Hey to all you out there how many of you think that having sex before marriage is wrong? IF you dont then how long do you think people should wait untill they start.

As long as you're not trying to make your opinion our opinion, we tend to be all right with it.

Don't worry, it wasn't directed to you

yes i am one but i didnt mean to afend no one and i just wanted to know your opinions and thank you for them.

You're probably a virgin. Most virgins brag about things they don't even live through, they just know about thanks to porn. That, or you're very poorly-endowed. Either one.

Once you have sex, you realize it isn't that big of a deal. Virgins who are no-sex till-marriage thinks marriage makes it somehow wonderful. It doesn't. At best, sex will hurt the first time like a bitch if you're a girl, and for guys, you'll likely come too fast to have even a slight amount of dignity.

Sex is overrated in both extremes of porn and right-wing Christians saying "no sex till marriage!". Look, sex isn't even half the time as great as porn puts it, and it's actually usually so meaningless that there is no point in waiting till marriage.

This all depends, of course, on how much emotional meaning you put to it.

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Originally posted by bluedemocrat:
I love how you are viewing girls as objects for you to "fuck" as you eloquently put it.

They give head too...Head is also good.

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I am not saying you cant love without marriage. Of course you can fall in love before marriage. I believe if you love somebody with all your heart and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with eachother that you should get married.

What if marriage isn't an option? Take me and my girlfriend, for instance. We'll be starting college this fall, and marriage in college is not the best idea. I'd like to think I'll spend the rest of my life with her, but it's a little too early to think about that. But it is love, and that's the only justification I need to have sex.

Of course, I really don't care what people do. I'm not here to convince you to think one way or another. If you want to be like revan and have sex with anyone who gets within five feet of you, or if you want to wait until marriage, that's fine by me. I've got my own plan, and that's what I'm sticking to.

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You don't have to date a girl to fuck her.

Yeah. You generally don't date hookers. Call me old-fashioned...

I love how you are viewing girls as objects for you to "fuck" as you eloquently put it.

I always thought sex before marrige was the right thing.
Like, waiting until marrige till you have sex.

Now im not so sure. Follow your heart.. Unless is breaks the law.

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So...you can't have love without marriage? That's bullshit if I've ever heard it.

I am not saying you cant love without marriage. Of course you can fall in love before marriage. I believe if you love somebody with all your heart and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with eachother that you should get married.

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You have already given a part of yourself away to ppl you dont care for anymore.

I mean ppl you dont love. That you know you wont be with again.

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You "no sex until marriage" people are still holding to the rather antiquated idea that marriage somehow makes it better.

Maybe it is antique but that is what we believe. I believe in waiting for that one special person. Instead of spreading myself around to every guy I have feelings for that wont last.

You don't have to date a girl to fuck her.

Hey, I've only dated two girls, and the first was a prude. Give me a break.

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Originally posted by clpo13:
I've never been with a girl.

That explains a lot.

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I think that that part of you should be saved for the person you love with all your heart.

So...you can't have love without marriage? That's bullshit if I've ever heard it.

I've never been with a girl. Not yet, at least. But I love the girl I'm dating more than anything. And lest you all think I'm just saying that, let me tell you that if this isn't love, I don't know what is. I would die for my girlfriend. We've discussed sex, and we both decided that we're going to wait until we've graduated from high school (we're both seniors) because until then, we're technically still kids (thus immature, so some such) and under the control of our parents, who obviously don't want us to have sex.

I'm not the kind of guy to attempt to get sex from every girl I date. Sex is more than just a bit of fun. It means something to me. Marriage is just an institution, a way to be "legal," if you will. Love does not need marriage. And all sex requires (for me at least) is love. I love my girlfriend and she loves me, therefore we're both willing to take our relationship to the next level and lose our virginity to each other, sans marriage. We're both mature enough to know what we're doing.

Now, because I'm a mean-hearted and spiteful person...

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It's a whole lot better to wait until you are married then have to tell your so to be husband how many men you've been with before him and he has to tell you how many woman he has been with before you.

This may come as a surprise, but not many people are bothered by learning their spouse isn't a virgin. Real life can be such a bitch, eh?

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Besides at least you'll know who to father/mother of your children are instead of saying well I believe ray ray or or it might be james is the father. It might be kay kay or april might be the mother.

Let me introduce you to my friend birth control...

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You have already given a part of yourself away to ppl you dont care for anymore.

One, there's plenty enough sperm and egg to go around. Two, what if you do care for them? Heck, I care for my old girlfriend, and we've been over each other for more than a year. Plus, you're essentially saying that it's not possible for two people to have sex and then get married. It happens.

You "no sex until marriage" people are still holding to the rather antiquated idea that marriage somehow makes it better. It doesn't. Sex before marriage is the same as sex during marriage. I say, as long as you love the person you're with, it's all right. That is, after all, why they call it "making love."

I mean there's nothing to do before marriage, other than sex. Well, there is drugs and alcohol, but whenever I do those, I end up having sex, so it's all relative.

What do you mean what else is there to do before marriage?

Fuck no, what else is there to do before marriage (if you're getting married)?

I think you should wait till you get married. I think that that part of you should be saved for the person you love with all your heart. That one special person that you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with. I mean why break your heart hundreds of times and spread yourself around. By the time you get to your husband/wife. You have already given a part of yourself away to ppl you dont care for anymore.

I believe that you should wait until you are married.

It's a whole lot better to wait until you are married then have to tell your so to be husband how many men you've been with before him and he has to tell you how many woman he has been with before you.

Besides at least you'll know who to father/mother of your children are instead of saying well I believe ray ray or or it might be james is the father. It might be kay kay or april might be the mother.

It's a matter of faith. I personally think it's fine, go ahead and do it if you think it's a safe situation and you're not going to get hurt.

Some people wouldn't agree due to religion, but none go without sin. If you do it and then decide that it was a mistake, it's not like you're kicked out of heaven.

Isa 1:18
"...though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool."


As for age, whenever you're mentally able to handle it. I figure for most that's probably a good 16 years or older. Hopefully later, but you know, to each their own.