Question:
I am a 15 year old girl with a 6 month old baby boy. I struggle so much to make my baby happy. I found out I was pregent when I was 6 months going on 7. I couldnt believe it. Then the baby father just kept on saying it not his baby. They said I was 4 months so I decided to get a abortion. My mom said I wont be able to take care of a baby. So I agree. When I went they told me that I am 24 weeks. I was shock. I couldnt go throught with it because it was already devolpe so I decided to get a adoption,but as days gone by I got atacts to my baby and I decided not to get a adoption. Now I turn 15 in November and Im sruggling trying to take care of a 6 month old baby. I have no job, Im still not in school, and I cant get any rest. My son father havent done anything for the baby. Now he said it his and he has seen the baby but has done nothing to help and that gets me so angry. I try to get food stamps but I dont have time and they said I have to go ther at 7:30 which is too early. I try to get child support but there just no time. I really want to go to school but I have no babysitter to watch him but my mom cant afford it. I really want a job but im too young. I try to get a home job to like mail envoples and stuff but I have to pay and there is no money to pay for that. Plus I dont no which is real and which is a fake. I also want to be a sercet shopper but I need a credit card and my mom doesnt have money to pay them 15 dollars. I always have to sleep over my father over the weekend becaus when he drop me off he always give me money. He always has money but he is so cheap that he only gives me 40 dollars and that is not enough. I always have to depend on my family to buy pampers,and clothes for the baby or to give me money but I dont want that I want to take my responabilty on my own and be able to buy the things I need to get for my baby.If you have any idea please tell me. I hope you could give me some advice or something because I dont know what to do.

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First of all, if you have friends have them watch your baby one night. Get up early enough and go get food stamps your baby needs them. Also you need to apply for welfare. You and your mom should qualify. You need it you can always get off it when you get back on your feet. Also if you want to go to school you can go. Get on the internet and research for schools that have daycares that will watch your baby in the same building. Also you should research for orginizations that can help you they are out there.

Alright you jerks - Firstly, if something on the post strikes you as "suspicious," take two things into account: a) Even if it were a fake post, what would that matter? There are other people out there in that situation, and b) you didn't have to post something if you were so troubled by it.

Sessy105 - Do a little research online, and try to find agencies that will help you raise your child, find a job, etc. Even if you're not religious, look at religious charities, because they normally help people no matter their faith. I know Catholic Charities is very supportive of teen mothers who find themselves in that difficult situation.

There is no point in me saying something rude like "well, thats what you get for having sex when you were 13 or 14 or whatever. tough for you." (calcoastsurfer), because you've obviously realized what a mistake you made. But you are living with it as best you can. I have no right to look down on you, and I certainly don't have the right to try to make you feel like I am better than you. Everyone makes mistakes in life - some more serious than others - and it's everyone's responsibility to deal with them, and accept the consequences.

Here are some sites you might want to look at. Some offer words of support, others offer aid.

Teen Mom's Speak Out
Catholic Charities
Teen Moms

I wish you the best of luck, but you have a hard road ahead, and you'll need more than luck. I wish on you all the courage and strength you'll need to walk down this path. Stand tall, and hold your head up high.

Maybe you shouldn't have had sex at 14...?

How was I being cynical Heath? I was only skeptical of the post's validity. Are you implying that everything posted on the internet is true and there are no liars on these threads?

What's your ****ing problem confettikiss06? You need to stop being so cynical.

Yes, I agree with DrStrangeLove on this, too. But, assuming this is a serious plea, I recommend getting some help... That seems obvious to a lot of people, I'm sure (including myself), but sometimes people need to say obvious things to get another's mind working. Think about your situation as objectively as you can. Set up a plan for yourself to a GED (that's the equivalent of a high school diploma) so you'll have a chance at decent work and for heaven's sake... when/if you have sex again, use protection.

Good luck.

7:30 isn't too early you lazy ***. I know people who get up at 4:30 in the morning just to study for tests and stuff. If you can't take responsibility of your child, it's nobody's fault but yours. Besides, I think this thread is a load of b.u.l.l.s.h.i.t. sounds made up to me.

Look for a Problem Pregnancy near you. They help mothers with newborns...good luck.

-rito

If you need child support and food stamps badly enough, make time. If you are too lazy to wake up at 7.30, then you only have yourself to blame.

well, thats what you get for having sex when you were 13 or 14 or whatever. tough for you, now you have to deal with the truth. i hope that a lot of people read this topic and think about it the next time they think about having unportected sex.

Aside from herr doktor's statement which I mirror, those are all faketastic jobs. You will not be able to do much enjoyable or 'easy work with your education level and lack of a babysitter. Have your family raise the kid and continue your schooling or better yet get a GED. And don't bs about 'no time'.

Something about this post strikes me as suspicious.