I think this belongs more in philosophy but more people will see it here.

This is kinda complicated to ask about so bear with me.

I noticed this through the whole ordeal with my bf. As most of you know, he left a week ago for boot camp. I think I am having a hard time comprehending how long he will be gone and how much he will change and how much this may affect our relationship. I know in my head that I will not see him again until September and that I will hear from him little. I know that.

But I don't think I've fully realized it. In my head, I know it and I understand it but I don't think I have realized the situation to its full extent and how much I will be affected.

So this leads to this particular subject: Have you ever known something in your head, known it was true, but not fully realized it? If so, did you ever fully comprehend the extent of it? If so, how did that affect you?

How can we know something in our heads and know it is true but not realize the weight of it?

guys, I don't even know if I'm asking the right questions. This is really confusing. When you respond, don't just respond about my boyfriend (*cough*hydrok*cough*). That was just how I came about this particular question. Just let me know your thoughts.

This isn't really what I meant. I told you I didn't know how to explain.

I'm not devastated or surprised or even very sad. I know all that this situation may bring.

And yet, I can't seem to fully grasp the concept. I'm perfectly fine---just, I feel like I'm ignorant all most on the situation.

GAH! I don't know how to explain the subject!

My old dog lived to be 18. I knew that she was really old and that she couldn't physically live much longer. However, when she died, I was devastated.

It was like that with 9/11. I saw the pictures on the screen, I saw the video footage, and I just sat there with my eyes glazed over. It was only much later that I finally realized just what had happened. It was the weirdest thing. All throughout 9/11 and shortly after that, nothing. Then a year later, I was sitting in my history class on September 11, 2002 when my teacher put in a memorial video about 9/11 and I nearly broke down. Crazy how those things work, eh?

Yeah, I know what you mean, hell I went through the same exact thing as you, worthwaitingfor, my boyfriend is in the military. I kinda came to realize now that things can't stay the same forever. I think it's kinda human nature to want things to be perfect and happy and to stay that way, sometimes we just overlook and ignore the full extent of things/ thoughts that disprove those happy things. No matter how much we want things to stay the same we just got to realize that they can't.

Yes, this happens to me a lot...in fact with my last boyfriend I knew he hid something from me, and what, but since I wanted to keep faith in him I just pretended to know nothing.

Sometimes we refuse to acknowledge the truth because, like in your situation and mine, it hurts.