"Tom" (I won't use actual name,just in case he looks at this...) and I have been friends in high school for awhile. During junior year, I liked him a little bit, but when he started to like me too, he acted a bit odd. I'm still not sure if he's nervous around me, but he mumbles a lot. When he asked me to prom, I rejected him, because I started to like him on a friends basis; I didn't want to lead him on.

Now I'm a sophomore in college. During this summer, my new friends and I have been hanging out with Tom, and I'm starting to like Tom again. The other day I was thinking about him for almost the whole night! But when I woke up, these thoughts vanished, and I once again thought of him as a good friend.

So I don't know how I feel about him anymore. I'm a little attracted to him, and he has a great personality, but I fear that he'll start acting weird again if we ever dated. Also,I feel that if I wanted to date him, I'd have to do the asking because I rejected him first...So the power is probably in my hands...
ANY SUGGESTIONS?!!??

I think that maybe your dreams are trying to tell you something. I mean if you think about it do you only like him as a friend? Or do you think that maybe deep down inside you really do like him and are afraid to admit it because you've been friends with him for so long? I think what you need to do is make sure you're being real with yourself and how you feel before you can make any decisions about what to do about him.

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... jsut stay friends 4 right now and later if he acts like he likes u ask him if he wants to go on a casual date w/ u then if he accecpts and everything goes real smooth ask him out or sometin. Hope i helped.