I'm sixteen and apparently I am wallpaper. I can comfortably slide into sixteen jeans and not have my sides spilling out over them and yet I am considered obese for being at 5'4" and 190 pounds. I do not look obese, just with a little extra stuff on my belly, which I by second-nature suck in and make my stomach look flat. I don't find myself ugly, nor do my friends. However, I have only dated two guys in my entire sixteen years. The complete time I've spent in both relationships is one week. I didn't like either guy, but dated them to keep my friends from nagging me. I am not bi, or a lesbian. However, no guy will come near me. I don't have a second head or a hairlip or any outward deformity, but something about me just turns guys in the other direction. I have only really liked thre guys, two of which turned me down, the other moved away. I am the only virgin left in my group of friends and feel very unloved and undesired. My friends tell me to go out and be nice and a guy will fall into my lap, but how am I supposed to flirt and be provocative when I've never felt pretty/desired/attractive and I've never been flirted with? None of the guys in my school want to have anything to do with me, other than the ones who just want sex and even now they avoid me because I refuse to have sex until I find someone worthwhile. What am I supposed to do? I feel unworthy of love and affection from guys and seriously question my worth.

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Most high school relationships are shallow and end badly anyway, your not missing out on anything.

Most teenage relationships last only 6months at the most and end badly.
My point is why care what other people think, it is hard at first, but if you are friends with the right people they will not care either.

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Like you said DarkSnowWhite, guys who just want sex avoid you so maybe you just haven't met a guy who's really looking for a real relationship yet.[/QUOTE]

Yes, and that's the annoying part! It seems like all guys attend secret meetings at night and tell eachother things. "Don't talk to her, she won't give you any!" And I am certaint here are nice guys at my school, but none of them have decided to step forward or even attempt to be nice to me. And the guy that seriously liked, he didn't feel the same, but he is always AROUND. It's like reliving the same rejection over and over again every time I see him.

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I find that hard to believe, Sphinx.

LOL, thanks YV. It must just be my personality then :P
Honestly, I think guys can also just pick up on your intentions. Like you said DarkSnowWhite, guys who just want sex avoid you so maybe you just haven't met a guy who's really looking for a real relationship yet.

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Most high school relationships are shallow and end badly anyway, you're not really missing out on anything.

I agree on this part. I really wish some of my high school relationships hadn't happened...

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All of my friends get asked out and I never do.

I find that hard to believe, Sphinx. I've seen pictures of you and you are a very beautiful girl. I mean, really, you are. Men must be blind these days...

I know exaclty what you mean. I'm not even interested in dating right now, but it would just be nice to know that someone notices me, lol. All of my friends get asked out and I never do. But whatever, that's just the way it goes. Maybe one day everything will be reversed and you'll be the one fighting the guys off. Either way, you have friends. Don't worry about boyfriends, that'll come when it's supposed to. Most high school relationships are shallow and end badly anyway, you're not really missing out on anything.

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I am the only virgin left in my group of friends and feel very unloved and undesired.

Please don't have a relationship for that reason. That's just asking for an unhealthy relationship.

Honestly, stop worrying about guys. If your friends are unsupportive of you, and of you being single, get new friends. And the best thing to do, before anything else, is work on making yourself happy with you. That's the best thing to do.

Don't worry about guys. Work on yourself, and when it's meant to be, it'll happen.