Well n e wayz i am 16 and a virgin. My boyfriend wants to **** and i do to. I am just nervous. I also want to get pregnant but people say i am to young to even think about gettin pregnant. Wuit do u guys think?

A virgin with the noisename "nookie".
Now, that's just plain funny.

I think we can stop giving advice now..considering the person hasn't logged in since June.

I think you should really wait until you are married to get pregnant.
My sister was 17 and not married when she had her 1st child. We were all really mad at her for doing that, but we didn't make her feel unwanted.
Now we are stuck with her 3 children and she's still not married.
If you go ahead and have children then you want have really anytime for yourself.
Don't mess your life up right now.

You may think I'm stupid and don't know what I'm talking about, but you'll regret it later.
Your boyfriend can say all day long that he's gonna help you and all, that is what my sister's boyfriend did and now he doesn't want to really have anything to do with his son. He even saids that the child is not his.
Even though my sister had a DNA test done and my nephew looks like hime too. If you seen a picture of them together you'd say the same.

So unless you are married or about to get married don't do that. Trust me

oh wow. You want to be a mother? thats really awesome I respect you for that... but just wait. YOu have your whole life. Think about it... you are still a kid yourself. Grow up a little first before getting pregnant.

I agree that 16 is way to early to have a baby wait til after college and then have on but as for the sex, my little sister asked me about a boy the other day for the same reason, they both wanted to have sex, she's 12 and he's 13, I'm not the normal girl i don't think becuase i lose my virginity at 11 to a boy 15. Yes i still know him and we still get along. Other than pregnancy which is a concern so she do it?

HOW OLD ARE YOU? I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD WAIT UNTIL THEY ARE AT LEAST 16 YRS. OLD. IM 15 AND IM WAITING TIL MY 17TH BIRTHDAY(IN JULY) AND SEVEN MONTHS BEFORE MY EIGHTEENTH BDAY IM GONNA WORK MY *** OFF TO GET PREGNANT. SO PERSONALLY AS LONG AS UR AT LEAST 16, GO AHEAD AND DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO.

Well let's say this...

What are you planning on doing in the future? Think about it. If you have a child, College will be too difficult for you (ie. Staying up late trying to finish homework, baby crying for food or attention), people may turn away from you.

Can you afford the child? What kind of jobs can you do? You don't want to end up homeless with a child.

Is your boyfriend truly loyal? What has he done in his past?

If you have sex before marriage, don't be disappointed if he falls out of love with you after you do it and leaves you. After all, you chose to have sex with him. (thats just a scenario)

Plan ahead. After High School, I'm sure you don't want to have to live with your parents. Think: Can you afford a place (house, condo, apartment, etc.), pay the bills, buy toiletries, and afford to pay for the baby, too? The child will eventually have to go to school, and school is very costly (clothes, supplies, field trips, etc.). Are you mentally ready for a child? Do reasearch on it. Ask real teen moms what they felt when they had a child, did they think they were ready before they had it? Were they really not?

Think ahead. Plan. Even talk to your parents for support. People 18 and under are considered minors. How old is your boyfriend? If he's older than 18, he can be charged with rape (you're a minor).

Does he really love you? Are you ready? Have you talked everything over with your boyfriend (what will he do if you have a baby, will he support it, etc.)? Does he have any STD's (or you)? Is he ready to be a father?

Think. Plan. Be ready for ANYTHING that comes your way.

i agree w/ ur post SexyIrishGirl well written

I think you should just do what your heart tells you to. Yeah I do think 16 is a little young to be trying to have a family but if you do just make sure you can support your cjild and your self. Just ask your self: am I financialy fit to have a baby and am I emotianally and physically fit to have a baby.
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Seriously, you need to think rationally about this. Getting pregnant at 16 means your life is put on hold for the next 18 yrs, which means you'll be in your mid-30s by then.

Also, your social life will go down the drain. While your friends are all out partying, going to college, travelling the world etc, You'll be stuck at home minding a screaming baby. Do you really want that?

If you really want a child, try hold off for a few years, get thru your exams, and get a job so you will be able to support the child financially.

Bringing a child into a world where you can't provide for them, and when you are still a child yourself is just selfish in my opinion.

very nice Euterpe. I couldnt have said it better myself.

Kids today. It's all sex sex sex. My advice is...do what you want, just be safe. Nobody can tell you not to have sex because that's entirely your decision. However, you ARE too young to even fathom having a child. So, if I was in your position, I would get some protection of my own. Condoms aren't entirely reliable. If you go to your doctor, he/she cannot, by law, tell your parents.

If you're nervous, just don't have sex. Any boyfriend who tries to guilt or manipulate you into it is not worth your time.

Hey i agree that you are coming here to look for advice. When i was 15 i was dreaming of having a baby to love and hug. I didn't really think of the finicial part. I am 16 years old now and i have a baby. It has been really hard to raise a child when you your self are still a child. It is very hard. I balance school,work and spending time with my baby girl

Hey girl, I really think you should talk to your friends and family members you can trust because they'll give you the right advice you need. **** luck

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just wanted to say I was in the same position as you...now I am 16 years old...at the time I was 12 too young...I had twin boys June 5,2002 it was extremely hard raising them...Ryan is three now and Jamie passed away 2 years ago b/cthe babysitter killed him for reasons unknown...I do admit he was not a mistake like many people asume I wake up at 5 am to feed him,dress him,get him all ready to go to preschool along with myself to go to school...I think about what he feeling about his brother ...I know it's hard for me and him I know whats it like to lose a twin I recentoly lost my sister...Its just very hard and if I couldve changed how hard it was for me at the time raising 2 babys I would I mean I was only 13

Didn't you say you were pregnant with twins? I just caught you in your own lie...

Wicca, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened to your son. That is really awful. I hope that the babysitter is doing jail time for that. I hope that you and your son are doing better now, but as you said it has to be hard on him. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I just wanted to say I was in the same position as you...now I am 16 years old...at the time I was 12 too young...I had twin boys June 5,2002 it was extremely hard raising them...Ryan is three now and Jamie passed away 2 years ago b/cthe babysitter killed him for reasons unknown...I do admit he was not a mistake like many people asume I wake up at 5 am to feed him,dress him,get him all ready to go to preschool along with myself to go to school...I think about what he feeling about his brother ...I know it's hard for me and him I know whats it like to lose a twin I recentoly lost my sister...Its just very hard and if I couldve changed how hard it was for me at the time raising 2 babys I would I mean I was only 13

might i first off start off by saying, your a youngin still! thats not a bad thing, i too am 16 (almost 17) but nonetheless YOUNG! sex is your choice, there is no right age, its based of a true feeling! however getting pregnat...thats something you need to wait for. i want children, oh how i do. i also want to be a young mother but when your that young, dont have an "adult" job and are not married, i think you need to wait. you need to know that you are able to support your family, your child will have the same mom and dad right from birth....think about it!

If you dont know how to prevent pregnacy you shouldnt be having sex.