Okay, so everyone has gone through it once or twice in their lives. Chances are, your under peer pressure right now.

You feel like you should be able to do what you want to do, but at the same time you feel like if you don't do what your friend's want you to do, they'll stop liking you.

I hate this feeling. My friends have never offered me a joint, or asked if I wanted alcohol, and they never expect it of me, but I still feel underpressure.

I don't understand why I feel this way, they never offer me a joint, or alcohol. I don't know it's confusing.

I grew up with a father who drank, and did narcotics. He was very physically abusive (I.E. to many spankings) when I was younger, and very emotionally abusive when I got older. He's not in my life any more, of which I am glad, but I still think about him sometimes.

I think about how he used to drink and he did narcotics, how when I got older, he didn't even bother trying to hide the fact that he drank.

I don't ever want to end up like him, which is why I don't do any of those things. I feel different from my friends though, but isn't differentiality supposed to be a good thing?

I don't really think peer pressure is a huge concern...well, it might be to you but i really have not run into it much. Everything I have done was my decision and my friends had nothing to do w/ it. i know that in cities peer pressure tends to be something that does ruin kids lives but in a small town/school peer pressure is not a huge concern.

No peers have "pressured" me into doing anything. I'll make their life hell if they make my life sh!t.

I am different that my friends, that is what makes me who I am.

No one should pressure anyone else into trying/doing drugs. If they do, tell them that isn't cool. If they still do they aren't worth being friends with.

thanks, both of you.

of course it is. you saw his mistakes, and you have learnt from them. many people do not do this. and i guess that's what being a teenager is (if you are one). learning who you are, and creating your own identity is what you are doing i think. well, what everyone sorta does at some point. you are different, but so is everyone else! yes it does sound liek an oxymoron, but you know what i mean. lol. enjoy being different, why would you want to fit in and be ignored if your meant to stand out? oh, and about ur friedns never offering you joints or alchol..thats probably because they know where you stand on those issues, and respect your desicions. hope i was of some help. --me

I feel different from my friends though, but isn't differentiality supposed to be a good thing?
>Yes, I think that differentiality is a good thing because we were made as individuals. If it wasn't supposed to be a good thing than it wouldn't be so odd to feel that way.