I am 14 years old in eighth grade. I am 5'5 and weigh 98 pounds. I am not skinny because i think i am fat and keep losing weight i am skinny because of my metabolism, it is very fast and also my dad is very skinny as well. My friends tell me that they would die for my body because they think they are fat but then i have people coming up to me and asking if i am anorexic or they will ask my friends if i throw up after i eat. when i get into an argument with someone their come back is calling me an "anorexic bitch" which really makes me feel bad. i dont know what to do. i dont think i can gain weight its not my fault. i also come home crying some days because of the nasty comments about my weight. I refuse to wear short sleeves when i am in school or out with my friends. I am confused on what i should do ?

Riley, its quite normal for girls your age to be unconfident, what you need to do is realize you are who you are and except that and love yourself for that person. Takes a long time to come to that point, but its worth it when you get there.

I know that sounds really cliche, but its true anyway.

does anyone else have any suggestions. i am still not very confident. i mean will i ever get over ittt ?

I had that problem when I was your age, too. I was skinny all through middle school and high school. And I ate all the time! I actually tried to get fat for four months. Well, it didn't work. I'm still skinny and short, too. There's not much you can do about it, so just pretend it's life ( which it is ) and live it.

If you're healthy, that's really all that matters. If you wanna gain weight just for cosmetic appearance, Meg's advice is good. I would add that you might want to try counting the number of calories you eat in a week (don't let anyone know you're doing this, obviously), and then try to increase that number by 5% or so every other week after, until you stop at a high but reasonable number of calories a day. It's important to still go for a balanced diet -- ice cream and Snickers bars might be the quickest way to more calories, but for good health they need to be balanced out with all those other important things -- proteins and starches and the like.

I'm pretty much in your camp. I'm really really skinny, and I've tried a lot of methods to gain weight (everything but daily body-building, which I could never quite commit to for some reason), none of which have worked. You might simply be stuck being skinny until you're 25 or so. In the meantime, listen to your friends who say they're jealous of you!

You are not fat.

I was the same way up until middle school. I could eat absolutely anything and not gain a pound. People accused me of being anorexic and then bulimic...trust me when I say I know what you're going through.

The most important thing is, hard as it is, don't take their words to heart. Try to make a joke out of it or blow it off as best you can.

Make sure that you ARE eating, and don't ever talk about nutrition around your friends. You need to eat at least 3 solid meals a day. I don't care how much you weigh, it's healthiest to eat 3 meals a day. If you aren't a big eater, then you need to increase that number to at least 5. Always have munchies with you. If people realize that you do eat and that you really aren't trying to keep yourself so skinny, they will eventually leave you alone. I don't know how physically active you are, but if you are going to be working out you need to really up the caloric value of the foods you eat. Starting to do push ups every day will build up your arm muscles and may help you to feel less self conscious in t-shirts and tank tops.

Your weight will probably become more normal as you grow...I know I'm much more comfortable with my weight now than I used to be. I hope my advice helps, good luck!