Im friends with this girl who recently told me she was thinking of giving a head job to the guy (their both 14 and going into their freshman year in high school, as am I) who she isn't really 'going out' with but they both like each other , they just aren't showing it in public...she says that it isn't a form of sex, that she trusts the guy when he says he's a virgin, and when I tried to talk her out of it she said that their was nothing wrong with expressing your love for someone and told me that I'd understand when I got a little older. (I'm was BIT of a 'prude' but am now growing out of it.) I guess its ok and it IS her choice...and I'd much reather her do something like that in middle school than in high school where the guy might NOT be a virgin...anyways, any ideas on what to do?

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I tried to talk her out of it she said that their was nothing wrong with expressing your love for someone and told me that I'd understand when I got a little older.

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Woooooooo sge say she loves this dude thats not right she isn't even going out with him.

I hope she gets herpes.

I hope she is getting an even exchange, if she is "GET IT GIRL!" If not, she has a lot to learn, try to convince her to get him to go down on her with having to give him a blow-job, now that takes skill!!!

I guess as long as it's protected and she trusts him and she WANTS to do it, it seem perfectly ok with me.

much luv

~*FOXY*~

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I find oral sex extrememely degrading to women.

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… If you don't like it, don't do it. Guys can give oral sex as well as receive it, so from my perspective it doesn't seem especially unequal or degrading. I suppose all forms of sex can be degrading if you don't FEEL respected.

Bex

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I'm just going to put my opinion out there, take it or leave it, but I find oral sex extrememely degrading to women.

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does that mean guys going down on girls is just as bad?

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no u can't have sex with someone who isn't really a boyfriend let alone a person, who is 14

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As a matter of fact, you can!

I'm just going to put my opinion out there, take it or leave it, but I find oral sex extrememely degrading to women.

Ive had sex with girls who werent my girlfriend... and theyve had sex with me... sex buddies own!

you only live once as far as I know, so I'm going to make the most of it.

no u can't have sex with someone who isn't really a boyfriend let alone a person, who is 14

yeah, she decided not to give him a blow job, went to summer camp, met another guy and forgot all about the first guy. **shrugs** alls well that ends well.

Yes, it is. Besides that once you're in the 9th, 10th, 11th, etc. grade that doesn't mean you won't get HERPES, AIDS, and other STDS. I don't think anyone wants to give it to someone with a condom on... Mmmm doesn't that taste good. NOT!

I'm 23 and I wouldn't do it unless I was in a very monogamous relationship, and yes, I'm am the girl that'll say, "You need to get a blood test before I even kiss you cause I don't know what you do and where the hell your mouth and other... body parts have been." If they don't want to do that then too bad for them. I would much rather be healthy than make someone else *****/happy. lol I like me wayyy too much.

"Annnyways....8th grade is much too young to be having oral sex."

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the kids at my school use head job and blow job interchageably so sorry, my bad

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Get them to stop before they mature and I have to work with them.

DrStrangeLove, (Love that movie, lol) sorry for using the wrong terms...the kids at my school use head job and blow job interchageably so sorry, my bad

You need to somehow get her infected with oral herpes. That'll set her straight and teach her not to go giving friends random head.

And for the record, it is a BLOW job. Not a "head" job. I don't need any more randomly screwed up sexual terms floating around because people don't know what they're talking about.

Nice.



Annnyways....8th grade is much too young to be having oral sex.

She better swallow.

hey, im in high school. trust me, she shouldn't just do it now. if she's doing this and only in middle school, it'll be MUCH MUCH worse in high school. she'll have a bad reputation and guys will think she's a ***** and then try and get something from her. you guys are WAY too young(i know it sounds corny) but just keep talking to her. she doesn't need to do that to prove her "love". come on. seniors in high school don't know love. it's something you don't have to prove. if she LIKES(not loves) this guy and he does too, then she shouldn't have to prove her "love" or whatever to him. it WILL be worse for her in high school.