My younger sister has betrayed my trust for the last time.
4 years ago, in 8th grade, I was pressured into givin head to my boyfriend. After, everyone knew about it and I got the heat even more because he was black. Worse, my sister told my mom. Mind she was 6th grade. So not only was I embarrassed infront of my peers, I was ashamed because my younger sister found out. I always wanted to set an example for her. Well, even years later, she is punishing me for it.

Just today, while watchin NEXT on MTV and playing cards with one of our family friends, I said how I thought african people had nice lips. The family friend asked if I've kissed one and I said, "yeah i dated one." (I'm not ashamed of him or that we dated)My sister says, "That's not all she did with him" Shocked I looked at her, thinking, " Is she really saying this? What the heck? "Tell her whatelse you did with him!" The look in her eyes was so purely evil. This came out of nowhere. Why would she bring this up, especially infront of this adult who didn't need to know ANY of my personal life?

Well I just put my cards down, grabbed my bags and left. The adult tried to stop me, saying not to let it bother me and not to ruin the rest of the day. But I was too hurt. She tried to tell me that my sister was sorry. That she didn't mean to. She made me feel as if I was crazy and blowing things out of proportion! All I did was quietly got up and started leaving. I was crying but I wasn't ranting and raging, going wild. So I felt completely ganged up on.

They soon caught up with me, ( I was crying as I walked home) And my sister told me that she didn't know it would hurt me. That she didn't know I would react like this. How could she not think that? I told her that there was no justification for what she did, bringing up my mistakes and throwing them in my face and making me feel guilty. Thiat wasn't a proud moment in my life, I wasn't happy with my decision so why would she betray me and say that? Especially in front of the other person?
Am I wrong to think that that was just plain evil? That she did that just to hurt me? We were fine all day so it wasn't like she was retaliating. I just don't know how to deal with this. I feel alone. Am I crazy to be upset? I just need to know I'm not alone and what to do next? I skipped out on going to lunch with our group because I knew she would be there and I just didn't want to be around her. We were all planning on going sleeding today and I don't feel like going now. What should I do? She won't get punished for what she's done and I will. Not only am I hurt but I don't want to have fun anymore today. And this is nothing new. She has done this before and I just don't know what to do.

I'm sorry this was long but if anyone knows how to handle this situation please let me know. I'm at a loss.

I have a little sister and I understand where your coming from. I can't trust my sister with my personal information because she's younger and doesn't understand. The thing with you and your ex-boyfriend was a long time ago and if your sister is not mature enough to be apart of your life. have there to hang with if your feel comfortable around her if not just forgive her and keep you guys relationship strictly sisters. until you think she's real for something more.

Or, maybe she's jealous.

The thing is, no matter how much love is between two sisters, there will always be a rivalry, uspoken or otherwise. Most likely? Your sister wanted attention, and got it at your expense. She also made you look bad, which I'm sure was a motive as well.

However, I do believe you should forgive her for it. She is your family, and though she probably meant to hurt you, she deserves a second chance. And be the better person; don't throw this incident in her face to make her feel guilty. It will only serve to make you look like a hypocrite.

On the same note, you shouldn't trust her with any personal information again. She needs to earn back that trust, she doesn't automatically receive it when you've forgiven her.

On an unrelated note, sweet icon and signature.

Girl when you leave home never speak to your sister again except for a curt card at christmas till the ***** apologizes that is your personal life and she was very un-cool revealing that, it may be your sister is disgusted at the tought of you dating some one of another race and wishes to hurt you for it