Hi... um, my friend just told me that her last boyfriend did something horrible to her. We all knew he was crazy coz he always threw fits... and stalked her... but now... I know... he's dangerous... if they'd been together any longer, he might have killed her. I cannot describe her what he did to her, but I can say it left permanent damage. She says, don't tell anyone. It's to embarrassing. But I say, justice... but then again... it isn't my business. BUT... this guy is still in town. He's crazy... and he could hurt others. What should I do? He did this to her months ago... could he still get in trouble for it??? Any advice would be great... please email me: silver_serpent_dancer@hotmail.com

I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know, just don't get involved with 'em. These kind of guys are really going to end up to be killers. They'r pretty sketchy.

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She says, don't tell anyone.

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Well, damn, there goes that promise! Now the whole internet knows.

-Nicole

No offense... just sounded cool.

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Pretend you REALLY REALLY REALLY love someone, to the point you'd go to hell in their place ( if you believed in it or knew for sure it was real) and someone hurt them and they told you but beeged to not to tell anyone. you knew you couldn't keep that quiet; it shouldn't be. it was wrong to not say anything but you don't want to hurt your loved one anymore than they already are. So you turn to some people you tihnk can help. How would you feel if someone said "nah this happened long ago just kill the thread"?

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I only truly love one person (this is not including my family, because I'm somewhat obligated to love them), and that person is Agnostic. If Hell existed, I'd be going there either way you look at it, and so would the person I love. So there's no, "I’d take your place" BS. I don't believe God would make those bargains anyway.

Back to what I said: KILL this thread.

jsut a question. Pretend you REALLY REALLY REALLY love someone, to the point you'd go to hell in their place ( if you believed in it or knew for sure it was real) and someone hurt them and they told you but beeged to not to tell anyone. you knew you couldn't keep that quiet; it shouldn't be. it was wrong to not say anything but you don't want to hurt your loved one anymore than they already are. So you turn to some people you tihnk can help.
How would you feel if someone said "nah this happened long ago just kill the thread"?
I'd be p!ssed

Kill it.

All you can do is support her. You cant change the past and memories cannot be erased. She needs to tell a counsilore. Some one expereance. That or talk to someone that the problem has also arisen in there lives. She obviously needs help. So I advise you talk to her and try to get her to see a counsilore. Thats all I have to say. Things will work out dont worry.

If it's up here someone's brought it back to life,maybe she got a different screename.
I just give advice in case they come back to look. better than nothing

___This topic is two years old and was written by a person who only logged onto YN once and never came back. Who is everybody talking to?

stupidity
I hear echoes all the time. Which one are you adressing?

you should tell and also your friend should talk to someone so she can get over what she went thru.
your friend needs help and that guy needs to be punished for what he did. He prolly will be. so tell but try to keep the attention of the public at a minimum. so tell for the better of things.

___*echo*..... Does nobody else hear it?

I know your friend will be mad but don't let it all over the place, keep it as quiet as possible, but if he's physically harmed her and it's permanent at that she's wrong to hide it. it'snot only unhealthy to her and unjust to both of them, but it's dangerous to everyone else

"""I went through the whole thing with an ex of mine"""
___Who are you talking to?

if i am correct than this guy is a real jurk and if i were you i would stay out of it cuz if you get him in trouble than he might come after you! but if it were me than i would just kick his a** and get it over with but thats me. if you want to help her do what she says and give her as much support as you can. But dont try to be a hero or you might end up with a double edged sword and you might lose your friend if you say anything but in the long run it might help her.

contact me if you want some more advice me email is: Accatudal@aol.com

Thank you, joyflgrrl, for responding. Your advice was right on. We here, at YouthNOISE respect your privacy, silverserpentdancer, and that of your friend, but it is our responsibility to make sure that you know there are places where you can get help.

Here are a few:

Start with your local authorities Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), 800-656-HOPE
Childhelp USA, National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-422-4453) and each state has their own sexual assault coalition. You can find a list of them here: http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/saresources.htm

The YN Team

This guy is still around, and he could and probably will do this to another girl. My advice would be to tyr to convince her to tell the authorities, her parents, a councelor, just someone who can help her out. If she was raped or beaten it is most likely too late to still have evidence, but if he is still stalking her, she can press stalking charges and get a restraining order. Try as hard as you can to get her to do something about it. If she won't, but you or someone else is afraid of him because of your connection to her, tell someone who can do something about it, legally. She could also get in touch with some women's support groups for survivors of domestic violence or rape, whatever he did to her. Check out the statute of limitation laws for your state to see if he can still be punished for his crime. Hope I could help.