So, I am a fairly popular guy in my school. I have lots a friends in lots of places. Last year. I came to the realization that I was attracted to other guys. Well, I mentioned it to a few people and before i knew it the whole damn school knew it. Now, months later, I'm not sure of my sexual orientation. I mean I have feeling towards guys...I think. I just don't know. This is a big problem casue most of the school see me as Anon the gay guy. I don't want to be seen as this. I just want to seem straight! I'm not sure if I am. I'm lost and I'm going crazy. Am I making sense? If you all could offer some suggestions, it would be greatly appreciated.

High school is just four years of a long life. When you get out, go to college or go live somewhere that you know is open minded enough to accept you and who you are. And though people may taunt and reject you, who cares? Again, they are only surrounding you for four years. The best thing to do is be proud of your orientation (whatever you figure out it is) and walk with your head up. If you don't let people bother you, they'll stop trying.

I agree with HL and LTR. Be yourself Anon. Like I told you before, people will talk regardless of wether you give them a reason or not. I know that it sucks to be put in one category and be pointed at as if one was a rare animal. But people who react that way towards you don't deserve your attention or your concern. Just be you.

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I mainly just don't want to be thrown in with the stereotype.

It sucks but there is not much you can do to stop it. The only thing I can say is to just be yourself and don't worry what other people think. I know it sounds lame but thats all you can really do.

Unfortunately Anon, she's right. Really the only way you can fight stereotypes is to ignore them (impossible as that may sound). Just be yourself and if other people can't handle that it's their flipping problem.

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I mainly just don't want to be thrown in with the stereotype.

It sucks but there is not much you can do to stop it. The only thing I can say is to just be yourself and don't worry what other people think. I know it sounds lame but thats all you can really do.

I mainly just don't want to be thrown in with the stereotype. I hate that. I want to be viewed just like somone else in school. I want people to say "Oh thats Anon" and not "Oh thats anon, hes gay" Which people do.

I think first of all Anon, that you should try to deal with your true feelings regardless of what other people think. Even if it's the entire school. First try and find out what your true sexual orientation is and answer your questions before you try an answer other people. You have to find your true self and when you do you will be able to portray it naturally without having to worry about it. Persoanlly, I have never been in your situation to be quiet honest. But I think that if for now you try to just concentrate on yourself, instead of what the rest of the world is saying you'll be able understand yourself better. I know it is not something easy. You must be very confused at the moment, and that's okay. I think it will probably be a process before you can truly know what you prefer. Just try to take it easy and and try to move on from the rumors. You say you want to be seen as a straight guy, is this because you think you really are or because you just want to avoid what is being said? That is something that made me wonder. Now, this could also be just a phase. For now, just try to think about yourself and don't concern yourself with what others are saying. People will always talk regardless of wether you give them a reason or not. Oh, and about those people you told, they are not trustworthy if now the whole school knows. Try and choose more carefully when you have something very important or personal to say. Your true friends will always be there for you regardless of wether you turn out to be gay or not.

One of my friends is gay he didnt say n e thing at first but now he is known as the gay guy at school!! so its typical just find a way to stand out some how!! if your not sure about your sexual orientation explore your feelings go on a date with another guy and go on a date with another girl see what your emotions do!! see who you like more and why you like them more!!!

This can be extremely confusing because society does not seem willing to except people who are anything but straight. If you are attracted to guys thats you don't worry about it. I mean people will give you shit, I'm not saying its easy. And if you really are straight, thats good too, don't let people judge you for your sexual orientation, you are who you are.