Alright so, what is the correct response or reaction to have when someone makes a racist, homophobic or sexist slur ?

I'm not one to completely blow up in someone's face but at the same time I feel like I should if I want to make a difference.

Do you think it's better to stay calm and tell them you're views, or do you think it's better to full out preach?

I'm asking this because of something that happened in my class today. It was english and this girl, Jenny* was talking about when she wanted to get marry, and how she wanted to have 4 boys. Everyone was listening, and then she said, "Yeah, but if my boys are gay I'm putting them up for adoption."

And I paused, totally taken aback by this, and I said, "Are you serious?.."
And everyone else was just sort of laughing, and she nodded and laughed, and replied, "Yeah I'm totally homophobic."

I really didn't know what to do, I sort of made a face and said, "Oh. Well you should accept your kids for whoever they end up being, because you love them. I would support my kid fully if he was gay."

And then she just sort of turned away.


Was this okay? Afterwards I felt like I hadn't said enough at all.


(* name is changed.)


Anyways, discuss:

A polite or a strong response?

Does age matter when reacting?

How far would you go?

If you tell them you don't like it, this is what they'll do: stop saying it to your face. Where you think you've made the situation better, you've actually made it worse. What I would do, though I'm not really suggesting this, is get to know the person. Figure out their reasons behind what they say. If you try to skim off the symptoms, they're going to keep coming back. Look for the source.

lmao ^^ By all means, come stalk me. I just know some people in my school go on here and I wouldn't want them to see it haha.

well she won't any way I personally am a telemarketer, you'll be hearing about our products shortly

as to your question be polite and don't step on toes, if people have racist/homophobic/blah opions leave them to them it's their choice to hold those views and not your place to inform them on the wrongness of those views

on a funnier note a guy I know's rant on homophobia:

Homophobia:
I have always resented that term. Honestly- fear of gay people!? They're gay. Picture a gay person in your mind, just for a moment, jumping out of the bushes in their fuchsia exercise short shorts, slapping their hands to their cheeks and shouting

"Oh God What Are You Wearing!"

Well that's just terrifying, isn't it?

Seriously. I resent the very idea that any man with half a testicle could possibly be scared of gay guys. You'd have to be a complete and total spineless ninny to be scared of gay people. You'd have to scream in abject terror every time you saw a Pomeranian look at you funny, much less a Daschound. And that incredible level of unmanly wussiness could only mean one thing: that you are gay. Thus homophobia is impossible, because only a gay person could possibly be scared of gay people. Honestly, when you admit that this

*image of flamer gay guy*

strikes terror into your heart, you're admitting that you get your ass kicked by your bunny slippers every morning. You're admitting that you live under the iron heel of the five year old girl down the street and her tricycle gang. You are admitting that you are not a man.

That covers the flamers, but what about the "normal" gay people? You know, the ones that act like, you know, rational humans, and you'd never know they're gay unless they told you? Why the hell would you be scared of them? Their gayness doesn't manifest.

"Hey, guys, I never told you but I'm GAY!"

"So... that means you're going to do a trick, then?"

The only way I can possibly fathom someone fearing normal gay people is if they fear their anonymity. Since they act normal, unlike those dipshit flamers they despise, anybody could be gay. Then, when you least expect it, they could come up from behind and plunder your anus!!!

Except, it's kind of hard- no, nearly impossible- for any normal person to do that, because it's kind of hard to get somebody's pants off and poke it in their pooper with the lightning-fast speed that is necessary for it to be a "surprise" attack. There's really only one way for this operation to be feasible, and thus it must be what the homophobes fear:

GAY NINJA BUTTSECKSS ATTACK!!!

Its the only logical explanation: any theoretical homophobe would have to be someone who sees gay ninjas around every corner and in every hedge. Forgive me, but I harbor serious doubts as pertains to the existence of any significant number of people in our society who live with the fear of sudden anal assassination.

Thus, homophobia does not exist

-Demetrious, megatokyo forums

Don't preach. It'll piss people off.

What you said was fine, and honestly, I have a feeling she may change her mind when she actually HAS kids. Besides, most people don't come out as being gay until the teen years at the earliest, so by the time she finds out, it's highly likely she'll already be attached and not put them up for adoption. Either that, or they'll file for emancipation.

P.S. You really don't need to tell us if a name is changed or even use a name. We aren't going to track you down, come to your school, find your class and ask for ___________. I promise.