Question:
one of my friends isnt the most prettiest girl in the school, well lets face it, she aint pretty, or as good looking as the other girls at school.everyone makes fun of her, teases her all the time. she calls me sometimes crying saying, what have i done to deserve this. if u where in her situation, what would you do?

Choices:
get help from a counsler
take all the emmbarassment
hide
stand up to the people who cause this pain

 

Well, hello Plato..

tell them to grow up and remember kids looks fade but true friendships stand the test of time.

well, crying wouldn't solve the problem. what she needs to do right now is stand up for herself. if i were her, i would say" what did i do to u guys?i didn't offend u or anything. so y picking on me? yeah, i'm not pretty, so what? you're not pretty yourself. if you're pretty, u'd be on singing around the world. how come u aren't? face it, you're not pretty, so stop picking on me.at least i'm nice.unlike someone who's always picking on other ppl. grow up"

Well, verifying your stance on her appearance wouldn't be very comforting to her, heh.

she should just try to show what an awesome personality she has. hopefully people will start to see how cool she is (and i'm sure she is, cause if she isn't she deserves to be miserable) and realize how meaningless her looks are. it is possible to make people see past that.

there's one girl in my posse who in my opinion isn't quite as lovely as the rest, and i was thinking about it the other day and the reason we hang with her is because she is so awesome, we choose friends on personality more than anything (it's just a coinsidence that i think most of my friends are exceptionally pretty, maybe it's mother syndrome haha)

I was picked on a lot for my looks, especially in middle school. I dealt with it by crying at first, but it only got me office referrals for creating "class disturbances" and being "uncontrollable." Never mind that the other idiots were the causes of my disturbances, and the problem should have been rooted out there.

Anyway, I started becoming stronger---I found my life's passion and calling in middle school, and so I threw myself into that wholeheartedly. Once people started hearing of me as the "choral musician" and the "composer" and the "poet," they started to back off about me, because they had started to realize I was going to be important one of these ol' days, and they didn't want to be on a celebrity's bad side. (I'm joking about the celebrity part.)

I didn't really respond to the guidance office and its counselors very well at my school, but if there's a really nice counselor at your school, you might try advising your friend to go there and seek some advice. Sometimes the best healing comes from within, however, and if one shows that one is strong and doesn't give a rat's @ss about other people's dumb beauty opinions, then they might just stop their junk. Hey, it worked for me! Just tell her to find something she loves, do it, and do it well. And if some people are stupid enough to still disrespect her----tell them to screw off.

Peace,

Birdy

Well im what is commonly know as "a fat girl" but i have only been teased on occasion, and i didnt really pay attention to those people cuz i knew thay had their own problems. Anyway, i think the reason i never really got teased is because i give people a reason to have respect for me by always being really nice and helpful no matter what. Also, i have always addressed the issue up front by just being open about it and making jokes about it

tell this girl that she knows that she isn't pretty she might already know but tell her to talk to people about it, It is the best thing and when she gets to the top of the line tell them all to kiss her A*S

thanks for asking ;-)

TATORS

Time and time again, remember you are only in school for a short time and then what will it matter if someone called you a goat or a dig dug after you graduated? It wont because you moved on. Im rubber your glue is what I attribute this to as well. Dont worry about it just dont give them the time of day if they ever need help or want to talk leave them behind and find someone who likes you for you, not your looks.

from my experience...the best way against teasing is to tease yourself with them,at the same time say the words mean more than i say
dont take it too serious anyways.
once at a school conert,a girl happened to sit beside me,and she talked to me about my friends on stage (she didnt know they were my friends),like who was pretty and who was not,i guess if she was sitting beside someone else she'd probably say the same thing about me and other people."yeah i know she's not that pretty,but it's interesting how you two look alike,"i replied...she shut up at once