Hi, Im a freshman, and one of my good friends cuts, ALOT. I cant say i flly blame her, she has problems with her parents (ones a drug addict, and the other just isnt very loving). We both 'like' each other alot, but we are going out...yet Anyways, the only reason i know about this is that she trusts me enough to tell me this and made me promise not to tell anyone, but she really needs the help, and i dont know what to do. HELP?!

Well, I think that you should try to get her away from there as fast a s possible... she has no love or caring people there so no wonder shes cutting herself.... if she has other relatives she should confide in them if u really care for her...... so try to talk to your parents and see what they think but tell them not to approach her because u promised not to tell anybody anything.. to make sure she doesn't feel embarassed and she taked the next step which is suicide...try to be there for her all th way ok.... good luck to u two and never give up because that might be the last thing u do to her

dont threaten her wiht friendship..that wont work...you need to let her know you're there for her...i used to cut..you can always punch a pillow or scream..if it was like me..i had to see the blood..so i dont know if those things will help..cutters dont cut to kill themselves..cutters cut to control pain

Threaten her with your frienship. Hey, if it worked for me it can work for her. I almost lost my best friend over depression and s-i (not just cutting). Try it. Seriously. Don't use scare tactics either. Those are overdone, even though true. She'll just blow it off as coming from an adult-like figure. Believe it or not. Just don't do that. Or. You could be there for her and stand by while she does this. Two options. I don't really like to give advice.

Do NOT nark. Trust me, she will be pissed. As a friend it is your responsibility to help her and comfort her at the same time. Hang out with her more, cheer her up. Give her a list of things to do rather than cut. It is a hard habbit to break, so stay with her on this. If you end up telling it wont be a good situation. She will probably get sent to therapy (if not already) and be picked apart like a meal for a vulture. The vulture being the therapist. That will most likely result in her having to become a pill popper. -.- Which by all means is bull-****!

Thank you to Stuckonsushi, iamastar, AND Kerry001 (Always glad to meet a fellow democrat) as for the rest of (i.e. the flamers) I think that i did do the right thing...and besides its completely anonomyus

I think that you should keep that trust that she's given you and talk to her. You need to tell her that it's not ok that she is cutting herself, and she needs help. Tell her she can see a counselor or go to an anonymous group. And offer to go with her for moral support to show her that you truly do care. And if she refuses try to talk to her and get to the reasoning for her cutting. Try to have a serious and meaningful conversation with her about it. That as well will show her that you care. I'm here to help if you need me.

She trusted you with the news that she is hurting herself. If she puts that much trust in you to tell you that shouldn't you trust yourself to do the right thing and get help for her?

Trust is one thing, that should be kept.
But when someone is having major problems like this, especially when it involves hurting themselves and the possibility of death, action should be taken. What if they do die, and you had kept the trust? Trust after the damage is already totally done is worth less than zero.

If someone has serious issues, are you going to let them suffer but keep their trust?

I second gemini's view.

Look at that. You told us. You've already violated the sanctity of her trust and you're her prospective significant-other? You're just screwed.

huh........... let me put it like this you can either risk her friendship and get her police or mental help OR you can risk that shell be wounded for the rest of her life and not tell. sorry, but its that simple.