I know this may sound dumb, and I know some of you hate advice posts, but please try to help me. I do not want to screw my life, and possibly losing my one true love up by making the wrong decision.

Last February I moved to this small town. We started going to this church, and I met this guy, who, I thought was way to good for me. A few weeks later I start to like him. I couldn't wait for the next time to see him. We were kind of friends. He was really mean sometimes(pushing me, and picking me up and swinging me around, saying mean stuff. Then in the summer, dunking me in the water, or holding me down under water(not for a long time though)) Everyone said he was just flirting. I liked him more and more. My friend transfered to his school, and she told me that he said he liked me too. I was overjoyed. But then his "flirting" went overboard, and I despised him so much. Well, life went on, and I liked him off and on, but always liking him a little bit.
8 months later I am in the dislike stage with him, and although I like other guys I get these thoughts and feelings. Some of the thoughts include:"Why would you like _____? You are marrying "Bob"" or "I can't wait until we are married" or "Don't bother with him, you will love and marry "Bob" someday.". I have no idea why I am having these thoughts. They are so...blunt. They come uninvited. I have never dated "bob", and we have definately NOT talked about marriage(We are both only 15!). I have been told by many people that they think we will get married. When I see him I cannot help but feel happy and relieved no matter how much I dislike him at the time. I also tell myself that he will grow up someday, and you will love him more than ever. No, it is not me telling myself that. It is something else. I would never think such a thing. I don't know what to do. Should I tell him of these feelings? Should I let him know that I like him and nothing else? Is this love? Why do I have these thoughts? Are they true?

Please tell me what you think. Thank You!

Thanks for the help. I think I will just wait it out. Maybe someday he will grow up. And there is one guy that I like besides him...

P.S. I will check out the mental institution .

aww, but Alone, what if she were a really hot chick?

Hold on there, Calamity Jane… Why the panic? It's not like you have to decide right now whether to propose to "Bob", get married and have lots of babies…

I gather what helps in these situations is to say 'if it's meant to happen it'll happen' and feel free to date other people if "Bob" isn't in any rush. It's not like you owe it to him to wait around. Or you could ask him out, if that's what you want (sounds like you need to decide whether you love him or hate him).

As for the voices telling you things, they're an indication of schizophrenia and you should check yourself into the nearest mental institution right away.

(Psst, that was sarcasm… you have a crush. It's normal. These confusions will resolve themselves in time).

Bex

You know how you were saying you liked him even more and more when people told you he was flirting with you?

That reminded me of how I used to be so desperate, that I would fall in love with any guy who acknowledged my presence.

But...my appologies, I don't have any advice, really. If I think of some I'll get back to you.

-Nicole

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What if he had herpes?

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lol..then I guess, I would be kissing noone.

What if he had herpes?

HA! I think I would rather kiss the ugliest man on Earth, than a chick.

Thanks for the help!

go kiss a girl. i think you need it.