Ok. Well, everyone, or at least most know how it feels to ask someone out. For me my first time was horrifying, because I was always the one that got asked out, I had never asked anyone out before. i am a traditionalist, but anyway, It was so hard...how was your experience and what would you say is the perfect way to ask someone out without making an ass of yourself???

I would love you forever

want me to edit it for you?

I meant "I have always DONE the asking..." in my previous post.

Sorry about the double post. I wasn't going to say anything but it was driving me crazy.

I've always don't the asking and I have a theory that it has cursed my relationships. So for now I am just going to sit back and relax

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they may like a guy alot but expect him to aske her out.

Not true. Five times I've been asked out by a girl (starting back in seventh grade). I know of only two girls who were crushing on me and expected me to ask them.

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Originally posted by ampmaster:
I've always though it to be really cool (is slightly awkward) when the girl asks the guy out

The problem with girls is that they may like a guy alot but expect him to aske her out. And when it never happens she gets pissed like its supposed to happen on the dot. Girls here is my advice if you like a guy ask him out!

I've always though it to be really cool (is slightly awkward) when the girl asks the guy out

I've never asked anyone out. I've always been the one asked out. In a way, I like it, in others I don't.

Pros: Never having to worry about actually asking, etc.

Cons: May not be asked by someone you actually like

i have never thought to ask people out because i always the guy had to ask the gurl out because i thought that was desprite. but now i now i think i will try it.

I had been friends with the few I have dated...and well lets just say they didn't go so well.

Worse to be friends first? Ha! Oh, the talk of those who haven't experienced it.

If someone doesn't want to risk friendship for love, they're not worth dating anyways. And if you're good enough friends, it should work out anyways. You're already friends. It's not like you're suddenly going to discover that the other person really likes cheese, and you hate that.

Everyone I've ever dated has been a friend. And it has always worked out. Awkward? Not a chance.

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I actually think it's worse to be friends first.

Actually its worse if they're straight.

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all that strategem has ever got me was an f-bomb (aka the "let's just be friends/ don't want to ruin our friendship" talk)

I hate that. I actually think it's worse to be friends first. i mean, you can meet, but you can't become close or talk too much because then it's too awkward to change the dynamic.

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Originally posted by LoveTheRainbow:
I, like my straight counterparts, I admire confidence. However there is a difference between being cocky and being confident. I personally would only date the latter.

Then you'd never date the Han Solo-type (Mua) or in your case the Leia-type...I dont know I'm confused.

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Originally posted by ampmaster:

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Basically, you become their friend for a good long time.
And then you eventually get really close to them

all that strategem has ever got me was an f-bomb (aka the "let's just be friends/ don't want to ruin our friendship" talk)

Yeah.
Mine wasn't actually a plan.
It was more, it just worked out that way.
But it worked.

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Basically, you become their friend for a good long time.
And then you eventually get really close to them

all that strategem has ever got me was an f-bomb (aka the "let's just be friends/ don't want to ruin our friendship" talk)

I, like my straight counterparts, I admire confidence. However there is a difference between being cocky and being confident. I personally would only date the latter.

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Originally posted by LoveTheRainbow:

DON"T BE COCKY

That makes you sound like a jerk then therefore not a good canidate to be dating.

Proven fact: Women admire confidence (Straight women at least LTR your a lesbo so i guess its different.) If you are cocky she will at least be glad you arent like the other 499 guys that hit on her and expect to be turned down. My golden rule expect her to respond but if she dosent forget her there are MILLIONS of good-looking women another tip girls who want attention are almost a sure thing.

Do it the smart way.
The seige.
Basically, you become their friend for a good long time.
And then you eventually get really close to them.
And then one day, you have the consversation:
"Hey, do you want to go out?"
"Sure"

And boom. You're in. Easy as pie.
But it takes time.
So plan up many women in advance.
Keep a spreadsheet if you have to.

Start with columns with dates of when you met them.
And then a column of a scale on one to five, how close you are. One being that if you are within five feet, they'll kill you, and five being you're in their pants, you'll die happy.

Or.
You could just act like yourself.
Clean yourself up a bit.
And don't be "Laying around the couch normal", but "Around people normal".
But act like yourself, swallow the pill, and do it. Just ask them to something trivial.

But that's for pansies.