Am I a bully?
Nope, I get bullied

I was bullied a lot in grammer school. The girls would be all nice to me and get copy work from me. Then they will spread rumors and talk about me. Some were violate. The boys would say or do sexual things to me. The rest of the kids just ignored me. I basically had no friends but I lived.

Yea, I cried and hated myself for it. The girls made me feel inferior and the boys made me feel dirty.

I finally did get friends. Guys who didn't want sex and girls who weren't monsters.

My mom knew, she went to school to make a complaint but it didn't stop. You being the bigger person and ignoring doesn't stop it. You just have to learn to deal with it. Know you are better than that. There is nothing wrong with you. They are just being pathetic, they probably jealous. It's not worth your time. It hurts but know you are wonderful the way you are. There is always someone out there that could be your friend rather than your bully.

I'm not a bully but if my son or dughter becomes once, I will kick their behind so hard that they might have to call soical services on me. I will not let someone in my house disrespect other people and if they are getting bullied, oh it's on!

I was bullied a little while i was in elementary school. dont throw intilletual word games at a bully, because he is most likely not intellectual. to stop a bully you must speak their language. fight them....put up your fists and throw punches. every time you are bullied fight. you may win against bullies because often bullies are bravado, but even if you lose just the fact that you fight him every time he comes your way will deter him.

a bully is a personality that likes to pick on weak people that cave in. sortof a sadistic control freak.Bullies often have problems that run deep, but that is a reason why they bully, not an excuse.

dont be a *****, fight your bully. beat the **** out of him. not only will you stop being bullied, you will feel soo much better about youself.

also there are kids who bully you with words. same deal. fight him or her. if this kid just keeps abusing you verbally give the kid a couple of warnings and then lay him or her out. The kid will never speak another word to you

All through grades 1,2 and 3 i was bullied by this one really mean kid in my year, it was really hard and i had no way of stopping it. My mom even spoke to the kid but he didnt stop. So my answer, i started taking karate. I am know a black belt and in 6 monthes have to register with the police station since i am classified as a lethal weapon. The kid now wets himself whenever i walk near him

Not the greatest answer to bullying but it unintentionally worked, just the mere fact that he knew i was more capable now of bullying him back stopped him

You could stop a bully with ease by just saying stuff that are mean but true. Then he will stop cause does not want to others to know. If you threaten him with inteliggent stuff that are true then you will scare him.

everyone I had bullied turning against me.

Here's a wierd question, has anyone ever read the story "The girl that wouldn't talk"? Its about a little japenese girl that terrorized another little girl because she (the bully) saw all of her own weaknesses and insecurities in this little girl and it was her way of trying to get over it. In the end, the bully ended up way worse than the bullied, but i think that there is a lot of truth to that. Bullies are not these barbaric animals, they are people too, and they most likely have some major internal issues with themselves. Of course that doesn't give them the right to do what they do, but it should effect the way that the problem is dealt with.

If i were a bully the thing that would make me stop is to see the tears of a person being bullied roll down there face. I was once in that postion where i would be bullied and its no joke at all. Your feelings can get hurt and for some people it causes them to loose there self esteem. I feel that bullying should be taken care of in the schools because bullying has made it where at one time i couldn't stand school. But now i have a higher self esteem and feel twice as better now that i know that it wasn't me but the person that was doing the bullying

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Originally posted by jbrule33:

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Originally posted by Hydrok:
I'm sorry but bullies are kinda funny, all they are is insecure little ****** that think that they need to put some one else down to feel good about themselves. If you dont let em bug you they cant feel good about themselves, so if they harrass you or whatever, play along, and dont act homophobic, that invites attention.

I'm sorry that you feel that bullies are sort of funny because to the person that they are bullying they are anything but...I know a boy who is bullied and it hurts him everyday and if I could I would pound the p*** out of every kid that made him feel bad about himself adn to make them feel how he did just once would make it all better but it won't so we go on and on until we are adults who have to deal with the crap that made us end up the way we do.....sad but a true statement

Thanks for that you are a wonderful person to be on here giving the advice you do....I'll certainly let him know all about the topic on hand and that you are their to listen

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I'm a brain bully, I like making people feel inferior to me. The thing that makes me stop is when people are as smart as I am or smarter.

Same here.

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I'm sorry that you feel that bullies are sort of funny because to the person that they are bullying they are anything but...I know a boy who is bullied and it hurts him everyday and if I could I would pound the p*** out of every kid that made him feel bad about himself adn to make them feel how he did just once would make it all better but it won't so we go on and on until we are adults who have to deal with the crap that made us end up the way we do.....sad but a true statement

I don't think Hydrok meant that the bullying they do is funny. But them, themselves. They are insecure about themselves and need the attention they get by brining others down. They have issues to deal with but aren't comfortable with addressing so they just try to make others feel miserable. By laughing with them, and making equal jokes and showing that it doesn't get to you then they aren't getting the attention that they were after. If it's physical bullying that is being done, that's a bit different and she be handled more seriously. He should talk with his principal and teachers and tell them what's been going on. I wish him the best of luck, and let him know that he is a much better person than them, which is why they feel the need to bring him down to their level of ignorance. He is better and stronger for not retaliating in a violent manner. If he ever needs someone to talk to, you can NOISEmail me if you'd like and I would be more than happy to reassure him that he is a great person.

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Originally posted by Hydrok:
I'm sorry but bullies are kinda funny, all they are is insecure little ****** that think that they need to put some one else down to feel good about themselves. If you dont let em bug you they cant feel good about themselves, so if they harrass you or whatever, play along, and dont act homophobic, that invites attention.

I'm sorry that you feel that bullies are sort of funny because to the person that they are bullying they are anything but...I know a boy who is bullied and it hurts him everyday and if I could I would pound the p*** out of every kid that made him feel bad about himself adn to make them feel how he did just once would make it all better but it won't so we go on and on until we are adults who have to deal with the crap that made us end up the way we do.....sad but a true statement

Being bullied in front of all the ppl that i had bullied

im the bullyed not the bully but i dont understand why somepeople seem to enjoy hurting other people. i dont think it gets us anyway except more pain.

I'm a brain bully, I like making people feel inferior to me. The thing that makes me stop is when people are as smart as I am or smarter. I hate it when people pick on people just for physical reasons, that doesn't prove anything but that you are a neanderthal with nothing better to do then, "Krunk smash, Krunk eat food, Krunk play game, Krunk smash again!" etc. Yeah, Using your mind is better. And if you use it to encourage others to sharpen their minds you have made things better, if you use your size to hurt people you've made things worse.

As a victim of viscious bullying in grade school, I found that it stopped not only as i got older but as i started dressing dark and being *****y to jackasses. But i guess if i was a bully, i'd stop if someone tried to or exceeded in killing themself.

I'll just say that I was a bully once and I did it because misery loves company. I was a mess and my way of making myself feel better was to make others feel bad with me. It was completely subconscious, though. Now, when I look back at how I treated people and when people tell me how horrible I made them feel, I almost want to crawl under a rock and disappear. It's so embarrassing to hear stuff like that because now, I couldn't imagine being mean to anyone the way I was. Not that I'm any happier, but I've just found other ways to deal with my unhappiness. I can't bring others down with me, because it doesn't solve anything.

I think my breaking point was when my teacher told me how bad my comments made her feel and how she cried sometimes from the stress that I caused her. I realized, "Girl, you are a ****ing lowlife". She may have been lying through her teeth, but it worked. Bullies aren't heartless, you just need to say the right thing. Some have harder shells to penentrate, but in the end, most if not all bullies can be broken.

I'm sorry but bullies are kinda funny, all they are is insecure little ****** that think that they need to put some one else down to feel good about themselves. If you dont let em bug you they cant feel good about themselves, so if they harrass you or whatever, play along, and dont act homophobic, that invites attention.

congrats to those who found befriending a bully will make them stop. for me speeking out never worked, neither did fighting back, ignoring them did not work either, i should know it has not worked for the past 3 years. one of the hardest things one can do is to face those who hurt you and ask to be friends. for if you do you, if your like me, could bein constant fear of torment. hats off to those who do not though.

I think being a bully can destory someone mentally for the rest of your life if you let it.I was bullied for a long time and for a while it made me nervous to trust people but if people take time out of their lives to be on your butt like that 24/7 then you must be doing something right.If I was a bully what would make me stop would be if I actually saw how the person was dealing with it mentally and someone sitting me down and making me realizing.

bullying is innitiated by someones own self-conscienceness. people do stupid stuff because the almost like over-compensating for their problems. their self-esteem is low but they are gonna make sure yours is lower. you just have to stand up to them