Ok, well im only 14 and i slept with my boyfriend and i admit it wasn't the greatedt idea. I recently told a couple of friends about it and that was fine. However today i got taken out of a school lesson because our school counselor neede to talk to me. Well i found out that someone had told her/she had found out about it all. So what i want to know is, is there student-teacher confidentiality? and should i try to find out which of my friends, if any told? and how?

I honestly don't think it's any of the school's buissiness[sp] if you're having sex or not. If you didn't do in the janitor's closet at school, but at home, they don't have the right to but in. But if you had sex, and ended up pregnant, or with an STD, that's when the school has to come in and have a discussion with your parents about it.

Pregnancy at our school district is handled by removing the pregnant student out of school to another school for "troubled" kids, which is pathetic.

But to answer your question, if you want your counselor to keep it a secret, she should. If you tell her to keep it confidential, she has to as long as you're not in danger.

Thanks all you have been a great help, i have already broken up with his, sorry i should have said!

colyn though you may feel that its best to contain the issue from everyone,

I see it more important to adress your folks yourself before anyone else gets a chance.

lets put it this way, lets say your boyfriend cheats on you and you find out through someone else, how would you feel, lets say he comes to you later and says he was scared to hurt your feelings, by this point what feelings did he not hurt....

now lets say your boyfriend cheats on you and before anyone else knew he took you to the side and confessed to you privately and gave you the respect in letting you be the first to hear it from him, you will prbably still hate him, but at least he had the balls to own up to what he did and be straight up about it.....


now your parents are in your position and you choose how it goes, cause one situation or the other is bound to happen, you choose how you get to walk away, standing up for your self, or cowardly hunched over.

That's student-counselor confidentialilty so you should be fine unless it's something major like your suicidal or pregnant. You know something your folks absolutely need to know about.

As to what to do with your friend that's really up to you mate I'm sure you could find out possibly by asking the counselor or just by asking your friends but it can/will really jack your relationship up with that person, though honestly they already have by going to the counselor with something that's your buisness