i'm new here, this is my first post, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has had someone break up with them just because you were ready to commit to a person, and their not... after six months of off and on dating... she tole me that she liked me, just didn't love me. so has anyone else been in this situiation?

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well, i've gone out w/ alot people, and not just one group... but I've only had feeling like these this time. I know that she LIKES me and she know's i'm *in* love with her, but she just can't find anyway to feel the same way about me that i feel about her. well atleast, according to her.

Well, don't force it. Give your love to someone who wants it or else you're gonna be very miserable, more so than now.

Sorry to hear that, and I am sorry if my fisrst post didn't make you feel any better; It is just that I, also, have been in that situation before, and it does hult like this is the end of the world.

well, i've gone out w/ alot people, and not just one group... but I've only had feeling like these this time. I know that she LIKES me and she know's i'm *in* love with her, but she just can't find anyway to feel the same way about me that i feel about her. well atleast, according to her.

If the two are in love, then the commitment is worth it. Exclusive relationships are worth the wait if it is based on love and commitment. Otherwise, you're chasing a bird that doesn't fly.

And yes, I have been in that situation before. And it hurts like hell.

I love the feeling of knowing I'm with someone that I love and will be with for a long time. I don't know, I just feel safe and that I could trust that person. Also, I don't understand how you can love someone and not want to give them everything (in all meanings) of you.

I guess I'm pro-commitment then.

From the other side of the coin, I've had people break up with me, and I've broken up with others, because I don't like committment. It bothers me to think that out of the billions of people in the world, you can really, truly only love one person.

I've been with my current boyfriend for two years. Do I love him? Sure. Am I *in* love with him? No. He's fully aware that I'm not into committment and I have no plans to marry.

Your girlfriend should have told you she wasn't into committment when you began dating seriously. It's unfair to spring that upon someone. However, there's nothing much you can do now. Just gotta move on.

yeah, i understand she might not be ready... but the thing is, we've gotten so comfortable, it's just going to be really hard not to just get her out of my, but her whole family loves me, and i love her family.

I am sorry, but that is her problem. and you can't really do anything about it. Don't complain. Sorry.

thanks, that does help some... but some things just don't add up, like for instance, she led me on and never gave a hint it wasn't working to me, and one thing that threw me for a loop is that she was complaining (i found this from very reliable friends taht go to her school) that a haven't had sex, let alone with her, the ironic thing is that I was planning on giving myself to her on our next date (when i got my car fixed which will be early january)... i guess her loss... right?

One of my exs dumped me cause she could'nt commit. Good thing too she was very abusive. But that was her excuse, she could'nt commit. Among the normal parents, school and friends drama, my favorite excuses.

If she doesn't want a commitment than that's her issue. Maybe she has her reasons. It may seem like it's the end of the world but you have to think of dating (in terms of breaking up) like this: When you date someone you are just window shopping for the one you spend the rest of your days with. I hope this helps.