My friends mother just died of cancer yesterday and I want to be there for her and let her know She can talk to me about if she wants, but I'm confused on how to help her through this I dont want to be the one making her think so hard about her mothers death but I also dont want to come off as someone who doesnt care.

You are supposed to cry when someone is born, because they are born into a very mean world. And you are supposed to be happy when someone dies, because they are going to a better place. A place where there is no dying and no crying. A place called heaven. May God bless u all. Be strong.

My gramma just died. I wasn't that close to her, but everyone else was....

Thanks everyone your advice has helped me alot

Be willing to listen. Be willing to give a shoulder to cry on, but also suggest fun activites. Don't try and make your friend forget her, but encourage her to go one with her life as the grief passes.

I had a friend who lost her mother two years ago so my best advice is to let her grieve. Let her know that if she needs or wants to talk that you'll be there for her. Just be there for her as a friend and don't be hurt if she doesn't come to you right away. Letting her know you are there when she needs someone and letting her have her space until she needs someone is essiental. Don't push her into talking to you because that will just push her away. When she is ready to talk she will talk. I am sure for her just knowing you are there when she's ready makes her feel good.

Your presence matters more than anything else. As Sunset said, she'll talk to you when she's ready. Until then, just spending time with her will let her know that you're ready to listen when she's ready to talk.

Let your friend know how much you care about her. Tell her you are there for her ,let her know she can come to you to talk. Ask her if there is anything you can do. It is important to be sensitive of course.If and when she is ready to talk about it , she will know she has you, and I'm sure that will mean alot to her. You sound like a very caring, good friend.

Just let her know that she can talk to you when she is ready, and if she doesn't want to talk, that's fine. People who lose family members don't want to talk at first and want to be left alone. They're so many different stages. She'll come to you when she is ready. She should know you care.
-Sunset

She was battleing cancer for about 4 years and they wernt expecting her to live very much longer. Its scarying me what is happening to our world I know of 4 people with cancer that are very close to me and its becoming more common

Don't be afraid to bring it up. Its not like you can just not think about it, especially when it happened resently. Just basically be there for her, like a shoulder to cry on. Ask her about her mom, you know, reminiss. You said her mom died of cancer. So it was expected right? how long did she have it, was she in hospice care at all? i hope i can help you more.