mom and she called cps and now they're taking us all away." (there are four other kids in her family). SHE CAN'T EFFING UNDERSTAND WHY THEY'RE GOING TO TAKE THE KIDS OUT OF THAT HOME!!

COULD IT POSSIBLY BE THAT SHE'S FUCKING HER COUSIN THAT LIVES WITH HER!! OR IS IT BECAUSE HER MOM IS THE ONLY ONE WORKING IN THE WHOLE FAMILY?! MAYBE BECAUSE HER DAD'S A DRUNK?! OR THAT HER DAD'S ALSO EFFING SUICIDAL!! three attempts in the past month, THAT WE KNOW OF!!

today, when i fianlly get back to school, i try to confront her to find out if she really did say all that stuff. she starts leaving class early becasue she's terrified that i'll beat the crap out of her. and during our hour-long lunch, SHE HID IN THE MAIN OFFICE!!

so....i guess my question is...
should i really be as totally pissed at her as i am?

p.s. sorry for the caps...i got pretty angry at some points...

she's effing hiding from me!! spreading shit about me!! gawsh it pisses me off!!

her mom effing yelled at me!!! ARRGGG!!!

it was kinda funn, though.... hehehe wow, was she pissed...rofl

I agree with Clpo. Don't beat her up. just stay away from the situation. If she's yelling bitch at you down the street, I believe that you can call the cops for that because it's harassment.

Should you hate her i guess you could u have rights but one thing is that i learned keep your friends close but your enemies closer and sometime i feel like you do! i have lost two best friends this year becuase of things like this and i think you have a right because what she has done is wrong!

true...true....i've given up, but i tries to sit next to me AGAIN during lunch...grr....

that's so horrible for you, but if you can't do anything more... let it go. Don't let it get you down, just keep going and ignore her. Let her hurt herself and don't let her hurt you too.

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how do you help someone that's in denial or just doesn't WANT the help?

Simple: don't. She obviously doesn't care that what she's doing is illegal, nor does she seem to care that it bothers you. At this point, I think it's best to just turn your back and hope for the best. You've really done all you can.

I am soo sorry, that is just gross, screwing your cousin? EWWW...

I guess so...

And, thanks for all the replies I got. You've all bee quite a bit of help.

If you've helped all you can, there's nothing else you can do about it. Let it go, I suppose. *big hug for piratechic*

how do you help someone that's in denial or just doesn't WANT the help?

and, the cops? my neighbor's daughter is a STATE TROOPER and knows what's going on, but won't do anything! the cops around here don't really care about incest in the area, they're focusing on stuff like meth and what-not. CPS has already been called, and all they did was "warn" the family. now, they're actually "dating" she says. "he's not my cousin, he's my boyfriend," she says. **gags**

i give up. i just do...i don't know anymore. i don't think i'm going to waste my energy even caring about it anymore. well, that's just until she says one wrong thing, then i'll care enough at that moment to show her why shouldn't do what she does, but that's just one scenario, so.....yeah.....

she needs your help, and if they don't believe you... keep looking until someone does. Someone has to believe you sooner or later, talk to a trusted adult and explain. It's not to late to help her, and she obviously just needs your help. If you cant get anyone else, call the police, it's illegal for her and her cousin to be having sex. I'm not kidding, she needs help and if you provide it you are a hero. Good luck

i've already tried. nobody wants to believe me. she used to be really smart. she was in the top of the class with me, but somewhere along the line, psychological boundaries got smudged. her parents thin it's a joke or phase or something. and as for the counselors, they think she's just putting up a show or being dramatic.

the sad thing is, though, all last year, she bragged and bragged and bragged about the dog thing (btw, did i mention it was HALF dog and HALF human? well, it is.) anywayz, she scared the hell outta everyone at school. when the administration heard about this, they set up a meeting between her and the counselor. she told him it was all a joke to scare the crap out of her fellow students, because they were picking on her. noone was picking on her at the time!! not until after the whole, "my name's really beseechi"-whatever the rest is. arrgg....

so, who doesn't just LOVE the drama? **rolls eyes a lil**

She thinks she's a dog? Oh, okay. If the school administration/her parents don't know about this whole thing, come completely clean with them. Tell them everything you told us, and MORE. She really needs help. She's been commiting incest and bragging about it. That's insanity. She's delusional, and she really needs help. Tell parents or an adult everything. I'm not even kidding.

UPDATE:

well, now she's also telling people that i broke up my boyfriend so i could date HER COUSIN! she practically lives at her grandparents' house now and never comes home (which is 2 doors up the street from mine), and she's started yelling the word bitch at me from all te way down the hall. so, it's just another wonderful day in the life of Miss Alyssa. **rolls eyes**

because of all of the above...my mom has not only given me permission, but has actually Begged me to beat her up. outside of school of course. but, because i knew her for so long and i know how her...psyche ( i suppose would be the word)...is, i don't really want to waste my time on it. she's just a really stupid person who sleeps with her cousin, braggs about it, blames her problems on other peopls and thinks she's a dog. (yes, she has a complete alternate world in her mind, but the line betweeen reality and fantasy has rubbed away in her mind)

so, yeah...if you have any more advice i'd love to hear it. and, thanks for the advice you already have posted.

WOW!
well. let me start off by saying, sorry for your mess (even know i'm not in it.) one. i think it was wrong that you friend went and told people about what she was doing. people need to be smarter && think of 'cause && effect' hello, its kinda obvious, if your (not you) messing around with your cuzn, && go and tell people, most likey SOMEONE is going to tell on you. && call CPS.

you should 4get about it. not talk to her. she has issues && if she really wants to be your friend i think she should have talked to you to find out what really happened (about who told on her). you sound like a very nice, && caring friend.

hope everthing goes good. things will get better. i know so. *lots of love*

Shorty, nope that's not legal. Some states it's legal to have sexual intercourse with your second cousin, others your third cousin. No where in the US is it legal to have sexual intercourse with your first cousin.

*hugs piratechie*

Well, I'm sure this is a really hard time for you. But it's probably REALLY hard for her. I don't think you should hate her. I mean, hate is a strong word. I'd be stinkin mad at her maybe. But hate's a strong word.

uf you love her, then you love her. and that's all to it.

-Tabb

holy wow...

**hug and much sympathy**


that's ridiculous, I have nothing to tell you but seriously, I'm not even sure it's entirely legal to be screwing your cousin. And more to the point, that's just creepy. I've got no good advise.

Wow, k, this post has little point. Whatevs, that's totally awful for you. I hope it gets better.