Around here (South Cali), the atmosphere seems that older guys make a game out of taking the virginity away from girls....why is that? Why is it so important to take something so precious from someone? Even if the girl gives consent, the guy should respect the fact that virginity is important to some people. I am committed whole heartedly to staying abstinent until marriage. I even wear an abstinence ring. What do you think about this "game"?
Game"? Sex is not a "game". Sex is the most sacred institution known to man. However, since the '60s, it has completely lost its meaning. However, this doesn't mean I'm just going to sit back and go where the crowd takes me. I don't want to deal with all the problems sexual intercourse entails. There's always the minute possibility of conception, and I'm in no way ready to be a dad. Heck, I don't know if I'll ever be ready for that.
I've argued with myself many a time over what I'd do if a girl offered to have sex with me. WOuld I accept and therefore go against all that I believe about it? Or would I say no like I do when offered a cigarette? Personally, I lean more towards the latter. In my opinion, leave it until marriage.
Oh My gosh!!! I love you clpo!!! That is the spirit!!! I am SO happy that you think this way. And yes, it is better to stay away from it till marriage. I am so proud of you for taking this stand!. Keep it up!
"Game"? Sex is not a "game". Sex is the most sacred institution known to man. However, since the '60s, it has completely lost its meaning. However, this doesn't mean I'm just going to sit back and go where the crowd takes me. I don't want to deal with all the problems sexual intercourse entails. There's always the minute possibility of conception, and I'm in no way ready to be a dad. Heck, I don't know if I'll ever be ready for that.
I've argued with myself many a time over what I'd do if a girl offered to have sex with me. WOuld I accept and therefore go against all that I believe about it? Or would I say no like I do when offered a cigarette? Personally, I lean more towards the latter. In my opinion, leave it until marriage.
Honestly if you consent to haveing sex and you're a virgin you CHOOSE to los your virginity. With who and when are your decision. So it's not all a guys fault. If you get played thn maybe you should hav looked into what kind of person the guy was before you went out and ****ed him....? Becuase virginity is a big deal to some and not as big a deal to others. Don't critize those on the other side of the fence.
This is totally not the point. To solve a problem you can't just place blame elsewhere. Yah, maybe it is stupid that some girls are falling for this, but what kind of problems does a guy have to have to think that taking girls virginity is some kind of game.
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I think guys not only in south cali do the same things. They say its a better experience or it feels better becuz once a girl is not a virgin shes too "open". I do agree with u princess, why play this silly game to take something so precious. Technically im not a virgin anymore bu i still consider myself one, i only did it with one guy. unfortunately i fell for ones of those games. I too wear a abstinence ring becuz i believe now i should save myself for marriage. The game is ridiculous to alot of girls virginity and sex is really big deal for some guys its a pleasure. for us girls its a moment where we show love and were showin u that love becuz we're showin u our bodies & i think we can all say that women are very self concious of what they look like so to show a guy ur body u must really like/love him. buh bye
*Shrugs* I'm still a virgin by choice. I really don't want to take anybody's virginity. If I find somebody I love, then I won't have to worry about it because I will be spending my entire life with them. Heh, I doubt that will ever happen anyway.
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Honestly if you consent to haveing sex and you're a virgin you CHOOSE to los your virginity. With who and when are your decision. So it's not all a guys fault. If you get played thn maybe you should hav looked into what kind of person the guy was before you went out and ****ed him....? Becuase virginity is a big deal to some and not as big a deal to others. Don't critize those on the other side of the fence.
"love is like playing the piano. First you must play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart"
I think the guys that do that didn't get enough mommy time in their child hoods, so they're passivly angry at their moms, so they take it out on women, makling it a game to get attention, another thing they didn't get when they were little. Oh..btw...it's sick.
We all make our own choices, and if someone chooses to lose their virginity, that's not really anyone's business. People make this huge deal about it, and I think that it is rediculous. If guys are going to tell girls that they are virgins and the girls believe them and go have sex with them, well then that is partly the girl's fault for putting their trust into someone who they probably shouldn't have. Yes, it is wrong of the guy to lie to her, but the choice was hers to believe him. I have a friend who falls for this all the time, and no matter how many times I or any of our other friends tell her that she shouldn't be hanging out with guys she can't trust, she makes her own choices. We don't have to agree.
Originally posted by innocentprincess: Around here (South Cali), the atmosphere seems that older guys make a game out of taking the virginity away from girls....why is that? Why is it so important to take something so precious from someone? Even if the girl gives consent, the guy should respect the fact that virginity is important to some people. I am committed whole heartedly to staying abstinent until marriage. I even wear an abstinence ring. What do you think about this "game"?
does not being a virgin: change who you are change how you look no and no it really dosent matter why do you people get so worked up over it?(dont us my age against me thats a cheap way out)
quote: it is BETTER to be conservative than be liberated. Liberated people are like people who just run around with no principles at all, and even if they have, they dont stick to it. They easily get influenced too.... well, im just saying anyway.......
oh wow I thought that was sarcasm...but it's not...wow weird.
um jam also said she was right...about what? Everything? no way! wow i found someone who can tell me exactly what to do and what mode of thinking is right (and that WAS sarcasm)
anyways, if you actually think about in terms of "liberated" and not just liberal, it has a certain irony with the liberation of Iraq by the conservatives...ok that made no sense, but it did in my head...oh well
and that "game" is sick, personally, I plan to be abstinent, but I'm not going to condemn someone if they think sex is the right choice for them, i think its wrong when people sleep with lots of people
"Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity." Horace Mann
i agree what you are saying. i don't get why they would want to take someones virginty. which i'm gonna wait until marriage. its not that hard, not to me. some ppl are just careless. they just want some *****. *******s.
quote:Originally posted by innocentprincess: Around here (South Cali), the atmosphere seems that older guys make a game out of taking the virginity away from girls....why is that? Why is it so important to take something so precious from someone? Even if the girl gives consent, the guy should respect the fact that virginity is important to some people. I am committed whole heartedly to staying abstinent until marriage. I even wear an abstinence ring. What do you think about this "game"?
I agree with iwanna... you sound like an idiot. How can I agree with an idiot?
In case no one has noticed, sex is all for pleasure nowadays. It isn't necessarily a single person's fault that it is now more socially acceptable to have sex.
I think that to a lot of guys that the whole sex thing in general isn't taken seriously enough. I will admit that not all guys are like this, the majority of them are, but all they think about is getting laid. Sex isn't something that they cherish. When girls get into a relationship with a guy and it gets serious and the two people start having sex, the majority of the time the girls are going to take the relationship and the sex more seriously than the guy.
I have not yet reached my goal, and I am not perfect. But Christ has taken hold of me. So I keep on running and struggling to take hold of the prize. My friends, I don't feel that I have already arrived. But I forget what is behind, and I struggle for wha
Yeah, i do agree with staying a virgin until marriage. I mean whats the big deal about popping your cherry anyways? And you know if the guy that your marrying really does love you, if they're waiting until marriage to have sex. Guys need to relize that being a virgin to a girl is a very important thing to us, we don't just wanna go and have sex all the time, thats not how girls are....
quote:those either planning on staying abstinent until marriage, and those who are slimy horn-dogs with no self-control that we need to keep our daughters away from.
I personally have not witnessed "the game" outside of movies and TV shows, but that is probably in large part due to the crowd I hang out with. I'm sure this kind of thing does exist, though, and stories of date rape are getting all too common.
Obviously, this kind of behavior is dispicable for a myriad of reasons, but my pet peeve regarding it is that it allows society to more comfortably fit all guys into two categories: those either planning on staying abstinent until marriage, and those who are slimy horn-dogs with no self-control that we need to keep our daughters away from. Neither one of those label describes me, and I have a feeling I'm part of an increasingly forgotten majority.
And then, as the books were told, Fina replied: "A can of worms, my dear friend? What has this to do with reason?"
quote:You can tell them, doesn't mean they'll follow you. That's something you'll learn eventually and then realize I am right but likely won't admit it.
yeah, you are right. But also, this is the time when you'll realize I am right too and you'll never admit that because you're so stubborn to listen to ANYTHING good. You follow others who do bad, yet when i promote something that is for the common good, you reject it.
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I am SO happy that you think this way. And yes, it is better to stay away from it till marriage. I am so proud of you for taking this stand!. Keep it up! 
