I'm socially inept.

I'd like to know if there are any ways to tell when a girl likes you- this has been a sore issue for me, as there have been many occasions when girls have flirted with me repeatedly, then don't want anything to do with me when I exhibit interest. It's not like I'm misinterpreting girls who are being polite; there were a couple whom I avoided, then asked them months later if they were flirting with me and they said "yes"; however, they also said they weren't interested in me.

I don't understand why some people would do that, and I'd like to know how to recognize genuine flirtation.

Also, does anybody have any tips on asking somebody out? It seems like all the advice I can find on relationships is for people already in relationships- not for people looking to start one.

if some one comes up to u and slaps or grabs ur butt, he does like ur butt but not u. so if u grab his and he doesnt do anything he likes u

If a girl hits a guy, some of them tend to hit the girl back.

Actully, some of them, just hit you for no reason.

I don't like getting hit so I try to be nice with them if they grab me or something.

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just slap their behind and if they slap you back then they dont like you.

What if they kick you in the you-know-where?

Look, some girls flirt just for fun and it means nothing. Honest answer.

I, because I'm a serious female, if I flirt, I like you.

I'd say try body language...in what direction she points her feet, if she touches you, if she's all nervous-giggly, etc.

Asking somebody out? Don't do it in front of an audience. For a first date, don't take it too seriously. But do it. The worst thing she can do is say no, and you'll like through it.

When I turned around,he grabbed my arm. I sort of pushed him so hard that he tripped and fell on the floor. I didn't mean to make him fall. He started laughing and got himself back up. Then I walked away while him saying, "girl don't walk away from me".

did you turn around and slap him? if not then you broke the cycle shame on you.

Don't slap it, don't tap it, don't touch it.

That boy used his whole darn hand. No Love tap here.

Did I have a sign on my butt saying, " Slap me baby, Slap me nice and hard"?

No..

My butt is off limits..

see you just have to have a soft "love tap" hahaha

I had that once happen to me. He slapped me hard, that hurt.

just slap their behind and if they slap you back then they dont like you.

Sorry skirt, not shirt.

I think it's really hard to tell when someone is really flirting because they are interested or people that's just how they are so like I said my best bet is being straight forward.

I used to have this crush on this guy from my school so to get his attention, I wrote little secret admirier notes to him and put it in his locker. I did it for weeks and everytime, I gave him a hint of who I was. Finally, I told him to meet me at his locker after school but I chickened out when I actually saw him waiting there by his locker. Finally, my friend got so mad at me for not just telling him that she told him himself. She told me that he was interested in another girl. It hurt but that rejection I got over. He was a jerk anyways. A few weeks later, he was talking about my letters out of the blue. Not in a mean way, just saying, "I wonder who send me those letters and left them at my locker?" Then, he kept bothering me because we got seated next to each other. All of that didn't mean him a jerk. What made him a jerk is when he said, "Oh so your wearing a shirt today, you know I could tell you what color underwear your wearing. All I need to do is look under your shirt"

Well, I think it's just as confusing for girls to see if a guy is really flirting because they are interested in them or because they just like flirting as it is for guys to know where a girl is coming from.

I'm not the greatest flirt. Guys normally flirt with me if they don't take me being shy as me rejecting them. Which my sister and friends say I sometimes push guys who are interested away like that.

The type of flirting I get from guys is when guys are shouting, "hey baby come over here" while I'm walking down the street. Or the guy is making howling noises to me. Or the guy is just checking me out as I'm walking by or from afar. Most likely, I get guys flirting with me like that. Sometimes, I get guys who actually tell me that they want to go out with me or ask me for my number but I mostly get the other type of flirts. I prefer guys who ask me for my number and pretty up front with me.

I can't tell when a guy being really nice to me is flirting or just part of who he is. My friends and my sister can see when a guy is just being nice to me and when he is actually flirting butI can't tell at all. I need the guy to be forward with me to actually figure out he is interested.

I'm trying to work on my flirting. What I do to get a guy's attention is make eye contact, then I look down (if my hair is down, I'll let it fell down my face, and I will gently pull my hair behind my ear) then I slowly lift up my head while softly smiling at him. It seems to get the guy's attention. I don't think you should do that but maybe making eye contact with someone your interested in will help you. If she doesn't make eye contact back, she is either shy or isn't interested. Best bet, is just asking the girl out and be specific or ask her for her number.

Advice coming from a girl:

"Genuine flirtation" is difficult to identify. I would think that if she flirts with you often, or goes out of her way to see, help, or talk to you more than twice or thrice, chances are she likes you.
If girls are just polite, that usually means nothing. Don't misinterpret that as flirting out of interest because it usually is just her wanting to be nice/liked by anyone. That doesn't mean you should completely eliminate her from your "list" or whatever, because if she's nice to you now, she may like you as a friend which could evolve into something more.
I agree with calcoastsurfer on that you shouldn't try the totally indirect "hey babe wanna go out with me?" or pick-up lines, especially. If there's a certain someone that you think does have some feelings for you, try to return the flirting or talking until you're ready to ask her out in a similar way to calcoastsurfer's suggestion.

The only time I ever asked someone out was in response to them asking me out. Sad, yes, but it got me a steady girlfriend for a few months. I haven't dated since. I'm really in the same boat as you, ian. I tend to get jittery around girls I like. And it really doesn't go off well if you stutter asking them out. They immediately assume you're some sort of retard, give you a weird look, and walk off leaving you completely dejected and date-less.

Or at least that's what happens to me.

show off your money and power and most important be a jerk.

To comment on the flirting thing, I think it's something that people just do to sort of...stay in practice I guess?

I know I've found myself doing it more and more, flirting with girls I don't have any interest in. The result is that I'm much better at flirting now. I'd suggest you try it.

Well... being polite is showing some interest but not really going out of your way to talk to the person. If they try to talk to you even when they don't have to, smile a lot, make an effort to be around you, then they probably have some kind of feelings for you. It's hard to tell.

Go out on a limb and ask. DO NOT do they "hey wanna do something sometime?" unless you want to be utterly rejected. Those are the worse because if they say no... well it's just sad. Ask her if she wants to _____ at a specific time on a specific date. If she's "busy" then just be fine with it and move on. If she likes you, she will get the hint and want to reschedule or ask you for a different time.