I am in need of some advice. I think that I like this guy but he's not one that my mom would approve of. I know that if my mom were to find out that I like him and want to go out with him, she would totally freak and flip out. It's not just that he's older than me but the fact that he has a past. I like him but what do I do about my mom?

Honestly, I don't think that telling her is an option. But I definitely don't think going behind her back is an option either.

talk to her try to make her understand that he's changed and that he's different.B/c if you do it behind her back she'll think that your ashamed of him and she won't trust him or you.Hope this helps.

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Originally posted by iamastar:
I am in need of some advice. I think that I like this guy but he's not one that my mom would approve of. I know that if my mom were to find out that I like him and want to go out with him, she would totally freak and flip out. It's not just that he's older than me but the fact that he has a past. I like him but what do I do about my mom?

I would never let my parents know who I like, I keep it a secret between them and friends. Don't let anything get in the way of love.

Thanx guys for replying and giving me the advice that I needed to hear.

If someone can accept me, then christ you should have no problem

LOL My mom has never really approved of any guy I hang with except one, but she's friends with his family and crap. I doubt she approves of my boyfriend really, but she keeps her mouth shut for the most part and atleast accepts him.

I guess you just gotta test it and see if your mom can accept him for who he is now. Then let her find out later about the "history" crap. Let her have the first impression as a good one and junk.

I guess your problem was different than mine.. I can understand why parents would not give him a chance.. they are probably worried.. but i think u should try to talk to them.. maybe they can give him a chance..

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Originally posted by forevertears14:
I dont want to sound really nosey.. but whats wrong with his past? im wondering because iv been through the same thing.. but then my mom got to know the guy and really liked him

From what I have been told, he has spent time in jail. No, I can't tell you the reason why he was in jail but I just figure if my mom saw something when she hired him while he was in the work release program she has to see what I see in him. The thing about it is that she wont try to see beyond him being in jail. He has spent his time in jail, paid his debt to society, and is now trying to make something better for and with his life.

I also dont keep anything from my mom cause she has her ways of finding out. Maybe you should bring his name up in a conversation or soemthing and see what ur mom says. i dont want to sound really nosey.. but whats wrong with his past? im wondering because iv been through the same thing.. but then my mom got to know the guy and really liked him

I never hide stuff from my mom anymore unless I absolutely have to because she always finds out...I'm not a bad liar but she will still find out.

So tell her. Talk to her. Try to find out why she doesn't like him. Explain what you see in him.

You know...all that good stuff.

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger: First things first, you need honesty. If you hide it to your mother, she will, literally, explode.

She will no doubtly explode regardless of whether or not I hide it from her or tell her.

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
Let her meet him and talk to him before you hit the mushy relationship status. Once your mom has more of a trust in your decision and in him, it'll all be easier.

She has already met the guy way back when they used to work before I liked him. At first she trusted him and thought that he was a good guy but things happened, I don't know exactly what, and she doesn't trust him anymore.

yeah I agree when it comes to relationships parents hate suprises...

I know this sounds bizarre, but if you really wanted to you could have them meet in a public setting. I know someone who did that. We were working lights on the show, and her boyfriend was an old techie friend, so he "came along to help" and her mother is a residential lighting designer, so she came to help us, and my friend introduced her boyfriend to her mom right there in the theatre, and now her mom and her boyfriend are really good friends. And her mom wasn't too keen on the person before.

I feel the need to advise because all my boyfriends have had a problem, let it be too old or of a "wrong" ethnic group and such...

First things first, you need honesty. If you hide it to your mother, she will, literally, explode.

Second, I am assuming he's changed. Make this very clear.

Like we say here..."trátala con pinzas", as in, don't suddenly bomb her with his image and all. Let her meet him and talk to him before you hit the mushy relationship status. Once your mom has more of a trust in your decision and in him, it'll all be easier.

That being said, this depends on what type of past he has. There is a difference between trouble and TROUBLE. If he has every physically hurt anyone, for example, that's really bad.