It may just be me, but lately the word "love" has been thrown around carelessly from person to person, and I think that this word should stop being thrown around and taken seriously, because it has hurt many of my friends.

Here's a story about something that happened to not one, but two of my friends. I'll put it in list form.

-They(Both my friends) had their very first "relationship"
-The guy asked them out and they said yes.
-After about 2 days of hand-holding, or in one of my friends case, seven days of talking on the phone, both boys said they loved the girl.
-Both girls took it very seriously and told everyone about it. They were sure that the boy really loved them.
-Each girl was dumped between 1-2 days after the guy said that he loved her.

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I really am not expert on love, but i'm pretty sure that after "going out" with a person for 2 or 7 days, you can't really be "in love".

But everyone seems to think that. Almost every friend i have has had a relationship where they went around telling their boyfriend that they loved him and he said it back, but then these relationships lasted, for the most, up to two weeks.

What i'm asking is, do you think that people are overusing the word love? And do they really mean it if they are using it? And do you think that it is alright to say that you love someone when you really don't?

Reply, i need insight.

Thanks,

EmmaPeace

This wouldn't be a problem if people talked to each other more often. And I mean really talked. The problem is that certain people throw the word love around even though they mean something different, but the person on the receiving end doesn't even question it. They just tend to say "Oh, s/he loves me! Yay!" and then get hurt when they find out it was just a slightly stronger version of "like" that the first person was using. Now, if they actually discussed the matter with their boyfriend or girlfriend, they probably wouldn't be as hurt.

In other words, it's not just the overuse of the word "love" that hurts. The jumping to conclusions hurts, too. Talking helps. Trust me.

My friend has been told I love you and she said it back but she didn't mean it so when she broke up with him she found out that he was really in love with her after about three months of dating. I agree that love is something that must be treasured for that special someone not just every boy/girl you have a relationship with. I have never personally been on a date but in my school i am the one everyone goes for love advice because i have learned from others mistakes. I think that if love is thrown around more it can hurt even more people and frankly i know that people are sensitive and it can really hurt to be crushed.

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I think love is a feeling that comes and goes, and it exists just as much as happiness and sadness do; temporarily but repeatedly. It's not a constant state of being, so it takes a while to be sure if you actually spend more time loving a person or not.
But personally, I think one month is long enough to fall in love with someone.

There are also so many types of love as well, that you really just can't define it. You can tell someone you love them, and mean something completely different than two other people telling others that they love them.

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Dear Youth Voice, I completely agree. You hit the nail on the heart.

Blessings

Oh...um...I had not seen that before. Thank you.

I think love is a feeling that comes and goes, and it exists just as much as happiness and sadness do; temporarily but repeatedly. It's not a constant state of being, so it takes a while to be sure if you actually spend more time loving a person or not.
But personally, I think one month is long enough to fall in love with someone.

OH YEAH, AND I THINK IF YOU ARE SAYING LOVE YOU WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR MAYBE 1 MONTH, THAT JUST MEANS YOU lust THAT PERSON....

i totally agree with EmmaPeace, word love is just said to be said, it doesnt mean anything anymore, for example, my cuzin was on the phone with this guy, she barely met, and he had asked her out the day before, and then one day after he asked her, here she is on the phone telling him, "Ilove you too." And i know she didn't mean it, - she's known for being with a new guy every week......so you get my point, DONT SAY IT, UNLESS YOU MEAN IT PEOPLE!!!!!

I think that you have to think about what your definition of love is. I personally classify it as if you had to you would take a million bullets for that one person, but other people have different definitions, so use your definitions and decide.

In my opinion love has now become lust. I mean teens getting pregnant at a young age and then breaking up. Love definenlty isn't love is overrated and turned into LUST!!!!!!!!!1

Dear Youth Voice, I completely agree. You hit the nail on the heart.

Blessings

I personally think that the term "in love" can be incredibly disastrous for teenagers today. I think that love should be just caring about one another and not completely devoting yourself just yet. In my experience it was actually deadly.


Agree or Disagree??

You're not alone, LTR.

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because we love it until we eat it.

I really need to stay out of the gutter sometimes. This was just to hard to resist pointing out though.

Well, the word 'love' is overused all the time. It it meant what it was supposed to mean to us, we wouldn't use it to describe chocolate & pizza & stuff like that- would we? because we love it until we eat it. then, it's just a thing of the past.

that's not love, now, is it?

it's not impossible for teens to fall in love. it happens, but very very rarely. and with the internet & texting & whatever, it's become very easy for kids to express things like that indirectly & not realize what they're saying. when they see that person in real life, it suddenly becomes really hard to say- ya know?

there are so many things that add to it. but yes, the word is overused constantly.

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Is there anyone else you happen to agree or disagree with? Information like that is really a substantial contribution to the discussion.

I agree with Khary. *laughs maniacally*

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and six months....

Of course I mean it. I told him I loved him for the first time when we had been going out for a month or so.

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Originally posted by tictacrulesforever:
I agree with AmourVie.

Is there anyone else you happen to agree or disagree with? Information like that is really a substantial contribution to the discussion.

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Originally posted by AmourVie:
I definitely think that people are overusing the word love. I don't think it means that much to teens in highschool but I think as you get older it means more.

I agree with AmourVie.

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I think there's really two separate issues here: the kids who use the word "love" to convey even the slightest affection, and the unfortunate saps who are prone to falling deep into an infatuation they think is true love after a single date.

And then there are those of us who are hopeless romantics and when we fall in love, we fall hard.