i am currently dating a guy that is 7 years older then me. i am 16 and he is 23.. we have known eachother for about 4 and 1/2 years, and have been actually going out for about 3 months now. he is a great guy, we have alot in common, and he's not all about sex, actually, he is believes in keeping sex for when ur married which is one of the best things about him! the only thing is, is that he doesn't want to tell alot of his friends about us. Should i be mad? i can kind of understand y he would be hesitant about it, being im still in skool and all, and that one of his friends has had a bad situation with a younger girl, but we've been together for3 months, should i be mad that he doesn't want his friends to know?
well i propose that we petition to get the legal age of consent separated from the age of adulthood. let the new age of consent be...(cue drumroles)...16! i mean, come on, its not like a 16 year-old is too imature to be able to agree to sex or not. whos with me?!
age is jus a number to me it shouldn't mean anything as long as u love that person... but we have to deal with the law and all of that but i mean that jus the way i feel about things..
Personally, I believe that it is alright for you to be with this guy as long as you are responsible and careful. for all I know, you might be very mature for your age.
but a word of warning...a friend of mine who is a player/casanova told me once that occasionally to get a girl in bed, he would say that he is not interested in getting her into bed. He would pay attention to the girl in the beginning, and later start ignoring her. alarmed, the girl would push him into bed, thinking that in doing so, he will become attentive to her. Instead, it had the opposite effect. He dumped her after getting what he wanted. I am not saying that your bf or a lot of guys wud do such a thing, but it will be better to be careful.
If sex does come up, it would be a crime for himt o have sex with you, as you are still a minor and not of consenting age.
7 years is not really that big of a gap IF YOU ARE OLDER. I think anyone college-aged or older who is willing to go out with a high schooler (no offense intended towards you) is a bit of a creep...but that is just me. I am now a college sophomore, and I would not consider going out with a guy in HS because even though there oculd only be 2 years between us, there is just still such a life experiences gap...
"Never doubt that a small group of committed people can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has." --Margaret Mead
hey guys! i just want to thank all of you for posting your thoughts!!! its been cool to read them even tho i don't agree with all of them! me and boyfriend are now entering our 8th month together and its going awesome! some of his friends no, but not all of them... but i am okay with that! the best part of it is that sex hasn't even come up at all!
"Life and shame are never equal to death and glory."
Age does matter, especially with gaps over 2 years. It doesn't really matter once you and your love interest are both around 25 or older, because by this time you have (hopefully) matured and grown wiser in the wiles of others.
With your particular case, I suggest being very careful. Not only are you and your boyfriend not really that old, but your gap is 7 years. Not to mention that you are under age. Legally, that doesn't look so good.
Also, you have to watch out. He may say he doesn't want you only for sex, but what people say and what they actually think and do are totally different things. If he ever, and I mean ever even suggests sex before you are at least 18, you should try your best to detach your heart from him and get away. If he really loves you, he will not think to put you in that position, even for a minute, because he knows that you are legally under age and should not be ready for anything sexual for a few more years.
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Well I'm 17 and when i'm oout; hanging out with friends i find ALOT of older guys are attracted 2 me..but relati0nship wise my EX was 19 and i was 17.and when we met i was 17. when i introduced him to my mother she was totally fiine with it!!!!!!!!!!!! and so was my family!
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Well, i´m 15, and i think age don´t matter, it does matter in some ways, like...when you´re getting maried, having kids..all then things. I have 1 problem, i am 15, and i like this girl but shes 18..so..what shall i do..i don´t think there s a big age problem, only 3 years, anyway, wat do yous think???
I am seriously dating someone who, well, it is illegal for me to date. He is much older than I am. But, we're happy together. The only thing to keep in mind is not to show much PDA or people will get suspicious.
Beautiful thing, let not your petals wilt, perversion is going against your own power and ambition, my dear, my Lolita.
well i'd probably be a bit mad too if i had an older boyfriend and he didnt want to tell people about us, but id understand too because if i were dating a younger guy, even if i liked him a lot i probably wouldnt tell many people. Also, in some states (inluding mine, Vermont), the age of consent is 16, not 18. you should check though, if you guys ever do go that far, cause it depends on what state you live in.
I have a friend whose really close to me and she is in the sixth grade. she is dating a tenth grader. that's what grade i'm in. i do feel that age does matter because older people expect more things in a relationship. when i was in sixth grade i was really shy about holding hands with my boyfriend. i feel that our generation is maturing way more than we need to. we are acting woy to old for our age. don't wish your lives away. your only a child for a little while and then your a adult for the rest of your life. take advantage of it!!that's it for now!! latah ~varsitycheer00
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