Everytime I see my dad he always brings me down.. I feel like I am not good enough for him or I dont live up to his dreams.. It hurts and he calls me and my sisters ugly and fat and we arent because he makes us not eat sometimes and I cry myself to sleep alot. What should I do?

Lissy, you do not have to live up to the dreams your father has for you. You only have to live for the dreams you have for yourself. Your father might have had a tough time with weight as a child and perhaps he doesn't wasn't his children going through the same struggles. I don't know what your father is like at all, but if it is possible to talk to him, I would. Communicate and share your feelings. And even if you can't talk to him, you can talk to your sister. Let her know she isn't fat- she is beautiful just the way she is. And so are you. Know you are pretty, know you are wonderful, know you are blessed- you are.

I am so sorry to hear about what is happening to you lissy. What your dad is doing to you is not fair and it's not right. You should know that regardless of what your father thinks you and your sister have a great amount of worth and you should never forget that. I know it is hard when someone you may look up to or want to make proud looks down on you. But let me tell you about something. You should not live up to other peoples dreams, but your own. You can never have everyone happy no matter what you do. So you should focus on what your personal goals are and concentrate on getting there. Now, name calling is always a low blow, but as someone once told me 'you have to grow some tough skin.' The fact that your father calls you names don't make them true and don't justify them. You deserve to be repected and appreciated. Don't measure your true worth and beauty by your fathers standards. Realize that you and your sister have a great potential to succeed and that there is beauty in you and your sister whether your father sees it or not. Now, about him not letting you guys eat I suggest you get some help for that. He has no right to deprive you of food and that would be consider child abuse, neglect. He could be in serious trouble for that. If you can, speake to a counsler about this at your school or talk to a responsible adult that you trust, maybe your spiritual leader. He has a problem and needs help, he has to stop. But the most important thing is you and your sisters safety and well-being. You have to put yourself first. Don't allow yourself to become a victim of any kind of abuse from anyone. Be strong, for you and for your sister.

Tell him to f--k off because you dont have to be good enough for him you have to be good enough for YOU!

that's sad!

Parents are nothing like that, but my grandparents always put me down cause Im not what they planned, in theier eyes I was supose to be born a boy..

That's awful! Tell your dad that just because he has issues he shouldn't be taking them out on you. This isn't you he's really talking to, it's himself. He's probably got other problems, and is trying not to focus on them, by getting mad at you. You and your sister should spend a couple days at a friend's house to cool off. Be strong, you know your not fat and ugly, so don't let your dad tell you other wise!

Exactly, what all of the previous posts have stated. Though it might be horrible to feel such a way because of your father, try to live your own life. Don't let him bring you down.

Technically, you should just be happy about yourself and who you are.

I agree with ampmaster also. The only dreams that matter are your own.

as silly as it seems, you should talk to your dad. Or, tell a trusted adult to help fix the situation. Any time a person makes you stop eating, is a bad time. *hugs*

*makes a face* My dad and I aren't getting along very well either. I personally can't wait until I graduate. Only one more year, thank god.

But to reply to you, I can only agree with Amp. What you think about yourself is more important in the long run than what he thinks about you. *hugs*

uh get away from your dad?

really you need to stop thinking that you exist to live up to his dreams, the only person whose dreams should matter to you are yours