Everyone says that abstince isn't the only thing to be taught when educating teens about sex. Alot of the things that we learn about sex is what is learned from teachers, health books and just plan curiosity. I'm just wondering if maybe if anyone thinks that parents should be responsible for teaching their kids about sex, birth controls, etc? And just how much should schools be allowed to teach? I feel that a parent has a certain obligation to talk to their children about such a thing not just preach to them about how wrong sex is and how they would be disappointed in them if they found out they did. Saying things like could possibly ruin the parent/child relationship because if the child does choose to do it, they are going to want to keep it from their parents. How do you all feel about this?

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I think that parents should be held respsonsible for teaching their kids about sex

Agreed. Then we don't have to worry about the abstinence only stuff and people that need to learn about sex and everything it entails still can at school, possibly. And if they need more, the uneducated parents that know nothing about birth control and STDs can teach them. I'm sorry, but I really think it would only work in an abstinence-only perspective. And that will never cover every teen.

I think that parents should be held respsonsible for teaching their kids about sex. I don't think that parents should rely on teachers, the media, and the net to infrom their kids about sex because these sources aren't always going to know where to draw the line about where to stop giving the information. Some parents may not want their kids to know everything.

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My mom always gave me a very honest answer to all my sex question. She talked to me on birth controls and not only abstinence, for example. She gave me options so I could make wise choices about sex.

The problem with this is that some parents are not close to their kids so they won't talk to them about it. Others don't want to answer the questions. And some make the most stupid mistake of all, teach only one option and not on things such as birth control. Their children are the ones who later on get pregnant at early ages.

Well, atleast ya learned somehow My mother (single-parent) never told me either. Everytime I'd ask a question she would give a silly sarcastic reply. I learned most of it through Sex Ed and health classes. Also alot of peers were trying it and telling me some things.

i agree with you, parents shouldn't fuss at their kids, but encourage them not to have it until they are married. b/c once the guy gets your virginity, he'll never come back. thing is they should at least tell us enough so that we understand what is going on. me? i had to learn how it was done by watching the dogs!

Parents have always had an obligation to teach them about sex, meaning: what it actually is, abstinence, birth control, STDs, etc. My parents taught me abstinence and that's about it but I learned the rest of it from sex ed classes and my friends.

The school also has an obligation to teach them about sex, meaning: what it actually is, abstinence, birth control, STDs, etc. The reason being that there are parents who won't teach their children all of this, if any of it at all. If you want to reduce the amount of pregnant teenagers in your school, you have to teach them something other than abstinence. Abstinence is a great thing but not all teenagers are going to follow that plan and need to be taught what to do and how to take care of themselves if they do have sex. It's the only logical reasoning.

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Originally posted by jamaica17:
I think it is even better that parents are the ones who teach them this because parents are the ones closer to the kids than anyone. Also, it is an advantage because parents will never give bad influence

This is not necessarily true. Sometimes kids and parents aren't very close in their relationship at all and would feel uncomfortable talking about sex. And it's not necessarily true that parents will never give bad influence. It's entirely possible that they will. Some parents are lax in their child-caring and just let the kid do whatever they want, including sex. This why kids need to get the information somewhere else (as well as home) in case they're not getting good information from home.

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however, when it comes to friends, many kids would tend to follow them so it is important that they hear about sex ed from their own parents first.

Why are you assuming that hearing about sex from friends is a bad thing? It can be. But if you surround yourself with intelligent people, they'll give you intelligent answers to your questions (including ones about sex). I learned part of what I know from my friends and I still a virgin. Learning from friends isn't always a bad thing.

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I think all porn stuff and the media are the ones teaching kids about doing sex.

I don't really agree with this. I think the only kids who go out and have sex because of the meida are the idiot ones who don't know how to make their own choices---or ones who were going to do it anyways.

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Parents should have the responsibility in bringing up their kid.

Parents already do have this responsibility from the moment they give birth to a child. It's just that not all of them do it or use this power wisely.

I think parents DO have the obligation to teach their kids, not just from books or in school. I think it is even better that parents are the ones who teach them this because parents are the ones closer to the kids than anyone. Also, it is an advantage because parents will never give bad influence, however, when it comes to friends, many kids would tend to follow them so it is important that they hear about sex ed from their own parents first. As they say, it is in the home where you learn all the things from the time you were born. I think sex isn't bad as long as you don't treat it casually. That is what makes sex degrading. Like, if you have sex with someone, and then another and still another. I think all porn stuff and the media are the ones teaching kids about doing sex. Sometimes, I even don't understand why parents are not really doing anything about their kids' actions, where they go to, whom they are going with and such stuff. Parents should have the responsibility in bringing up their kid.

I agree. parents have a certain obligation as parents to inform their children.

I think parents have an obligation to talk to their kids about sex, but if they fail to do so (and you know some of them will) the school should at least make sure kids aren't doing unsafe things and not knowing the consequences/alternatives

I just realized that I should have started in this in the sex and health part, but Oh well. Im sorry. But please tell me what you all think.