so...depression..the word that i know anyone who is near my age is has heard about but that no adult seems to want to talk to us about until its too late...for me its scary and frigtening...its the last thing i wanted and the first thing i got as i grew up...its kinda hard to avoid when you've got this image of how you should look becuase of society and when you know you have no hope of ever looking like that even if you starve yourself...i've been awkward since i knew what puberty was and ive always been the laughing stock of peoples cruel jokes...my self esteem is like nil and i get skeptical of people who say they care about me...so..is depression something that needs to be talked about more??? heck yeah!!! and should people in the media be less selfish and stop worrying about how THEY look and more about how they make other people feel about themselves???? heck yeah!!! i'm not saying media is 100% to blame for depression but its a BIG part

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hey i m a teen vegetarian and i have had depression for the last two years. i can't take it n e more. yes i have tried scuicide, and it just makes me hate my self even more. i have a mom, and a step dad, that think too highly of them selves, and are alcoholists. it is really hard 4 all of us. but we will ,make it, if we stick 2 gether. and i have been getting a lot of help. if u have a teacher u like a lot, and are confidnt with ask, if u can talk with htem. i have a teacher, who is a vegetarian, and we have so much in common. one day she saw a scar on my wrist. she looked at me all serious and i began to cry. shy grabbed and hugged me. she aked me to stay after school to talk to her. i was devastated. i thought 4 sure that she was going to tell on me, but is has been 2 quarters and she hasn't said a word. since my mom is an alcoholic, i kind of think as this teacher as my mom. but also my best friend. i still stay after school to talk with her today.

I believe that most depression is temporary, because as teenagers we're so emotional and high-strung that it's easy for us to feel what we feel in a very extreme way (like sensory overload). We're all in the process of finding ourselves and putting ourselves together, figuring out who we are, and that can cause so many conflicting emotions. Depression being one of them. I really don't think that the depression we all feel most of the time is anything more than our growing pains. It's growing increasingly hard to be a teenager, because society is moving faster and changing and pushing us to grow up already, when I know I don't want to just yet. It's solvable, and often not worth the agony we put ourselves through.

For those who can get serious cases of clinical depression, that's an entirely different story. Since I can't say what CLINICAL depression is like, all I know is that it's probably entirely different and not a thing like what we think it is.

That does not make any sense.

you know what i hate the most? my freind...she PRETENDs to be depressed.i cant handle it. i confided in her that i tried to kill myself and i need help and...she does that.
it doesnt bother me coz last week she said she was rapred, before that she said she lost her virginity to a 40ur old guy and b4 that she said her mum was a lesbian and assulted her.
Its bullcrap.
The thing is, i cut and overdose and i do awful things to myself...and she doesnt care.
You need freinds to get through it

I guess it sucks then that I was recently diagnosed. I'm living fine right now-I just keep my mind off of the things that make me upset by getting involved with other stuff. Of course, one thinks this is a temporary solution, and I agree. Oh well. Only time can tell.

Truth- Uh depression doesnt go away . Ever.

Only thing you can do is learn to deal with it . It may take time but you'll see that YOU dont have to be other people's pre-concieved ideas . Or put it this way , you dont have to be them to be cool .And most important is to find a balance with everything . Dont get obsessed with how you look or what people think of you or what your supposed to be .
The media part of it will never go away . Even if you stop watchin , others wont . And this brainwash thing of who you should be is allover , billbaords , ads on trains and buses , friends , malls ....... It is a big part and its one more thing you have to deal with .

I do not pay a shred of attention to the media, except by accident. I suggest to turn off that TV, stop listening to plop music, and just generally do not take society's expectations seriously. The media cannot thrive if people aren't paying attention to it. You will be freed from that huge vector of the media's propaganda.

I've long battled with depression for the larger chunk of my life. I, too, have been subjected to the tyrannical whim of my idiotic peers as well as my drill-seargant mother, for pretty much all my life (post kindergarten).

Very recently in my lifetime, I realized that sitting around and being sad about the state of things will do no good; it actually reinforces itself. So, I've decided to do something about it.

Here are some general suggestions; ideas I have found extremely useful:

- Emotional self-reliance is key. People will not always be there for you. Nobody will always be on your side.

- Put yourself into good physical health, if you are not already. Eat wisely, and if you are a couch potato, go out for a walk, ride a bike, hike in the wilderness (if available.). But don't spend your life entirely as a couch potato! Your ability to handle emotional stress will be better beyond comparison.

- Look into meditation. Keeping yourself calm will enable you to think more clearly about a dire situation.

- Turn your ego around. What They (the media, classmates, "authority figures," etc) think about you does not matter, period. If they cannot accept you as a whole, they are not worth wasting time with. Draw strength from within; the more you free yourself from the need of validation from others, the better off you'll be.

- People in your life treat you like shit, right? Then demonstrate a better example of a human being. Instead of dwelling on their negative, build on your positive. Uphold it, and show that it works better. It will help to destroy them.

- Learn how to be extremely frugal. If you're really brave, learn how to thrive in the wilderness. This may not seem directly related to depression at first glance, but the less you are dependent on money and infrastructure, the less you will be subjected to the expectations of others, which is a source for much of the depression I see in people.

Hey I know what you mean. I get depressed a lot to and the older I'm getting the more the depressed I get.
A lot of times I don't know why I'm getting depressed all I know is that I try not to and it is kind of hard sometimes.
I know what you mean about the media and how they think that we should look.
The girls should be a size 2 at the most, be as pretty as JLO and have breast the size of who knows.
The guys should be really built, tall and look like Dean Cain.
But the media can't tell us what we are or aren't going to look like or be.
When I do start to get depressed I try to pray and think of how beautiful the day is, even if it's cloudy or rainy whatever it may be.
Getting depressed is a chance for Santan to come in and make you start to question God and we can't question God or not trust and Believe in God.
All I can say is pray to God and ask him to help you out.
I hope that I've been of some help I pray that I have and I'll be praying for you.