i just found out. i called my friend anthony and i said, " you know i haven't heard from jake in a while have you?" and he hung up. so i left him a comment on myspace that said the same thing. he wrote back saying "im sorry i had to find out through a friend. jake died a while ago. im sorry you had to find out this way." it was always just me and anthony and jake. always. he was the funnest and nicest person anyone could ever meet. he was always there for anyone who needed help. now theres no one to go to. how can i get over it?

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my goldfish died. it only lived for a day thouh after i bought it

If you can't be serious on a serious thread, don't respond.

To some people who have no where but here to turn due to societal stigmas, that is an insulting comment.

my goldfish died. it only lived for a day thouh after i bought it

hey when my friend died someone said to me that i need to live for her... you need to live his life for him and u have to do that by being positive and trying to do what u think he would want u to do. i know its really hard but just think someone has it harder...

the day i found out my best friend died, i woke up to my mom sitting in my room with a box of tissues and a picture of my best friend and i in her hand. i knew something was wrong from the moment i looked at her face.. all she said was "linds was in an accident" and thats all i need to hear, i just knew. i couldnt eat for days, i couldnt leave my room, i couldnt talk to anyone. i just sat in my bed staring at the dress i layed out for the fureral. i like what someone else said "dont give up on yourself." after my best friend died i stopped living too i had told myself over and over again that things would never get better. i fell into a hole that i couldnt get out of and in the end i only hurt myself. my friend died the summer of 04 and i still havent gotten over it and i dont know if i every will. but there isnt a day in my mind that goes by that i dont think about her and how much i miss her..the only thing that gets me through is knowing that she is with me in my heart everyday!

i have found the worst thing is when you lose what is most precious, when you dont know what to do, when you dont know what to say- but you still know how you feel.

but then i think about what she feels- shes not in pain anymore and she is happy. so in return thats all i can be- happy!

wow all this talk about car crashes... my other friend was hit by an 18 wheeler thursday and his grandma died but he's ok ^^ he had some problems but they healed pretty quickly. they wired his jaw shut but thats it. sux. he's on a liquid diet now

hey i am sorry that you had to find out like that but i had to find out about my best friend dying over the phone... it was horrible but you will just learn how to work withouth them i know its hard trust me i know but dont give up on anything especially yourself cause that is the worse thing that could happen and a year from now you may not be over it but sooner or later you will get over it trust me its been 1 year since my best friend died and i am still not over..... oh yeah dont push people away either cause just because youare hurting doesnt mean you can hurt other people!!!

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My best friend was just killed in a car accident

I hate cars. Too many accidents cause too many people grief.

i hate cars cuz i have already been in a couple accidents and cars have killd 2 of my good friends i hate driving and barelt drive becuase of all the accidents! but u guys r right u dont just get over it but u do deal w it everyday i sit in spanish class and stare at the door waiting for my best friend to walk through th door but i get let down when i remember the fact that she was killed ill always miss her but also remember the dorky times had together!!!

Pretty much. My uncle died last year, and I didn't even consider telling my dad anything like that. All we could say to him was, I love you.

I meant that I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad. FinasGod4 was good about pointing out that not a lot of people appreciate those comments .

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I didn't realize that trying to be helpful could sound so selfish.

Chipsandfish, could you please explain your statement. I don't understand what you mean by it.

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It has nothing to do with you, but I just thought I'd say that.

I didn't realize that trying to be helpful could sound so selfish.

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I'm sure Jake would like to see you happy and remembering the best times you had with him.

I know you're trying to be helpful, and IThinkTwice may appreciate it, but I recently lost a close friend, and I just realized how much I hate those comments.

It has nothing to do with you, but I just thought I'd say that.

Other hated when meant to be helpful comments:
"He's with Jesus"
"It was all part of God's plan"
"You need to let him go"
"You need to move on"

I'm really sorry about what happened. Loosing someone you value, trust and enjoy being with is the hardest thing in the world. Allow yourself to express what you feel because if you keep it inside you, things could get worse. But go easy on yourself.

Smile and pray. I'm sure Jake would like to see you happy and remembering the best times you had with him. It also helps if you could let out all you're feeling. If you need someone to talk to I'm always here . Take care!

I'm really sorry. Give it time. I've lost people I'm close to, too. It's not really something you get over, but you learn to cope with it. At first I hated thinking of the bad times, because they made me feel like a bad person. And I hated thinking of the happy times because I knew there would be no more happy times between us. But in the end, life goes on. Try talking to someone you trust, because talking often helps people feel better. We're here for you, and if you want to talk my AIM is in my profile...

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My best friend was just killed in a car accident

I hate cars. Too many accidents cause too many people grief.

You don't get over it. Things like that never leave you.

My best friend was just killed in a car accident i unfortunitly no what you are going through and it was just a few weeks ago!! i miss her so much and everything i said to her makes me feel like im a bad friend!! but we have to remember all the positive moments we had with them so we can keep that bright smile on our faces!!!

thanks. and its just that, hes the first person i've ever lost that i was close too. i mean, yeah family members have died but no one i really knew. that was the only time i've cried over someones death. i wanna forget but then again i don't want to. i wanna pretend like this never happened and i never knew and he's gonna call tomorrow to tell me merry christmas.

yeah, we're here for u if u need us.