It seems to be generally accepted that teenagers only have sex for the sake of having sex. Teenagers apparently can't experience love and never make informed, thought-out decision.

Now, most of us will agree that this is all a load of bunk. Teenagers are not all impulsive sex-fiends. Sure, some are. That's no surprise. But then, it's the 20-somethings who popularized the one-night stand.

At any rate, what do you all think about teenage sex? Do teens have the maturity necessary to make love, or even experience love? Have you ever had sex? Are you going to wait? Until when? Discuss at random.

I, for one, am going to lose my virginity on Monday. Yes, I realize it might seem odd that I know when it's happening. Heck, it seems odd to me. The thing is that my girlfriend and I decided long ago that we would wait until we had graduated from high school before we ever made love to each other. This was mostly my girlfriend's decision (she originally wanted to abstain until marriage but realized soon after puberty that it was a silly goal and settled for graduation), although I supported her fully in that decision.

Now, the graduation requirement was not the only one. Both of us made personal promises that we would never have sex with someone we didn't love. As I like to say, if it's not love, don't make it. However, it's very clear to both of us that we are deeply in love. This is not your average high school relationship. So that's why we both decided to take it to the next level. All we need is love, and we've got that.

So that's my story. Sorry if I came off as a little vain. I don't usually like to talk about myself, but I want to make it clear that even though we're still teenagers, we're mature enough to know what we're doing. I've yet to meet an adult who's understood that...

Why did I ever write this thread? I must have been high on Sharpies or something.

For once, I agree with EG: kill this thread, please.

Thanks for reviving this shit thread. Is Noismail not working anymore? Either way, I think this thread needs to be closed and/or deleted. I sometimes wonder if you pricks are trying to stress me out on purpose....

did you nail it yet kid?

Interesting thread. Kind of a tricky question though..
Teenagers sometimes do want to experiance sex because their frineds are doing it, i know what just sounds like "if your friends jumped of a bridge would you" but no, seriously. Two friends in my group have had sex and it hit hard when they came out and told us to one of my other friends. She felt unworthy in a way to not lose her virginty yet. So she jumped online and found some..very bad person. Thankfully, she diddn't go through with it. But you know, sometimes thinngs like that happen.

One of my close friends is deeply in love. It's almost like they are married. They are already talking of marrige a bit. But they have decided to wait because he doesnt want it to seem he's using her.

Me personally i want to wait until i'm 18 but if i fall in love and i know it's real then perhaps i would want to.

Actually, I'm just kidding. I'm not sorry. Just so you know...

No, actually. The timing didn't work out. Now she's in Hawaii, so we'll get together once she gets back. And while I doubt I'll regret it, I guess I'll see when the time comes.

Well, diddya fuck 'er?

No, seriously, do you regret your decision or what?

I know.. I was kind of wigging out at that point anyway. Anywho, back to the point of this thread....

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Originally posted by freedomordeath:
I'm sorry this is so random, but I just thought of who Celtic reminds me of.. Queen of the Damned, but with the Star Wars tune...

FOD you are so right...

Thats so funny...

Oh lord.

I'm sorry this is so random, but I just thought of who Celtic reminds me of.. Queen of the Damned, but with the Star Wars tune...

I'd discuss how my boyfriend views such, but I risk being killed when my mother reads this.

Not to be stereotypical...but I think that is more on the guys' end. Girls (around here anyway) still focus on the relationship aspect. Though, I do admit that a girl or two has asked me before what my boyfriend and I have done together. I told one of them because I'd known her since like birth but at the time we hadn't had sex. And she was surprised.

I think that's kinda wrong to assume that just because a couple has been together a long time they've had sex. Sure, we've done it now, but we still waited until we'd been together for a year and 3 months. His parents and my guy friends thought we were having sex long before we were (and some of my guy friends didn't believe me when I told them otherwise).

I think that as a society we've made sex to central we've made it the core of relationships (in general mind you) instead of a nice side effect from having a succesful relationship, your relationships these days tend to be judged not by how you and your partner interact with each other as people but by how much "action" your getting

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It seems to be generally accepted that teenagers only have sex for the sake of having sex. Teenagers apparently can't experience love and never make informed, thought-out decision.

This what I think my boyfriend's parents (and mine some of the time) are constantly thinking. Even though we have been together for a year and 8 months with most of that being long-distance and have remained loyal and faithful to each other. Hmmm...

What do I think about teenage sex? I think, too often, it is way too casual. I'm with you on the love requirement. I'm sick of hearing of all these people having sex without the love. Well, I wouldn't have such a problem with it if they were mature about having casual sex. But they are immature idiots who think that they will never ever get pregnant/get a girl pregnant or get any type of STD...even though they sleep around a lot. And, most importantly, they never consider other people's feelings in the matters...as in there are a bunch of cheaters. So I guess that's where the parental form of thought comes from...soooooo many teenagers do not make informed, thought-out decisions that it labels the rest of us as not doing so as well.

I know many teens who do have the maturity to experience love and take part in sex (I know many people who have loved, in fact). Unfortunately, while I know many who have truly loved, I do not know any who have maturely had sex. Now, some of my friends may be keeping that information to themselves...but I know that most of them are virgins. So could it to be said that those mature enough to engage in sex most often don't? I think so...

I actually have had sex...which may come as a surprise to those of you who remember my early days preaching abstinence until marriage on all these Health boards. Okay, I didn't preach it...we all know I don't do that...but I did strongly suggest it and I had several reasons for it. However, with my current beau, I couldn't come up with reasons not to...I already knew I was going to marry him (although to this day he hasn't proposed...it's coming this Christmas, I think) so why wait? I loved him then and still do now so why wait? We'd pretty much done everything else there was to do so why wait? At the time, we'd already been together for a year and 3 months so why wait any longer? I was already sixteen and would be turning seventeen within the next few months so why wait? I couldn't come up with any reasons and he wanted to and I wanted to so...we did. The only other requirement aside from protection that I had was that I really really really didn't want my first time to be the typical awkward backseat of the car deal. So, he managed to work out so that his parents wouldn't be home and we would have a lovely first time (for both of us! And he was 19! How cool is that?) in his bed.

The other thing that made me sooooooooo convinced was that I had originally decided to do it when he was home from boot camp on our 2 year anniversary...and we almost did. But I told him I didn't want to at the last minute because I wasn't ready. And he accepted it. He was fine with it. Didn't make me feel guilty at all. So when I felt ready three months later, I knew it was for real because it was so much different the way I felt that time.

The biggest justification I have? I don't regret it and, even if we break up, I never will. In fact, we did break up a couple of months after we did that...but it was for completely other reasons and it was only for a month. We got back together and have been stronger than ever. And that whole month he was so worried that I would be upset that I'd done that with him...and I really wasn't. I knew I'd made the right decision. And I still do.

The only downside of teenage sex...I get scared. I'm not on the Pill though I expect I will be before my bf comes home again in December (I told my mom a week or so after we did it...yes, I was very scared but while she wasn't happy she accepted it because she knew she couldn't change it...and that she had a very mature daughter), and so every time we have sex I always have this extremely paranoid fear that my period won't come. We always always always use a condom but you've all heard the horror stories, right? They break, they get worn sitting in a wallet, sometimes there are tiny holes that sperm fit through, etc. Yeah...so I get scared. And I absolutely hate that feeling more than anything in the world. I've told him about it before and he assures me that nothing will happen and even if it does then he will be there to support me. But I'll just be happier once I am on the Pill.

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This is not your average high school relationship

Hey! That's my line!

Ok, I've been drunk out of my mind for the last 8 days, and drinking turns me into a total jerk. But that is no excuse for my behavior. I apologize. I'm stupid. You're right, I'm wrong.

Okay, I admit, I went a little overboard. But it's no worse than some stuff I've seen here. I was trying to make a point and start a discussion, and I failed. Sue me.

Now, EG: when I said I had no intention of sharing my private life, I meant that I didn't relish the idea of posting my embarrassing habits on the Internet. In other words, the embarrassing aspects of my private life are going to stay private. However, I am not in the least embarrassed by this. And why should I be? This is my decision, and I am most definitely not the first person to discuss this on YN. It is, after all, a rather important topic in teenage life.

That leads me into another thing: so what if this is the 12932373875th time this has been discussed? First you complain about people creating new threads about old topics and point out how said topic has been discussed to death already. But you neglect to say when. Oh sure, sex was discussed so many times back in 2003. I'm sure everyone who was around back in 2003 is sick and tired of hearing it. But not everyone on YN signed up three years ago, did they now? If some newbie dared to revive a teen sex thread even three months old in hopes of discussing it more, you'd be first on the scene to crucify them for reviving a dead thread.

Look, I admit I made a mistake in talking a bit too much about myself. I'm sorry. But I did it with the intention of starting a discussion. I asked people what they thought about teenage sex. As far as I can tell, there are no new or recent discussions about this. Or if there are, they're about different subtopics within teen sex, such as how early one should have sex, or if it's wrong to perform sex acts involving two hamsters, a potato, and a block of cheese.

Now, since it's obvious nothing good will come out of this failed discussion, will someone please lock this thread? Or delete it? That might be better.

Don't give him any attention. I'm sure that's all he wanted.

Clpo, I do think it kinda crosses the line to say the exact date you're loosing.

Other than that, well, my obvious advice is protect yourself and never ever, after having sex, let horniness come in the way, because it'll kill your love and you'll end up using her...