Hey everyone!!! See my whole entire family goes to church and they're Christians. Well, theirs me, I hardly ever go to church because I just am not as happy about church anymore! Well, I really don't know what to do. I told my Mom about me ''cutting'' and I've done that for the past 2 years because my dad left on Christmas Day and other stuff which I'm stupid for doing that to myself and I regret getting in that trouble. Also, I recently posted a discussion about cutting on here on Saturday or something like that. And my Mom really wants me to get counseling. I don't want counseling!! But who does? :{ Anyway, like should I go to church even when I don't want to? Because I know it hurts my Mom knowing that I don't want anything to do with God but yet I do. Which should I change ME???? Because I'm trying to stop doing the stuff I'm doing like hanging out with the wrong crowd that parties all the time and drinks and smokes? I seriously don't want to end up stupid when I get older!!! But should I go to church this week and talk to some staff leaders??? I'm so confused right now. Also, is it like wrong of me not believing in my family's religion not as much as they do?? Please somebody help me!!!! I need some!!!!!!!



Nicki14

Counseling might feel stupid at first but it will help. I would feel more comfortable with a girl counselor just because I find that I get more pissed at guys i.e. my piano teacher. I used to have a girl but now I have this old guy and sometimes I'm totally snippy in my lessons like when my bf and I are having problems because I'm thinking, "It's your sex's fault." iono maybe its just me.

I do not think that is is wrong for you to not believe in your faith as much as your family dose. I am Cathlic and go to a Cathlic school and i dont believe in half the stuff that my faith says. But your faith is always there for you even if you dont belive in it as much as others.
As for the counseling I think it is a good idea. I am going through depression at the moment and seeking halp. But my Advice to you is you family will be there for you through thick and thin. they only want to help. Also I advise you to talk to someone who main focus is your main trouble.
I hope everythinkg works out for you.

you elimintaed my intelligent thread for this repeated one... sigh

hey everyone with problems read the book "Go Ask Alice" it will change your life!!!!

Okay, I will keep your email address, k? Talk to ya later. Thankx.

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hey nicki14... Glad i could help! I just feel so good now knowing i have given a good advice to someone... And oh, its a good thing that you will try your best to do whats good... and oh if you still want to ask me, just email me... artwork_40@yahoo.com

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hey nicki14... Glad i could help! I just feel so good now knowing i have given a good advice to someone... And oh, its a good thing that you will try your best to do whats good... and oh if you still want to ask me, just email me... artwork_40@yahoo.com

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It's perfectly fine for you to believe something different than the rest of your family. You're the only person who can decide what you believe, and that's how it's supposed to be.

If you really don't want to see a professional, it might be good to talk to one of the leaders at church though. No matter what, you need to talk to someone about what you're feeling.

Jamaica17, thanks so much for your help!! I really appreciate it. I do know that I will do my hardest to try and change because I do know people do care but sometimes when I do get down and stuff I feel like no-one cares. But me boyfriend has really shown me the life isn't perfect. And I really don't know what I would do without him and exspecially this awesome website!!!!

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Nicki14, my best advice is: why dont you pour out your problems to your staff leaders or your friends... Just make sure you tell it to the Right friends... (what i mean, friends who give you good influence, not the bad) coz they certainly will listen to your problem... And oh, im so so happy that you have decided to stop the things you have been doing like habging out with the wrong crowd and go to parties and stuff... YOu just dont know how happy you have made me feel coz whew... at last, i have found someone here in YN, who is willing to change to be good and to stop doing the things that are wrong and could lead you into a bad life... Really, im so so happy, if i was there, i would give you a big hug, knowing that there are people out there who are willing to do what is right and change themselves for the better.... You dont know howmany times i have given advices to people out here in Yn and yet they make fun of me coz they think im such an annoying "goody-goody" who interferes with their lives when in fact im just helping out make teens make a difference. I am glad you poured out your problem... I hope you will not cut again... coz Nicki, you're too young to be doing that! And people, young or old should not cut coz its wrong... Nobody has the right to take their own lives away except God..
It is ok to be confused and i just hope that you'll read my advice and go to church, its ok if you dont really go there every Sunday as long as in your heart, you belive in God and that your family's feelings are important too so you should go to them and tell them your problem. That way, they could help you.... My gosh, to think you are younger than me and like, you already are into cutting.... So, um, please just read my advice or you can email me if you dont like it or whatever comment you may have.

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Nicki14, my best advice is: why dont you pour out your problems to your staff leaders or your friends... Just make sure you tell it to the Right friends... (what i mean, friends who give you good influence, not the bad) coz they certainly will listen to your problem... And oh, im so so happy that you have decided to stop the things you have been doing like habging out with the wrong crowd and go to parties and stuff... YOu just dont know how happy you have made me feel coz whew... at last, i have found someone here in YN, who is willing to change to be good and to stop doing the things that are wrong and could lead you into a bad life... Really, im so so happy, if i was there, i would give you a big hug, knowing that there are people out there who are willing to do what is right and change themselves for the better.... You dont know howmany times i have given advices to people out here in Yn and yet they make fun of me coz they think im such an annoying "goody-goody" who interferes with their lives when in fact im just helping out make teens make a difference. I am glad you poured out your problem... I hope you will not cut again... coz Nicki, you're too young to be doing that! And people, young or old should not cut coz its wrong... Nobody has the right to take their own lives away except God..
It is ok to be confused and i just hope that you'll read my advice and go to church, its ok if you dont really go there every Sunday as long as in your heart, you belive in God and that your family's feelings are important too so you should go to them and tell them your problem. That way, they could help you.... My gosh, to think you are younger than me and like, you already are into cutting.... So, um, please just read my advice or you can email me if you dont like it or whatever comment you may have.

I just wondered why more and more teens are so into cutting.. I mean, whats up with that?? I certainly have sad moments, depressing moments and stuff in my life but how come most teens are into cutting? To me, thats really ugh, i dont know the right word really... but if i were to describe cutting... its like seeing yourself shedding blood and the fearthat sweeps up inside you, only you realize its you who is cutting yourself... Please, being with God, knowing God and letting him inside your heart and soul will NEVER EVER confuse you. He is God. When you have accepted Him into your Life, you will never get confused. Instead, if you have God in You, you will feel profoundly at peace with who you are and the life you lead.
My advice to you is: Stop all this crap about cutting. Your life is too short for you to dwell on suicide attempts or try to give your parents a heart attack. Instead, go to church and renew your relationship in God. In him, you will certainly find answers and i guarantee that if you turn to God, you will know what is the right path for you.
And oh, for those who believe in God, who already embraced Him, i just want to ask you a question: If you already know God and accept him, why are you still "cutting"? Didnt you ever know that its only God who can take away our lives? Not ourselves??? If someone dies, either by accident, by violence or terrorism, its God's will, not our own. In cases of terrorism, God sometimes uses evil people to destroy so that people may realize that they have to stop the wrong things they have been doing and go out and renew themselves by building a stronger relationship with God through HIS ways...(doing good things and by being kind)
Before, i used to get confused sometimes by God's word but the more i pray and the more i surround myself with good people and the more i do things that i know God will be pleased, the more I am sure that my worries fades away, replacing it with happiness. I know that we have our bad times too but if you have God in your life, the bad moments in your life are just temporary coz you now know that you have strength inside you.

huh. not quite sure how ta tell ya this, but become a christian. that might help. an' i hate ta say this but counselin' might be a option. an' stop cuttin'

Well It was really hard telling her because she trust me and she doesn't think that I'd do that. But not everyones perfect and that's what I've told her. Almost every single teenager probably have done something really stupid!! Like me. lol. kidding!

Nicki14

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Hey, At least you have the courage to tell your mom about cutting, me on the other hand...I just cover it up with fishnet and loads of bracelets...GO YOU!

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Hey, At least you have the courage to tell your mom about cutting, me on the other hand...I just cover it up with fishnet and loads of bracelets...GO YOU!

Yeah, you guys are sooooooooo right!!! Maybe I could just talk to a friend about my problems!! I wouldn't wanna talk to myself! ha. j/k. Yeah don't call them professional.....I don't know but I'd feel more comfortable to talking to a NON-professional than a professional. They just find certain reasons to make you look really bad. It sucks. lol.

I don't share my families love of church either, they got over it. I used to cut myself, the threatened to send me to counseling than flaked out. I "tried to kill myself" (I really didn't, my parents thought so) so they put me in a behavioral center which didn't do much of anything for me. Eventually my parents got over themselves and I do what I want now. They used to worry about me hanging out with the "wrong crowd" but I told them they should trust my judgement. Just because these people smoke and drink and party doesn't make them bad people. In no way am I like parents, religiously, politically, etc. But we've found a happy median. I'm sure some day you and your mom will do the same.

hmmm...well, i'm not to into my "faith" as my family. i guess thats just how it is. THAT MEANS YOU'LL GO TO HELL! haha, jus playin. its up to you. do wat you want. and if you dont want to see "professional" help (i'd hardly call them perfessional...) then just talk to a friend or something or if you dont have friends, talk to yourself. just kidding. if you want to stop, stop.